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How to Get Your Baby to Sleep Without Being Held
Wondering how to get your newborn to fall asleep on their own? Get real-life tips on how to get your baby to sleep without being held.
My baby couldn’t sleep at all without being held.
It didn’t matter how deeply he seemed to be asleep in my arms, or how long I waited until I thought it was safe to put him down. Nor did it matter how or even where I put him down. He would wake up the minute he wasn’t held, look around, and fuss to get picked up once again.
And so, I ended up getting stuck with a sleeping baby in my arms, immobile for the duration of his sleep. I knew newborn babies liked to be held, but this much? I wished I could put him down, if not for nap time, then at least for the first stretch of sleep at night.
Because nothing is worse than when your newborn won’t sleep in the crib and only in your arms.
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How to get your baby to sleep without being held
Don’t worry, friend—nearly every mom can relate to this struggle.
Maybe your baby insists on being held all the time, leaving your arms tired from the weight. You have to nurse or rock him to sleep, only for him to wake up immediately when you put him down. It doesn’t help that you’re home alone with other kids who need you as well.
Now, we all know the newborn stage isn’t going to be perfect. But, if you’re like me, you’re desperate to see if there’s something you can at least try and do differently to make the situation easier.
But like many first-time moms, I had no clue what I was doing. I spent many sleep-deprived nights researching and reading what worked and didn’t work for other moms, hoping I could find my answers.
I tried several strategies, some that failed miserably, and others that actually worked. My son was still too young for sleep training, much less sleep through the night, but these strategies were helping him sleep longer stretches.
Most importantly, I had my arms back, in some form or another.
So, what do you do when your newborn won’t sleep anywhere but your arms? Take a look at these strategies, and hopefully they can work for you as well:
1. Don’t keep your baby awake too long
I figured babies simply sleep when they’re tired, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. In fact, the times when I kept my baby awake for far too long were some of the most challenging times. Being overtired meant he had a difficult time falling asleep.
I later learned that babies can’t stay awake for too long. That once the window is up, then you really need to do whatever it takes to get them to sleep and reset their bodies.
One of the best ways to make sure your baby isn’t awake too long is to pay attention to his baby tired signs. For instance, any more than three yawns are cues that he’s overtired, so put him to sleep once he yawns.
The other way to ensure he’s not overtired is to simply watch the clock.
Note when he woke up, and don’t let him be awake after a certain time period.
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2. Put your baby down drowsy but awake
We’re all creatures of habits and rituals, getting used to what we’ve always done or experienced. If your baby has always fallen asleep in your arms, then it’s no wonder he cries when he sleeps any other way.
The first place to start breaking those habits and sleep associations is by putting him down drowsy but awake. That way, he’ll get to experience falling asleep away from your arms, in the sleep environment he’ll eventually wake up.
After all, few of us can fall asleep in one place, get moved to another, and not wake up in the process. The same is true for your baby.
He’ll also learn that you don’t have to hold him to fall asleep. Again, he’s gotten so used to one way of falling asleep—in your arms—that any other way feels strange. By consistently putting him down drowsy but awake, he learns that it’s okay to fall asleep that way, too.
Sure, hold him in your arms, but once he starts looking drowsy, set him down where you want him to sleep so he can experience the transition for himself.
Learn what to do when your baby won’t nap unless held.
3. Let your baby sleep in a snug place
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Babies find comfort in snug places, having spent so much time in the womb. While the crib is the ideal place to set your baby down, many parents have found more luck in other, snugger places. These offer the secure feeling of being “cupped” and held, just like in your arms.
Here are a few ideas:
- Infant bouncer
- Infant cushion
- Baby wrap
- Sleep suit
- Swaddle
4. Keep the crib mattress warm
To go from your warm, cozy arms to a cold, hard crib can be a difficult transition for your baby.
To make the bed just as inviting, you can try placing a heating pad or a warm water bottle on the crib a few minutes before you plan to set him down. Of course, make sure to check that the bed isn’t too hot. Another option is to turn up the temperature in the room before you set him down so that it’s not too cold.
By keeping his crib warm, easing him out of your arms can still feel cozy.
Learn how to get your baby to nap in the crib instead of your arms.
5. Stroke your baby’s face
Worried that your baby will startle and throw a fit the minute you put him down awake?
Try this simple trick to help him relax: After putting him down awake, stroke his cheek and forehead until his eyes close. Maybe you caress his eyebrows or run your finger from the bridge of his nose to the top of his head. Gently stroke his cheeks, moving from nose to ear.
These simple touches can be all it takes to keep him in a drowsy state until he eventually falls asleep. Sure, he still needs your help to sleep, but at least you’re not holding him the whole time.
6. Keep your hands on your baby after putting him down
One of the sensations of being held is that contact with your body, the warmth on her chest as it presses against yours. But after you put her down, this warmth goes away, leaving her exposed.
To mimic that feeling, try a little trick to make that transition easier:
Put her down just as she’s about to sleep, but keep your cradling arm wrapped around her body and your other hand on her chest.
If you can, you might even want to lightly keep your chest touching hers, as if you’re still hugging and holding her lying down.
Then, as she drifts off to sleep, slowly remove and slide your cradling arm from underneath while still keeping your other hand on her tummy. And finally, remove the other hand so she can sleep alone.
Learn 5 things you can do when your newborn wants to be held all night.
7. Use a pacifier if your baby fusses
As you set your baby down drowsy, you might notice fussiness. If he takes to a pacifier, this would be a good time to put one in his mouth to encourage sucking. Don’t wait until he’s crying hysterically—instead, insert the pacifier if you see him starting to squirm or get upset.
Then, keep your hand on him so he still feels you as you hold the pacifier in his mouth. This will remind him that you’re still there, while encouraging him to suck on the pacifier and fall asleep.
After you’ve left, keep the pacifier in his mouth.
But if you notice him squirming once more (or you think he’s about to wake up), use the pacifier again:
- If the pacifier fell out, re-insert it into his mouth.
- If the pacifier is still in his mouth, give it a gentle “tug.” This will encourage him to suck harder and hopefully keep sleeping.
8. Use white noise or music
Keeping the room completely silent will only invite sudden noises to startle your baby awake. Instead, use white noise to muffle those sounds. Not only will they block those sounds, they’ll also remind him of the constant hum he heard when he was in your womb.
You might use an app or buy a white noise machine. Maybe you download and loop a static music file on your phone, or simply turn on a regular fan or heater. The white noise will add a constant hum to encourage continuous sleep after you put him down.
Some parents have also found success with teaching their babies to tie soothing music to sleeping.
Play music while you nurse at night so he associates it with comfort and drowsiness.
Then, keep the music on as you put him down and let him sleep. Hopefully, he’ll stay asleep with the music still playing nearby.
Bonus tip: Add darkening curtains to his room to keep the room really dark.
9. Let your baby lie down awake
I mistakenly assumed that the minute my baby’s eyes flew wide open after putting him down, that I’d have to scoop him back up and re-do our bedtime routine. Only later with my twins did I realize that those were opportunities for him to fall asleep on his own.
Don’t feel compelled to pick your baby back up if he goes from sleepy to awake when you put him down. He just might be able to put himself to sleep, especially if you give him a chance to. And given that he’s not crying, you have even less reason to get him out of the crib or bassinet.
Instead, let him lie down, even if he’s awake. He might fuss a little, at which point you can try a pacifier or simply let him try to soothe himself. He just might surprise you—as my twins did—by falling asleep on his own.
Speaking of which…
When can babies fall asleep on their own?
Your pediatrician is your best resource to know exactly when your baby can fall asleep on his own. But in general, babies in the newborn stage—the fourth trimester, as they say—still need help falling asleep.
That said, you can still set good sleep habits even now that encourage him to sleep independently. Make every first attempt an opportunity for him to fall asleep on his own (for instance, by putting him down drowsy but awake each time).
And if he cries hysterically? Then yes, scoop him up and try something else. Maybe this time you’ll put him in the swing, carry him in a wrap, or try an infant cushion. And if he truly isn’t having any of it, then hold him in your arms to help him sleep.
He might still need help falling asleep a lot of times, but at least you’re consistently giving him a chance to do it on his own, too.
Can you spoil a baby by holding him too much?
“Spoiling a baby” is relative.
After all, someone who enjoys holding her baby to sleep every time would certainly not object to doing so. In fact, she might even feel guilty for holding her baby, assuming she’s doing a bad job by doing it so often.
So no, you can’t “spoil” a baby by holding him too much.
Instead, the better question to ask is this: What expectations are you willing to set?
If you’re okay with holding your baby, then by all means, continue doing so. But if you feel an imbalance between his needs and those of yours, your family, your work, and your home, then something needs to change.
It can be as simple as putting him down more throughout the day—when he is awake—so he knows it’s also okay to be away from your arms. And of course, applying the tips you learned here to get him used to sleeping without being held.
Conclusion
So, how do you get your baby to fall asleep on his own? We’ve learned that a lot of it is trial and error, but that it’s totally possible to make your baby sleep on his own.
Make sure you’re not keeping him awake too long, and that you put him down drowsy but awake. Let him sleep in a snug place, or warm his bed before you place him in it. Stroke his face and keep your hands and arms around him as you set him down.
Use a pacifier if he starts to fuss or wakes up earlier than you’d want him to. White noise and music can help muffle startling sounds and soothe him to sleep. And finally, let him lie down even if he’s awake—you just might find him having fallen asleep soon after.
Hopefully you’ve found that you can get your baby to sleep without being held, after all.
Get more tips:
- How to Get an Overtired Newborn to Sleep
- Newborn Not Sleeping? 9 Tricks to Help Your Baby (Finally!) Sleep
- How to Burp a Sleeping Baby
- What to Do When Your Overtired Baby Keeps Waking Up
- How to Establish a Baby Nighttime Routine
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How to Get Baby to Sleep in Crib • Kids Activities Blog
How to get your baby to sleep in the crib was something that many of us have struggled with over the years.
If you have ever muttered the words through tired lips “My baby will only sleep in my arms “… you can breath a sigh of relief today. We have some time-tested baby sleep solutions that actually work.
Baby, why don’t you sleep?
Newborn Baby Won’t Sleep in Bassinet or Crib!
When your baby won’t fall asleep without you, it can be hard and then on top of that it might be in completely the wrong place!
I have been there, too, and it DOES stop.
Eventually, they do just fall asleep, without needing you right there to pat them, rock them, nurse them, feed them…
All four of mine are now falling asleep all by themselves and yours will, too.
Baby Only Sleeps When Held
It may start by accident. You nurse or bottle feed your baby, just to get a few extra minutes of sleep yourself, and then it becomes a habit.
You bring your baby into your bed so you can get the sleep that your body is craving and you both sleep well, so you do it again.
When you try to stop, your baby cries and cries.
What do you do now?
Take the advice from these real moms… who have been where you are right now.
How to Get Your Baby to Sleep without Being Held
The truth is that this happens more often than you might think. Even babies who are considered “good sleepers” have occasional off-days and nights where they only want to sleep in someone’s arms.
1. Continue Sleeping in Arms with a Twist
Remember that this is very normal and natural for your baby to want you. You may be in “survival” mode right not- trying to get sleep where you can.
“Just do what feels right to you, feed to sleep, cosleep, do what you can to get the most sleep and least crying… They are only babies for 365 days which will pass in the blink of an eye. Do what you can to enjoy it while it lasts” ~Rebecca
If you aren’t comfortable co-sleeping, remember that it only takes three days to break a habit.
Three days!
One thing that helped me was to put my baby down in the crib and then time how long he cried. I know this sounds nuts and a little cruel, but what I found was that it was always less than a minute. It seemed like an hour! But when I actually timed it, he cried for less than a minute and then would sleep longer and more soundly than if he was in my arms.
2. Prepare the Crib for Baby to Sleep
Try making the crib warm by placing an electric blanket on his sheets for 10-20 minutes BEFORE you put your baby into his crib. Remove the blanket right before bedtime (you never want to leave it in the crib). It will warm the sheets, which will make sleep come easier. (Think of it like this: you are a warm body, so if he is resting on you and moving to cold sheets, a drastic change in temperature can be startling)
Try putting a crib beside your bed and hold your hand in on your baby’s belly until he/she falls asleep.
Try a co-sleeping bed or crib (many stores sell these)
3.
Positioning Baby for Success
If you want your baby to sleep on his back, hold him on his back when you are snuggling him. It will make the transition easier to the crib or bassinet.
4. How to End Co-Sleeping
If you have been co-sleeping and need to make a change for some reason, here is Sherry’s story that is encouraging and real:
“I couldn’t even get out of bed to brush my teeth and he’d start moving & crying! At four months it was becoming challenging because he would wake up every 30 minutes all night and all day I also have a three-year-old and it was very hard to co-sleep and also get her to bed! My husband and I decided it was time to get him out of our bed at 4 1/2 months… a few rough nights of crying and going in to comfort him to show him that his crib is where he sleeps and he’s been doing wonderful!! He’s now almost six months old and sleeps 11 hours in his crib!!! You have to do what works for you and not worry about it!! I thoroughly enjoyed cosleeping but it was definitely our time to end it.
”~Sherry McQuay
”~Sherry McQuayTry placing the baby in their crib while you are awake, to avoid them temptation to co-sleep due to YOUR sleepiness. A good way to do this is by starting at nap time.
5. Baby Will Only Sleep in Swing
I had one of these kids too…that went through a phase where he only wanted to sleep in the swing as it was swinging. It was easier for me to let him fall asleep in the swing than endure the screaming as I took him out to his bed.
For awhile I justified that the swing would stop and he would stay asleep.
But sleeping in a swing is not a very good longterm solution! All I can think of is how I am going to need a larger and larger swing {Giggle}.
First, look at what is going on and if the problem of your child sleeping only in the swing is minor compared to other stressful things that might be happening, then giving it another day or two is fine.
I always said there is a season for everything.
Once you are ready to start weaning baby from sleeping in the swing, then start to distance falling asleep from the swing.
Place your baby in the swing until eyelids get heavy. Then start removing him earlier and earlier in that process to eliminate the association of sitting up and swinging with sleep.
It took less than a week to make the transition this way…so hang in there.
6. When Baby Will Only Sleep in the Car
Like the swing, some babies will only sleep in the car…and some only when it is moving! This is more common than you might think and it requires a similar, but more abrupt ending since driving your car every time your child needs sleep is certainly a short term solution!
Find other ways to mimic that motion whether it be pushing the stroller or placing the carseat in a wagon, etc. And then pre-empt the actual falling asleep with a move to the crib or bassinet.
This will work. It just will be a little noisy at first.
7. Try Swaddling If it is an Option
The AAP guidelines for swaddling is to stop swaddling at 2 months or when your baby starts to roll over intentionally.
This is a bit controversial since many moms have swaddled for up to 4-5 months as did I. The concern is that your baby would become entangled in the swaddling and not be able to move to breathe. So look at what is happening and what supervision you can give to make your decision.
Swaddling works because the baby feels safe and secure tucked in. Think of how a baby could feel like it is falling when placed on their back after being tightly secured in the womb for such a long time.
8. Start as You Mean to Go
I probably repeated those words a million times when my kids were little. Start as you mean to go. Start as you mean to go. Start as you mean to go.
I read this is a book that I loved (The Baby Whisperer) and it holds true for every situation. Don’t do something that you don’t intend to keep doing.
You are training your children one way or another.
It helped me see how what may seem small and inconsequential on any given day actually builds up over time in baby steps to the bigger picture.
9. Routine! Routine! Routine!
Put him down for naps and bed at the same time each day. You may need to wake them in the morning to try to keep this schedule.
Keep a structured routine, so his body becomes used to sleep at the same time.
10. Tips for Getting Baby to Sleep
Try making a “sh, sh, shhhh… sh, sh, shhhh…” sound as you keep your hand on his chest. This sound reminds them of being in the womb.
If he cries when you try to put him into his crib, pick him up until he is calm and then immediately place him into his crib again.
OMG. This too shall pass, my friend. I remember going through this with each of our four children. I remember it like it was yesterday, but it does get better and easier.
You are tired now, but you will get sleep again.
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What have you found works to get your baby to sleep in the crib? What tips do you have that we missed? Have you found ways to help your child sleep when they get older, like toddler, 1 year old, 18 month old, or even preschooler?
Why Some Babies Want to be Held While Sleeping
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If your newborn wants to be held all night, you need these tips and tricks
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Vin D’Eletto
Finding peace and quiet, or simply trying to take a shower, while caring for a newborn can be difficult. If your baby only sleeps when held, completing the smallest tasks can feel impossible. What can a parent do when their newborn wants to be held all night? Newborns love being held for many reasons.
Contents
- Why babies want to be held while sleeping
- Comfortable ways to hold babies while sleeping
- How and when to put your baby in their crib
- Tips for sleep training your baby
Learn more about why your baby wants to be held, the best way to hold your baby, and when to put them in their crib. Just because your newborn wants to be held all night, doesn’t mean you can’t get any sleep.
Why babies want to be held while sleeping
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The relationship between a parent and their baby is complex and beautiful. While cuddling, your baby can actually hear your heartbeat, and your presence is soothing. Babies also smell your scent when you hold them, making them feel safer.
When your baby is under four months old, they’re still getting used to life outside the womb. The new surroundings can be scary and unfamiliar. It’ll take time for them to become accustomed to this new environment, and when parents hold their babies, they feel warm and safe — just like in the womb.
However, when your baby falls asleep in your arms too often, it can become a habit that’s hard to break. Your baby might associate sleeping with being in your arms and will consequently have trouble sleeping anywhere else, like their own crib.
Comfortable ways to hold babies while sleeping
Holding a baby isn’t challenging, but sometimes it can be difficult to find an agreeable position while they’re sleeping.
Here’s a breakdown of a few positions that are often very comfortable for babies to sleep in.
Cradling
Cradling a baby may just be the most common position for holding your baby. It tends to be a natural holding position and is quite simple. Your baby’s head will gently rest in the crook of one arm while your other arm is wrapped around them, securing your baby while they sleep. Cradling makes rocking your little one to sleep easy.
On your shoulder
Another classic baby-holding position is on your shoulder. Let your baby lean their cheek against your shoulder while you support their bottom, as well as their back and neck. This position may make it easier to gently bounce your baby to sleep. Your baby will be able to hear your rhythmic breathing and heartbeat, too, so it’s a relaxing and comforting sleeping position for them.
In a sling
Using a sling is also helpful for sleeping babies. It lets you hold your baby hands-free while giving your baby the comfort of being held.
They’ll be able to stay close to you, but you’ll be able to do other things while your baby rests.
Remember, you shouldn’t hold the baby while you’re standing up, just in case they fall. Don’t hold your baby if you’re sick, and only carry one baby at a time if you have multiples.
How and when to put your baby in their crib
Although it entirely depends on when you, as a parent, feel ready to introduce your baby to their crib, a good time to do so is around six months old.
Use the crib for naptime
You can start the transition into their crib by using it during naptime. When it’s time for your baby’s nap, star by placing them in their crib. Introducing your baby to their crib during naptime will help them get used to sleeping in it at night.
Your baby’s behavior will let you know when they are ready to go to sleep. Common sleepy symptoms include becoming fussy, yawning frequently, rubbing their eyes, or looking away. If you notice one or more of these behaviors, they’re probably ready to go to sleep.
Make sure you place your baby in their crib when they’re sleepy but not actually asleep. If they wake up during the night, comfort your baby by patting them, but don’t take them out of their crib because that will negatively affect their routine.
Use technology for support
For added comfort, you can try adding a white noise during your baby’s sleep routine. White noise machines can block out other sounds and disturbances. This can be especially helpful if your baby is sleeping in a crib in your room.
Transitioning your baby to a crib can be more difficult for you than for your babies. Using a baby monitor can help ease your mind if you’re a parent anxious about your baby sleeping in their own crib in a room by themselves. There are even some mobile applications that can turn your tablet or phone into a baby monitor.
It’s completely normal if your baby doesn’t sleep through the night yet. Once your baby is about five months old, they may be able to start sleeping around seven hours per night.
As your baby starts to inch into infanthood you may no longer have a baby who wants to be held all night.
Tips for sleep training your baby
Try swaddling
During the first few weeks, your baby is adjusting to the “outside world” after dwelling in a snug, warm environment for the last nine months. Naturally, re-creating that safe space can help if your baby only sleeps when held.
Swaddling is the best option when it comes to soothing your baby to sleep, especially during the first two weeks. In the womb, your baby was accustomed to having limbs tucked in and snug. When you swaddle your baby, you’re placing them in a similar position, particularly with what’s called the “burrito wrap,” which is the most common form of swaddling.
Incorporate white noise
Using white noise during sleep also works well with swaddling. The soft humming and swooshing closely resembles the sounds from the womb. Your baby is reminded of the secure and comfy environment from where they just arrived.
Plus, it helps your baby adjust during the more difficult sleep cycles and helps them stay asleep longer. A device like the Letsfit White Noise Machine provides an effective option when your newborn won’t sleep unless held.
Although the process can be frustrating (and exhausting), remember that babies don’t learn to fall asleep on their own in a day. It takes time and repetition. The best thing you can do for yourself and your baby is to remain patient. There are parent support groups that you can seek out for reassurance.
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Separate sleep with mother threatens the child with mental disorder
Babies who sleep in their crib already in the first month of life suffer from rapid heartbeat – the heart muscle tenses three times more, which in the future can lead to a number of diseases.
Nils Bergman, a professor of pediatrics at the University of Cape Town, came to this conclusion by tracing the relationship between the joint sleep of a newborn with his mother and his further physical development. The results of the study were published in Daily Mail .
In addition, the brain of a baby who sleeps separately from the mother before the age of four weeks develops more slowly, says Bergman. The reason for everything is the stress that a newborn experiences, being alone for a long time.
Nils Bergman conducted a study of 16 infants. Some of the children slept on their mother’s chest, and the other – in a separate bed nearby. It turned out that the children in the crib experienced stress, the level of which was three times higher than in children who slept with their mother. In addition, infants who slept separately were less likely to alternate between slow-wave and REM sleep, while the alternation plays a key role in brain development. Thus, Bergman encourages mothers to put their baby on their chest for the first three to four weeks and to sleep in the same bed until 3-4 years of age.
Newly made fathers may not like this news, and they will easily find refutation of Bergman’s conclusions, for example, in the theory of Sigmund Freud’s Oedipus Complex. The famous psychologist argued that in children aged 2-4 years, a sexual attraction to a parent of the opposite sex is formed, and close contact, which includes joint sleep, can increase this attraction. However, psychology, like medicine, does not stand still, and today Russian experts assure that the separate sleep of an infant under the age of four weeks threatens him not only with the development of physiological pathologies, but also with a mental disorder, told the correspondent of “MIR 24” psychologist Larisa Surkova.
“There are serious cases when parents, frightened by grandparents or doctors, at any cost begin to transfer the child not only to a separate bed, but also to a separate room. Today it is a very fashionable trend. Thus, parents separate very young children from themselves. Although the first four weeks of a child’s life are not accidentally called the tenth month of pregnancy, they are very important.
There is a theory of attachment which says that for the first four weeks the baby should be as close to the mother as possible. The mother must literally tie him, carry him in her arms, put him on her chest, in a word, do everything so that he wears, even if the child was born full-term. When parents begin to move their children to another room, because someone told them that they would later have serious pathological problems with their children, through the cry of a child, through sobbing, using some traumatic methods, then psychologists really will subsequently have to sort out children’s Problems. Such children at the age of four or five begin to have serious mental problems, because there is a violation of the basic attachment. It’s a lifelong trauma.
For a child, such actions of parents mean the loss of a mother. He does not understand at this moment that his mother has gone into the next room, he is losing her. And every time he loses her forever.
Therefore, I would like to urge parents, first of all, to listen to their hearts. If you are a mother, sit under the door of the room where the child is crying, while you are crying yourself – spit on the advisers, hug the child to you and give him your best. Childhood will pass very quickly. You only need to listen to your mother’s heart, ”says the psychologist.
Experts believe that the best option today is a separate bed, which is attached to the parent’s bed on the mother’s side.
“In an ideal scheme, when the child’s bed is in close proximity to the adult bed, certain boundaries are created, and at the same time, the mother is nearby, the child is calm, he hears her heart and breath. At the same time, it is convenient for the mother to feed the child, she does not have to get up for this a hundred times a night. Everyone gets sleep. If initially the mother slept with the baby in the same bed, then there will be no problems when switching to a new scheme. Over time, the child will begin to send signals to his mother about his readiness for independent sleep.
The first time it happens usually at the age of 9-10 months. The child begins the phase of deep sleep, and joint sleep during this period can play a negative role, since the mother has already developed anxiety. For a child, this is the age at which he is already ready to sleep in his own bed, but not in a separate room. If you see that the baby has longer periods of deep sleep, when he does not wake up for a long time, when he eats less often, then you can already safely transfer him to a separate bed, ”Surkova comments.
The stages of separation of the child from the parents should be smooth and gradual, in this case the psyche will not suffer. First, you need to transfer the child to a separate bed, and only when he gets used to it, move this bed to a separate room. To form a child’s interest in their own sleeping place, it is necessary to use bed linen with children’s ornaments, children’s toys, therapeutic fairy tales and nightly rituals.
“Often, parents rudely push the child away from them.
For example, a mother is waiting for the second, say, she will give birth tomorrow, and suddenly she decides that it is time for a two-year-old child to sleep separately. The child immediately moves to the next room through tears and stress. Sometimes it happens that the child slept in a side bed, but suddenly he is told that now he has grown up and this bed is no longer his, but a new brother, and now he needs to sleep on a bunk bed in the next room. In this case, the child has two stresses at once – the appearance of a new child and the selected position that is familiar to him. And sleep is very important. Sleep and food are basic human needs, so it is very important that in childhood they are carried out in a calm environment so that nothing injures the child. It is important to do everything very gradually, ”the psychologist shares his advice. Reverse theories about the dangers of co-sleeping mother and child have no practical evidence. “Old Freud” at one time fantasized too much, modern psychologists are sure.
“During my practice, I have not seen any pathological cases due to the joint sleep of mother and child. Of course, there are setbacks. For example, a child from birth sleeps in his bed on his own, everything is fine with him, and at 9-10 months he begins to ask his mother at night, because his teeth are climbing or something else is bothering him. Then, at two or five years old, ask to go to bed with your parents, because, for example, you had a bad dream or fears appeared. There is no need to push the children away at these moments. No need to take the child back to his room and scare it even more there. It is quite possible to give the child an indulgence by laying him next to you, and in the morning to figure out what happened at night, ”advises Larisa Surkova.
Hunger, pain or the weather: what prevents children from sleeping?
Lace blankets in a snow-white bed, tiny booties on a changing table, an impeccably furnished children’s room… Every family awaits the birth of a baby with special reverence.
But the expectation of a beautiful fairy tale of serene parenthood is very often replaced by a harsh reality with sleepless nights, children’s crying and the hope that the colic will soon pass and it will soon become easier. Colic passes, and restless children’s sleep with long bedtimes and frequent awakenings often remains the main problem of young parents. What prevents the child from sleeping at night and how to fix it? Authoritative experts answered this question.
Ekaterina Taran, psychologist, consultant at the BabySleep Center for Child Sleep and Development:
“From the moment of birth to the age of two or three, every child goes through tremendous emotional and physical changes – they learn to roll over, sit, stand up, walk. Growth spurts are replaced by development spurts, the daily routine also changes. And you need to understand that in a normal healthy child under three years old, one to three awakenings are acceptable, but perhaps not every night.
Talking about the causes of poor sleep and frequent nighttime awakenings, first of all, we can highlight physical discomfort: hunger, an overfilled diaper, pajamas that may be oversized or with chafing seams or tags made of fabric that irritates the skin. External factors – noise, light, humidity, heat or cold – can also interfere with the baby’s sleep. As soon as the cause of physical or external discomfort is eliminated, full sleep returns.
Developmental and growth spurts also affect children’s sleep. For example, a baby learns to sit down, and he trains this skill at any time convenient for him, including at night. Only training the skill during the active time of wakefulness will help here, bringing it to automatism.
A fairly common cause of poor night sleep is an incorrectly structured daily routine. This is too much, not enough, emotional overexcitation before going to bed, lack of rituals. Here it is necessary to adjust the daily regimen according to age, taking into account the individual time of wakefulness of the child.
Next: causes associated with sleep associations. If a child falls asleep during feeding, rocking, or sleeps only in a stroller, then, waking up between sleep cycles, he will not be able to fall asleep on his own and will require the restoration of familiar conditions. There is an opinion that breastfeeding or motion sickness is a harmful association for sleep, but here, first of all, you need to look at the age of the baby. For newborns, it is very physiological to fall asleep “on the chest” – the mother is developing lactation, frequent long applications are very important. Yes, and rocking in the first three months will soothe the baby. By six to eight months, such conditions for falling asleep become familiar to the child, and often mothers do not change anything and do not introduce other methods of relaxation. And now such associations for sleep begin to interfere, because, for example, pumping a one-year-old child is no longer so easy.
Of course, every case is different.
But there are some general recommendations on how to make a child’s sleep sound and parents’ nights calm.
Analyze if your child’s daily routine is appropriate for their age (if they go to bed too late, stay awake for a long time, have too much or not enough daytime sleep, etc.). It is very important to keep track of your baby’s wake time. For each age, there is a sleep norm that parents need to know. The main criterion is the mood of the child. A smiling baby who falls asleep well, wakes up without tears, sleeps for an hour or more during the day, is actively awake, perfectly regulates his cycles. Mom should listen to her child and, if necessary, increase or decrease the time of wakefulness.
Come up with a bedtime ritual – a set of the same actions repeated one after another in a strictly defined sequence before each bedtime. The ritual sets the baby to sleep and saturates with the attention of the mother. Very often there is a ritual for night sleep, but it is absent for daytime sleep – and this is a mistake.
Remove distractions and lights from the room while your baby is falling asleep. Many parents put a musical toy or their mobile phone in the crib. But toys with sound and light distract the child from sleep too much. At three to four months of age, the “sleep hormone” melatonin begins to be produced in the body. The level of this hormone in children increases in the evening, reaches a maximum around midnight and decreases in the early hours of the morning. The production of melatonin depends on the light – it stops in bright light. In the evening, shortly before putting the child to sleep, it is recommended to dim the lights, and in the process of the bedding ritual, turn off the light altogether. Thus, parents competently set up the child for sleep and reduce the time of bedtime.”
Evgeny Verbitsky, head of the Rostov branch of the Russian Somnological Society, professor of the Southern Scientific Center of the Russian Academy of Sciences:
“As a rule, after six months, the child’s nervous system makes a leap in development, which can also affect his sleep.
From this age, the baby may wake up suddenly, with anxiety and crying. This is the so-called physiological crying, it is preceded by a shallow sleep. Often the child thus tries to call his parents, without whom he is uncomfortable and anxious. The baby needs to be made clear that the parents are nearby, they will come and calm him down, but without feeding, playing, without taking him out of the crib. Smooth stroking, repetition of ritual elements, soft humming in most cases return the child to sleep. Perhaps some thing in the crib that the baby saw at the parents and which smells of them will help him with this.
The child is growing, his bed is changing, his environment is changing, and you need to get used to it. If this habituation is successful, the level of children’s anxiety is reduced. The main cause of early childhood anxiety is associated with separation from parents, habitual habitat, environment, familiar elements of the children’s world. All this can lead to difficult falling asleep and a restless night’s sleep.
“Intermediaries” in the form of night toys are effective here, as well as firm beliefs like “See you in the morning, baby.” Nightmares can also be the cause of awakenings. Parents should agree on what strategy to follow when the child wakes up and comes to bed with them.
Speaking of bad children’s sleep, it is worth considering the geographical features of the Rostov region. In our steppe region, the direction of the wind and its speed often change. This leads to changes in atmospheric pressure and sudden changes in the weather. A child is more sensitive to such changes than a healthy adult. Therefore, on rainy days, the baby’s sleep, with its still immature nervous system, must be treated with special attention.
The immature mechanisms of a child’s sleep are also vulnerable in the autumn-winter period – the production of the “sleep hormone” melatonin is affected by a short daylight hours. At this time, adults need to monitor the organization of the sleep and wakefulness of the child.
This is a constant exam of parents for ingenuity and balance for the sake of deep sleep of the baby – the key to the production of somatotropic hormone, which is essential for the growth and harmonious development of the child’s body.
Natalia Tokmak, osteopath:
“In some cases, difficulty falling asleep can be an important sign for parents that there is some kind of problem. There are few such children in my practice. They have a normal competent regime, they go to bed on time, do not get overexcited, there are no vivid impressions before going to bed. The problem of heavy falling asleep may be associated with a violation of the positions of the cervical vertebrae. How does it affect nighttime sleep? Due to impaired blood flow and chronic spasm in large or small vessels of the brain, the regulation of brain structures is difficult. Poor sleep can be directly related to the “work” of the skull. Small, outwardly insignificant, but very important inside microdisplacements, microrestrictions in the mobility of the bones of the skull lead to a certain tension of its structures.
It’s hard for these kids to relax. The transition from wakefulness to sleep is difficult for them. As a rule, they sleep restlessly, often waking up.
If we are talking about children under one year old, waking up screaming or crying is not a good sign. After all, a healthy child wakes up calmly, just gently lets you know that, for example, he is hungry. If the child immediately screams loudly (and the parent understands that this is a cry of pain) – most likely, he has a headache, it is difficult for him to relax, calm down, the baby has to be rocked. These kids need help. The osteopath can gently work with the cervical region, spine, sacrum. Although the sacrum is located far from the head, it is an important paired structure that “works” in sync with the skull.”
Tatyana Valkova, pediatrician:
“One of the main causes of children’s shallow sleep, which parents often neglect, is the lack of a normal microclimate in the room. The most comfortable air temperature for children of any age is 19-20 degrees.
At this temperature, children’s sleep is most profound. If the mother is afraid that the baby will freeze, you can cover the baby with an extra diaper, but do not raise the temperature in the room. Humidity should be 50-70%. High temperature and low humidity of the room lead to the drying of the nasal mucosa, a decrease in immunological protection, the appearance of thirst, which provokes frequent nocturnal awakenings.
In conclusion, I want to say that you should not try to treat infantile sleep disorders with medication, since most of the drugs used in our country (nootropic, vascular and some others) are drugs with unproven effectiveness and are not used in developed countries.”
What is normal breastfeeding? | Interview with Dr. Jacqueline Kent
It can be difficult for new mothers to understand if breastfeeding is going well, so we decided to ask the expert if it is possible to talk about the norms when it comes to breastfeeding.
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Dr Jacqueline Kent , Research Fellow , Hartmann Human Lactation Research Group:
Jacqueline joined the University of Western Australia research group in 1986 and received her PhD in 1999.
She is currently researching the biochemical and physiological aspects of breast milk synthesis and release in search of scientific information to help mothers breastfeed longer.
Dr. Jacqueline Kent and her colleagues have been studying breastfeeding for many years. As it turned out, for all mothers and babies, this process occurs in its own way.
What were the most unexpected results of your research for you?
Variety. It turns out that the limits of the norm are extremely wide.
We are used to textbooks that say that an infant should eat 8-12 times a day and gain 150 grams per week. But babies don’t read textbooks and do things their own way! Some gain weight more slowly, others very quickly.
We looked at infants aged one to six months who were exclusively breastfed. As our studies have shown, on average, a child is breastfed 4 to 13 times a day, and the duration of one feeding varies from 12 minutes to 1 hour. 1
How much milk do breastfed babies usually consume?
According to our research, the volume of milk consumed by baby
ranges from 54 to 234 ml per feeding.
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Sometimes it seems to the mother that the baby has eaten well, but when weighed, it turns out that he ate very little milk. And it happens the other way around: the child is distracted, breastfeeds for only a few minutes and still eats 100 ml of milk. Even if the baby is restless, this does not mean at all that he is malnourished.
All babies are different, but they all get the amount of milk they need in one way or another. One needs 500 ml of milk per day, while others eat up to 1356 ml!
By the way, boys on average eat 76 ml more milk per day than girls. The main thing is that you have enough milk, and the baby will decide when and how much he will eat.
Should I offer my baby a second breast?
I advise offering the second breast to the baby after the first has been completely emptied. If he accepts it, then he hasn’t finished eating. If not, don’t worry. Let the baby decide for himself – only he knows when he is full. According to our research, 30% of babies get enough milk from one breast, 13% eat from two breasts at each feed, and 57% from time to time.
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How do you know if a baby is getting enough milk?
In my experience, mothers often blame themselves for not producing enough milk. Ask yourself: Is my child growing? Is he putting on weight? Is he cheerful? Is his skin healthy? How often does he get diapers dirty? If the answer is “yes”, then the baby is getting enough milk, no matter if he eats a lot or a little.
What is the most common misconception about breastfeeding?
Mothers usually think that the older the child gets, the
more often you need to feed him and the more milk he will eat. They are often surprised to learn that between the 4th and 26th weeks, total milk production normally does not change. 2
In the first few months, the baby grows very quickly and his metabolism is accelerated. The milk that the child consumes during this period is almost completely used for growth and maintenance of metabolism.
Between the ages of three and six months, metabolism slows down and growth slows, so the same amount of milk is sufficient for the baby.
In other words, the baby does not have to consume more and more milk as they grow older. On the contrary, feedings become shorter and less frequent, but at the same time the child receives the same amount of milk, because he suckles better.
Do studies say anything about the age at which breastfed babies start sleeping through the night?
Most babies need to be fed at night.
A baby’s stomach is not big enough to go all night without a feed, and breast milk is digested very quickly. Therefore, it is natural for the baby to wake up at night – and this usually continues for at least the first six months. Feeding at night is normal. When you feed your baby at night, do not even hesitate – all over the world at this moment other mothers of babies of the same age are doing the same. Be patient – it usually only lasts a few months. 1
What worries new mothers the most during the first few weeks of breastfeeding?
The most common concern is whether the baby latch on correctly, sucks well, and is full during feeding.
Often mothers also worry about sore nipples. The main thing is to find the right position for feeding from the very beginning and ensure that the baby is latching on correctly. Practice shows that this significantly affects the flow of milk and the convenience of feeding.
What breastfeeding symptoms should be of concern?
Milk production usually returns to normal levels two weeks after birth. If the child does not begin to gain weight on the fifth or sixth day of life, it’s time to sound the alarm. You should contact your doctor to make sure that milk is being produced and that its composition is changing from colostrum to mature breast milk.
What advice would you give to a new breastfeeding mother?
Try to have skin-to-skin contact with your baby as soon as possible after delivery. If possible, feed your baby within the first hour of life, or at least breastfeed. As soon as possible, contact a specialist to correct the position and grip of the breast during feeding and thus avoid damage to the nipples.
Feed frequently. Young mothers do not immediately succeed in correctly recognizing the signals that the child gives. Be sure to feed your baby on demand, and not at set intervals. Offer the breast as soon as you notice any signs of hunger – as a rule, the baby suckles better when he is calm. If he cries, it is more difficult for him to take the breast. If you are not sure what the child wants, offer him the breast. He decides whether he wants to eat or not.
To learn more about Dr. Kent’s research, download infographic “How to determine the limits of the norm when it comes to breastfeeding” or see it below.
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1 Kent JC et al. Volume and frequency of breastfeedings and fat content of breast milk throughout the day. Pediatrics . 2006;117(3): e 387-395. – Kent J.S. et al., “Amount and frequency of breastfeeding and fat content of breast milk during the day.” Pediatrix (Pediatrics).
If a small child is busy playing they may not always remember to swallow, causing saliva build up. 
This tongue tie may not have been seen at birth, but as a child ages, it can cause a restriction in movement, leading to difficulty with managing saliva and concurrent speech issues. Tongue ties are not always obvious and a preferred provider in tongue tie can rule assist the speech pathologist in ruling out a restriction.
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The doctor should be able to tell you if it’s normal or something of concern.
Online recipes may look healthy and promise to be nutritionally complete, but they can have too little — or too much — of important nutrients and cause serious health problems for your baby.
Usually the front bottom two teeth (lower central incisors) emerge first, accompanied by the front top two teeth (upper central incisors). Teething can be a painful and difficult process for both babies and parents, as infants may become especially fussy or cranky while their new teeth emerge. Quintessential signs and symptoms of teething include irritability or fussiness, drooling, chewing on firm solid objects, and sore or sensitive gums. Parents also commonly conclude that teething causes diarrhea and fever, but research has shown this to be untrue. Teething does produce signs and symptoms in the gums and mouth but does not generate constitutional or other extended bodily symptoms. In this baby dental topics article we cover stages of teething and helpful hints. Read more about other pediatric dental topics.
This will help keep a rash from forming around the baby’s mouth and chin, which can add to the discomfort.
The same recommendations for stage 2 and 3 can be implemented during this period to keep the baby as comfortable as possible.
The liquid filled kind can break as the baby chews.
Before giving the baby any medicines, however, ask the pediatrician what is safe and appropriate for the child.
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Depending on the position of the tooth, some babies may even pull on their ear or rub their cheek when a new tooth is coming in.
If the teething ring is punctured or cracked, you don’t want to worry about toxic materials.
Usually, the first dentist appointment will happen by 2 years of age.
Or is it just me? Amusement aside, it is at this age where bibs and extra cloth wipes are indispensable in your baby essentials. Why? Because of drools.
It also keeps his mouth moistened and protects his teeth in the process.
While it is indeed a common cause, it is only secondary to developmental reasons.
To some parents, excessive drooling beyond infancy can get stigmatizing. When it happens in older children, it is sometimes due to neurological problems relating to low muscle tone.
Salivation to food cues is no different with your developing baby. When you prompt him with food, and he increases drooling, it means he has established his sense of smell. It’s the brain that sends this reaction to help his body prepare for digestion.
So it is good to know that your baby is naturally protected. And it pays to continue breastfeeding and make the most out of its tons of benefits.
It prevents demineralization of the enamel once his teeth come out.
Your pediatrician can help you out with the right product. 
Beginning of the functioning of the salivary glands. 
They help to neutralize infections that enter the mouth. This is an extremely useful and necessary property of saliva. Starting from 2 months, a small child begins to put everything in his mouth. 
If, nevertheless, irritation appears on the skin, then cracks and pimples should be lubricated with baby cream or sea buckthorn oil. 
And you will remember with nostalgia this “dribbling period” in the life of your child. 
Infants cannot swallow as well as adults 
Alternatively, you may consider applying an ointment to the affected area at night. 
The body begins to prepare them for this at the age of 2 to 6 months. It is recommended that parents begin offering solid foods to infants at six months of age. 
However, just because your 3-month-old is drooling doesn’t mean you’ll soon see a tooth pop out. The first tooth usually appears around 6 months of age. 
But they can still have episodes of profuse salivation when they erupt, eat, or play. Salivation usually slows down by about two years of age. 
Sometimes a sore throat causes a child to drool. If you ever worry about your child drooling, don’t hesitate to contact your pediatrician. 
This function is performed by saliva. Bacteria of various viruses can be found on all these numerous objects, and the protective functions of the child are not yet sufficiently formed. Therefore, a lot of saliva in the baby, maybe for a very understandable reason. This is a protective agent, because they have 
Therefore, the appearance of profuse salivation is a normal phenomenon. 
They work constantly, producing up to two liters of fluid per day in an adult. 
They will determine whether drug therapy is needed in this case or whether this moment can be waited out. 
In the oral cavity under the tongue, on the inside of the cheeks, behind the lower teeth are the salivary glands. They work constantly, producing up to two liters of fluid per day in an adult. 
Hence the complaints of parents about increased salivation in babies. 
This is due to the fact that the salivary glands in babies under the age of one year are still being formed. You should not worry about this, the baby is growing and soon the work of the salivary glands will be established, and the profuse salivation will stop. 
This becomes the norm by the age of one and a half months, simultaneously with the increasing activity of the salivary glands. If the baby has profuse salivation and there is no other evidence that teeth are really climbing, the possibility of allergic rhinitis, infections of a bactericidal or viral nature, as well as birth defects cannot be ruled out. Then you need to consult a pediatrician. 
However, the process of swallowing the child can only be carried out during feeding; in another state, he still does not know how to swallow saliva. So, if a baby at 3 months plentifully lets them in, you should not worry: he will soon learn to “communicate” with saliva. 
Gradual increase in saliva production. It is characterized by constant secretion of transparent liquid saliva from the oral cavity. 
Therefore, saliva flows out on its own. 
Bibs will help even now: the fabric absorbs liquid, blouses remain dry, the skin on the neck and breast is also dry. 
But to provide proper hygienic care when the baby is drooling is necessary in order to prevent irritation of the baby’s delicate skin. Followed by: 
See a doctor, eliminate the cause, and the amount of saliva returns to normal. 
If the crumbs have problems of an endocrine nature or in the adrenal cortex, saliva analysis will show the disease. To obtain accurate data, saliva is taken for analysis several times during the day. It is not difficult, painless, will show the right result. 
If surgery or radiation is required, then you should be aware that this can lead to abnormalities in the form of caries and facial asymmetry. All decisions about treatment are always made deliberately, the most appropriate method is chosen based on the individual characteristics of the child and expediency. 
As a rule, the baby does not know how to swallow saliva, so it seems to the mother that there are too many of them. 
5 (!!!) liters. 
This condition may be the cause of ptyalism; 
In this case, salivation is accompanied by a number of other signs; when taking lithium-containing drugs, ptyalism is noted as a side effect. 
Language becomes a kind of communication tool. Seeing that the baby stuck out his tongue, it can be assumed that he is hungry or wants to be paid attention to. Another reason is that the baby is sick and his health leaves much to be desired. 
The test is carried out in the hospital, a blood sample is taken from the baby from the heel. 
In the process of treatment, the functions of blood circulation are improved. In addition, special gymnastics, a massage procedure and taking vitamins are prescribed. 
Having found alarming signs, it is worth paying a visit to the pediatrician, who will make an accurate diagnosis and prescribe treatment. 
Sincerely, the management of OOO “DDC” 
on breastfeeding, on complementary foods (banana, apple, fruit puree) rarely goes for a long time, maybe 3-4 days or more, then we put a candle – we went, and then we wait again. Please tell me what to do? 
Third day dark green stools. A little temperature. And drooling due to teething. Please tell me why a child can have green stools? And what to us analyzes to hand over? 
When washed, it feels like particles of sand. Meals are separate, canned by age. A mixture of 600 ml per day. The chair is not hard, but decorated. 
More information is needed about the child, the disease, whether there has been such a situation for all 5 years, whether there have been episodes of remission, etc. Consultation with a gastroenterologist, neurologist, and also a psychiatrist is necessary. 
At this age, it is extremely important to know how the pregnancy, childbirth, the presence of infection, hypoxia, etc. proceeded. At the same time, I will give some standards for 1.5-2 month old children. Lateral ventricles: anterior horns up to 4 mm, occipital horns up to 15 mm, body 2-4 mm. Third ventricle up to 5 mm, fourth ventricle up to 4 mm, interhemispheric fissure 2-4 mm, large cistern up to 6 mm, subarachnoid space up to 2 mm. Of course, it is important to note that individual sizing is possible. 
For a young child, even minimal complaints can be the first signs of a serious bowel problem.
Studies show that a similar reaction occurs due to dreams. In addition, babies in this way check the presence of parents nearby, instinctively looking for your protection and support. And if he doesn’t find her, he starts to cry for real. Of course, this requires your intervention. 
Primary – by adjusting behavior patterns during the period of falling asleep. Let’s see how to do it. 
This is a certain item that is next to the baby during sleep. For babies, this is, for example, a diaper that keeps the mother’s smell, and for those who are older – a favorite toy. All this gives children a sense of comfort and suppresses the excitement during awakenings, and also allows you to feel your closeness. 
Feeding in the evening should occur clearly before bedtime. This will develop a certain reflex in the child. 
Petersburg. To make an appointment, please call 8(812)677-0-777. A professional sleep specialist will advise you on all your questions and select the most convenient time for your visit. 
In order for lactose to be absorbed, the lactase enzyme must break it down, but if the child has little or no lactase enzyme, then lactose is not broken down and remains in the intestine. As a result, there is always a large amount of milk sugar in the intestines, which begins to ferment, and where there is fermentation, conditionally pathogenic flora actively reproduces. What we feel during fermentation: intestinal motility increases (it rumbles), plus gas formation increases (the stomach swells). But in an adult, this is usually a one-time situation due to some inaccuracies in nutrition, and it quickly passes. But in babies, everything is different, especially since they lack the enzyme not once, but constantly. What it looks like: The milk sugar lactose retains water, hence loose stools. In the child’s stomach, “rumbles and boils”, colic begins, the stool becomes frothy, greens, mucus and even blood may appear in it. If at first the stool was liquid, then constipation appears, and all this changes in a circle: yesterday there was diarrhea, today and tomorrow there is no stool at all, the day after tomorrow it is liquid again.
And the most unpleasant thing is endless colic and endless crying, there is no rest for both the parents themselves and the baby. Mom at some point notices that the baby is crying just after feeding, and then a variety of advice falls upon her. “Your milk is bad, better give the mixture,” says the beloved mother-in-law. “Only breasts and nothing else!” – advise breastfeeding gurus. As a result, the mother tries one thing or the other, but neither breast milk nor artificial mixture gives relief to the child. Colic, crying and problems with the stomach and stool continue. The parents are in a panic because they don’t understand what is going on. In fact, this is a typical picture of bright lactase deficiency (LN), or insufficient production of the lactase enzyme.
The diagnosis is made in the maternity hospital or in the first days after birth, the child does not have lactase at all, he quickly loses weight, he is immediately started to be fed intravenously or through a tube. Some experts (but not doctors) on breastfeeding read once that congenital lactase deficiency is an extremely rare disease, and that’s all – they further began to assure young mothers: “In fact, LN is extremely rare, you don’t have it, you don’t need to listen to doctors “, etc. Yes, congenital LN is a rare disease, but the key word here is “congenital”, and there are other types of lactase deficiency. 
Therefore, such a LN is called “transient”, that is, temporary, or passing. It passes for someone a month after birth, for someone longer – after six to seven months, and there are children in whom lactase deficiency completely disappears only by the year. 
The symptoms are the same as in babies: he drank milk and after that the stomach rumbles, boils, and the stool is liquid. Sooner or later, a person realizes that milk is not his product, and simply stops drinking it in its pure form.
Some children lack the enzyme quite a bit, so their colic is mild and children cry quite normally. Plus, the violation of the stool is also not very bright: there are a couple of times a slightly liquefied stool, but that’s all. In other children, the lack of lactase is more pronounced, the child does not cry, but simply yells after each feeding, if at first he gained weight well, then after two months the increase is minimal, problems with stools begin in parallel (day – constipation, day – diarrhea), stool sometimes green, sometimes with mucus. Atopic dermatitis appears on the skin (the skin is the first to react to problems with the gastrointestinal tract). Parents have no rest day or night: the baby cries – he is fed – he cries again, they try to calm him down in other ways. But nothing helps. Mom and dad are in a panic, and no one has the strength anymore. 
Only an experienced pediatrician will be able to figure out why the baby has colic or green stools, what the numbers in the tests say, and what is the norm for one baby and the pathology for another. And of course, it is not necessary to cancel breastfeeding and immediately prescribe lactose-free or low-lactose artificial mixtures (even as a supplement). By itself, milk sugar lactose is very necessary for a child, when lactose is broken down, its components (glucose and galactose) go to the development of the brain, retina, for the life of normal intestinal microflora. So do not completely eliminate this sugar, you need to help it break down. With a strongly pronounced LN, the missing enzyme is given before each feeding (it has long been learned to produce and it is sold in pharmacies), with a dim clinic, its dose can be reduced. And it is also possible that there is lactase deficiency (even according to tests), but it does not need to be treated, there are almost no symptoms. 
They see the cause of all problems with the child’s stomach and stool either in the wrong technique of breastfeeding, or partially admit that there is immaturity of the enzyme, but this is natural and will pass by itself. Yes, for some, LN is expressed easily and will pass quickly, but what about those parents whose child yells day and night, covered with a crust from atopic dermatitis and stopped gaining weight? Wait for the time to come and the enzymes to mature? Alas, with pronounced lactase deficiency (even if transient), enterocytes (intestinal cells) often suffer, so it is simply necessary to help such a child.
And of course, guests are expected to bring a shower-appropriate gift.
Items such as diapers, baby clothes, toys, breast pumps, and luxury items for the mom are all common baby shower gifts.
While traditional baby shower food may consist of dainty finger foods and pink and blue baby-themed treats, you may also want to have more substantial eats prepared at a co-ed baby shower.
” But they sound so much better than the traditional one that it could be time to retire the classic baby shower.
It might be too hard to explain to Aunt Linda why all of your husband’s friends are drinking beer out of baby bottles. But with their surge in popularity it is likely you’ll be invited to one soon. RSVP “yes.”
Every day the participants warmed up under warm water. The first group then took a 30-second cold shower. Participants from the second group stood under him for a minute, and from the third – 90 seconds. The fourth group (control) simply enjoyed the heat. The experiment lasted a month. All groups, except for the control group, were offered an optional extension of the practice for another 2 months. 64% of the subjects agreed because they liked it. 
Cold water causes blood to flow more actively to the organs in order to warm them. In addition, cooling is stressful for the body, leading to the release of adrenaline. Warm water reverses the effect: blood rushes to the surface of the skin. This is how a kind of “gymnastics” takes place, which strengthens the heart and blood vessels. 
However, such a procedure will definitely become your faithful assistant in maintaining harmony. 
In gynecology, the ascending shower is used in the complex treatment of chronic inflammatory diseases of the female reproductive system, primary and secondary infertility, and menstrual dysfunction. In urology, the appointment of this type of balneotherapy is indicated for chronic prostatitis, impotence, neurological disorders with impaired sexual function. A course of treatment with an ascending shower is recommended for hemorrhoids, fissures in the anal region, inflammation of the rectum, chronic atonic constipation. For children, an ascending shower is prescribed for nighttime urinary incontinence. 
Getting little ones used to these practices when they’re young can mean a lifetime of better sleep habits.
This often occurs when a baby rolls into something that obstructs their breathing like loose bedding or plush toys that they can roll off of, but some babies are found after sleeping face down which adds another layer of danger.
Sleeping face down increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).
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They exhale carbon dioxide into the space in which their faces rest and cannot take in oxygen. Experienced babies lift their heads and turn them, while babies who are new to stomach sleeping lift their heads up and put them right back down into the carbon dioxide. Without oxygen, they suffocate. This tragedy can be prevented with precaution and care.
More boys die from SIDS than do girls. About 75% of infants dying unexpectedly and suddenly do so while sleeping on the same furniture as someone else. This includes couches, armchairs, and beds. While SIDS is not identical to suffocation, both can occur during a baby’s sleep time; this is why it is often called crib death. The National Institutes of Health describe SIDS as a silent, sudden medical disorder that can occur in an infant who seems otherwise healthy.
When infants can move their heads from side to side, you can safely leave your baby slumbering. If a baby is lying truly face down, with the face pressed into the mattress, there is a problem.
All babies woke up after a span of about five minutes to try and reach air that was fresher. The experienced infants turned their heads from the stale air. Inexperienced infants nuzzled their bedding or bobbed their heads briefly up, returning them straight down into the problem area.
Share sleeping areas until the baby is six months old. You will be more alert to trouble this way. Only bring the baby into your bed for comfort or to feed; when you are ready to sleep, back into the crib with the baby. Keep soft objects like stuffed toys or loose bedding out of the sleeping area for the baby. Pillows, bumper pads, and quilts are included in this category. They increase the risk of suffocation, strangulation, and entrapment, as stated by healthychildren.org.
And usually pediatricians brush aside questions like yours, they say, what trifles bother parents! However, child psychologists consider such questions to be far from trifling and even undertake to interpret these postures. And although I am not convinced of the correctness of their interpretations, try to look at your son’s usual sleeping position through the eyes of these psychologists. 
As gas bubbles escape, they have an annoying tendency to bring the rest of the stomach’s contents up with them. To minimize the chances of this happening, burp not only after, but also during meals.
In either case, spitting up may serve as one of several cues your baby may give you that it’s time to discuss alternative formulas with your pediatrician. If your baby does have a true intolerance, a 1- or 2-week trial of hypoallergenic (hydrolyzed) formula designed to be better tolerated might be recommended by your baby’s provider.
It isn’t painful to your baby, and most babies don’t even realize they have done it.
Laying them flat on a full stomach can lead to spit-up 
If your baby’s fussy and has not been fed in more than 2 hours, it is probably time for a feeding. 
There are things you can do to help when your baby is ill. Replace the fluids your baby is losing by giving them small, frequent feedings. In some cases, an oral rehydration solution such as Pedialyte® may be recommended. Check with your healthcare provider for advice. 
Contact your healthcare professional if your baby vomits repeatedly. 
As you get accustomed to your child’s immediate needs — meals, changing diapers, learning to safely strap them into their car seat — it is easy to forget the importance of early initiation of tummy time.
Positioning your child on their stomach allows them to gain the strength and coordination they need for future motor skills like rolling, sitting, crawling and walking.
As soon as possible, transition to tummy time positioned on a firm surface, such as a mat on the floor. 
Allow them time to be soothed and reassured prior to resuming. 
Allow them to play in that position for a few minutes before helping them roll to play while on their stomach.
In most cases, regurgitation is “benign” and disappears on its own after 12-18 months. At the same time, “benign” or physiological regurgitation characterizes:
Vomit may contain unchanged milk, mucus, blood or bile.
However, there are measures to help reduce the frequency of regurgitation.
After 10-15 minutes, the swallowed milk flows out unchanged, which is accompanied by a loud sound of air eructation.
Due to this, the air that has entered the stomach will be able to go out. If nothing happened, then put the baby down and after a minute or two, lift him upright again.
Sometimes these fears are not unfounded, and regurgitation really has a pathological origin. What is its cause and when should you really consult a doctor about this? 
The size of the opening in the nipple also matters – if it is too large, the newborn swallows a lot of air 3 . 
With pathology, the problem manifests itself at any time of the day, regardless of when the baby was fed. Their number can reach 50 per day, and sometimes more 1 . 
A doctor’s consultation is necessary if the child is spitting up a lot (more than 15-30 ml at a time), with a frequency of more than 50 episodes per day 1.3 . 
To improve the situation, it is recommended to feed the baby more often, avoiding oversaturation, best of all – on demand 5 . 
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In such a situation, you need to make sure that the gastrointestinal tract is functioning normally and consult a doctor.
But if he still burps, you should not worry, this is a normal process. If in doubt, please contact our doctors. At a remote consultation, they will explain the causes of regurgitation, talk about pathologies. If necessary, they will tell you which specialists to go through. 
As a result, the surplus, of course, comes out.
This applies not only to the transition from breastfeeding to artificial feeding, but also from one type of mixture to another.
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If the child burped while lying on his back, you should lift him up and turn him face down.
It is also necessary to make sure that the milk does not flow like a river, but slowly drips, that is, the hole in the nipple must have the appropriate diameter.
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Today, after so much time, during which everything would have changed 20 times for an ordinary child, having matured, but the same boy with even greater confidence reports that he dreams of treating people and becoming a surgeon. 
He must have gotten bad grades.” Stas lived at home for about a year, went to first grade. 
Everything went well, I became an excellent student. I love to study, it’s interesting for me. As if something was missing, and once it appeared. 
“The very beginning of my life is like a fog, I just don’t remember anything. I think I saw my father once. I was standing in the entrance, and there was a man, he brought me something, he was wearing glasses. And this memory that I am small, and he is so big – it is very strong, so I think that it was not just a man. 
For example, I have never been abroad. When I finish university and become a surgeon, I will go on my first trip. I’ll start with France, I want to visit Paris. I think it’s a good start for a famous doctor’s vacation!” 
It is very important for us that Stas remains in the program and has the opportunity to study remotely and further. And it depends on everyone who reads the article about this amazing boy from the Arkhangelsk region. 
I always argued with Kortatai, saying that he was of the old school, that now everything is not the same as before, and only now, from the height of the years I have lived (even though I am not old yet, but I am not twenty anymore), I understand that 99 percent of what he said was correct. I am grateful to him for every word and I use the experience passed on to me in my work. I am grateful to my grandfather and father for instilling in me not just a love for music and creativity, but real respect and devotion to this work. Therefore, no matter what situations in life may be, I have never turned off this path and I am going to follow it to the end. 
Now everything is changing, and songs that have been lived are becoming popular: if this is lyrics, then this is a song of suffering – text, music, performance. I think if Gumer Abdulmanov were alive and young now, he would sing his songs, of course, in a modern interpretation, and would be a popular and respected artist. After all, what is happening around now, in general, repeats the time when he was just embarking on his musical path, says Murat Abdulmanov. 
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They are gorgeous and the softest baby blanket for swaddling and tons of other uses too. They’re definitely a unique style and color.
They are highly popular with parents because they are big, soft, and have delightful animal patterns. They’d work great as baby receiving blankets.
Reviewers love the high quality that makes these feel like luxury baby blankets and baby receiving blankets.
They are a littel small for swaddling though. So if swaddling is your jam, maybe keep looking.
But parens also love the ease with which you can swaddle up your babe in seconds. It’s made of organic material and is ranked the #1 swaddle by the New York Times.
The best part of baby receiving blankets is they can be used for so many different things like a burp cloth, a swaddle, a blanket for warmth, a playmat, and more! They’ve been around for basically… ever… and with good reason. They’re so functional and inexpensive. 
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You must have noticed, every little detail about your baby, his nose, his eyes, his tiny hands and fingers, and even the soft white blanket he was wrapped in. Now you must have folded up that receiving blanket neatly in a drawer and perhaps it will never see the light of the day, but do you know that your little munchkin’s first blanket can be used in so many ways? The very first blanket that many families receive their baby snuggled up in is called a receiving blanket. Read on to learn more about receiving blanket and how can you put one to good use once it has served its purpose!
While hospitals usually provide one, most new mothers tend to buy standard off-the-shelf receiving blankets for their babies, as one can never have enough of receiving blankets for their babies. If you want to make it extra special, you can always make one yourself.
The familiar scent and warmth will provide comfort to your baby and he will fall asleep in it in a matter of minutes.
Being soft and thin, they are easy to cut through, so no hassle there!
Follow these tips when using a blanket for your baby.
While receiving blankets can be used to swaddle a baby, they can’t be used for long enough as babies quickly outgrow them as they grow up. The major difference between the two is their size. A receiving blanket is usually 30 inches by 30 inches while a swaddling blanket is usually 47 inches by 47 inches. Swaddling blankets are made out of a more elastic material to make it easier to wrap your baby. They also feature attachments such as Velcro or button clips to keep it in place while your baby is wrapped.
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Usually the child does this when getting ready for bed, and may become so attached to this item that he will flatly refuse to part with the blanket, even when it needs to be washed. Usually such a habit does not reveal any serious consequences for the child, although it can greatly annoy parents. The habit of sucking on a blanket remains until the age of 8-10, and then disappears without a trace. Why does this habit occur? 
For children, suckling is a much more familiar way of warding off fears than talking. By his actions, the baby subconsciously signals that he is experiencing anxiety, inconvenience, that he is scared. Such a habitual action, like sucking on a blanket, stabilizes the state of mind of the baby. This is purely a childish habit, passing with age. 
We will try to prevent and, if necessary, eliminate this habit. 
To understand the feelings of the child, imagine that the boss behaves in a similar way with you. 
Or, having learned to dress on his own, he begins to act up and demand that his parents dress him again. Similarly, once weaned or bottled, a baby may want to suckle again. If this continues for a long time, it signals that the child for some reason does not want to grow up (it is necessary to identify the reasons) 
Be patient, be more affectionate and softer, show interest in adult moments in the child’s behavior. Approval and love give children courage and perseverance. In their absence, children become infantile and lost. 
Think about whether you have been overly harsh and strict or nervous lately. Maybe you were punishing a child. It is also likely that you were too demanding of him. If the child accumulates irritation or excitement, but the opportunity to take the soul is not provided, he may bite his nails. Try to relieve nervous tension in the baby. 
Don’t worry about these outbursts. After all, adults also tend to take the soul. If you constantly suppress the free expression of feelings in a child, you will only achieve that aggression will accumulate in him and overwhelm him. Encourage acceptable forms of aggression in sports or team games. 
This, in turn, can have a significant negative impact on the entire family. This guide explains what may be causing your child’s sleep problems and what you can do to ensure a restful night for both your child and yourself. 
If after this age your child regularly cannot fall asleep or sleeps normally for a while and then wakes up abruptly, then this is a sleep disorder. It is important to recognize that short-term sleep disturbances in children often occur after illness, during holidays, holidays such as Christmas, or during periods of acute stress, such as school exams or the illness of a loved one. After such events, the normal sleep pattern should be restored in the child within a few days. 
However, these are not hard numbers, and it is possible that some 16-year-old child needs 10 hours of sleep per night, and some five-year-old child needs seven hours. 
However, Donna Williams, who has detailed her experience of living with an autism spectrum disorder, speaks in her autobiography about her fear of falling asleep: 
However, they suggest that Donna had more trouble getting to bed than waking up. We do not know which problems children with autism most often suffer from, although we do know children who have problems with both. 
Children with autism are often unable to articulate their need to de-stress and relax. In addition, when they go to bed, they may experience great anxiety and confusion. 
Obviously, the introduction of a quiet period is easier said than done, but you can start small: for example, turn off the TV and computer for an hour. It should take some time before it becomes a routine, but if you succeed, then the effect will not be long in coming. It is also worth introducing this quiet time into the daily routine so that the child knows what to expect and gets used to such a routine. 
To do this as effectively as possible, you need to carefully analyze the regime that your family is following at the moment. The following should be taken into account: 
30: bedtime/sleep time 
If that’s your child’s experience, it’s no surprise if he looks excited when it’s time for bed. However, you can work on the child’s fears to help him. 
Even the colors of the room or the pictures on the wall can disturb sleep. 
As a general rule, it is best to minimize the use of drugs by the child, but in some cases a mild sedative should be available. For example, if you are going on a trip and are afraid of problems with jet lag, or you are afraid that your child’s overall health is suffering because of poor sleep. Most physicians are willing to prescribe drugs in such circumstances. 
We all hate to get out of bed at times. However, children with autism may lack the motivation to do so. Potential approaches you can take with this child are similar to those for children who sleep too little: 
Excessive sleep in this age group can indicate serious psychological problems, and you need to consider this possibility, and not just write off excessive sleep as laziness. Again, sleep monitoring can help establish patterns that indicate potential problems. 
It is worth carefully approaching the choice of these products, as there are a lot of nuances that parents should consider. 
Good options would be natural fabrics: silk or high-quality cotton. These materials are pleasant to the touch, environmentally friendly, hypoallergenic, have good breathability and wear resistance. 
By the way, leading manufacturers of sleep accessories offer duvets with a special treatment that protects products for several years. 
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As a new mom, we love holding my babes close, feeling their tiny hearts beating in tandem with ours. There’s no doubt this creates a sacred bond with your baby—but is it safe?
Apart from increasing the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), it also increases the risk of accidents or suffocation.
He was living in your womb for so many months that he is used to the snug and comforting feeling. Wrapping your baby or swaddling him will help replicate that amazing feeling, which will help your baby sleep well.
However, there are chances that your baby might face problems later since he will be accustomed to sleeping using the Rock-N-Play technique. But note that this method is not considered to be the safest of all the other sleep surfaces since it is not flat and firm. You should check with your doctor if you feel like there is not enough space for the baby to sleep.
Many babies need to learn how to sleep well independently in other spaces.
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Why? To help their child sleep, to make nursing easier, to bond with Baby, and because Baby won’t sleep anywhere else, they say.
They don’t learn to soothe themselves, and that’s what keeps them up.
Today we know that this yearning for closeness is a physiological need shared by you and your baby. Studies have shown that newborns who are placed skin-to-skin on your chest right after birth will adjust more easily to life outside the womb, stay warmer, cry less and breastfeed sooner than if your baby is separated from you.
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When my son is hungry we both half wake up together, he latches on to nurse and we both fall back to sleep. No need to get up. No need to turn the lights on. We both stay warm in bed together, nurse and nod off.
He doesn’t need to waste energy crying to get our attention so he can put it directly into growing. And body contact is well known to be even more important than milk in determining growth rates.
To use a crib. A pacifier. An exersaucer. A walker. To let my baby cry. It sure would make for far easier conversations at mummy groups! But that’s not for me. My only important parenting critic is my son.
They eat, sleep, feel calm precisely from the presence of their mother in the immediate vicinity. Where have you seen a cat that puts kittens in a “separate basket”, for example? It’s not just that. The child needs to sleep next to his mother, so as not to worry, to grow and develop calmly. 
Therefore, in your arms the baby is comfortable, warm, he is safe. Many parents have noticed that their child sleeps much better, wakes up less often and cries when they put him under their wing for the night. Psychologists have proven that not only the baby needs co-sleeping. Moms also sleep soundly and sweetly when the baby hugs them with her arms and sniffs on her chest. 
And you have to get up and rock again. If you sleep together, you won’t have to jump up and check how your bunny is doing, is it sleeping, breathing, why is it “quacking”? 
And if a child is comfortable in a dream and has nothing to worry about, he has time and an opportunity to comprehend everything new, to “digest”, without being distracted by anything. Therefore, psychologists believe that children who sleep with their parents develop faster. 
But the children, whom their parents put next to them on demand, calmly “leave” to their bed over time, because their “need for a mother” was successfully satisfied. 
It is written about its danger, about the fact that the mother prevents the child from sleeping, and so on and so forth. 
If vomiting occurs during the self-sleep method, then go to the baby immediately, change his clothes, clean the room, change the bed linen and follow the plan further, as indicated. If you remain calm and confident, the child will quickly understand that vomiting does not affect your decision, and will learn to fall asleep on his own, ”then I felt bad – I could not imagine how I could bring my beloved, desired, tender manual girl to SUCH? Is it normal? It’s generally acceptable – so to scoff at someone who can not fight back, so depends on you? Or am I not understanding something? 
And that separate sleep kills GW. And children really need breastfeeding at least up to a year, and preferably longer. 
But that’s not the point. The fact is that the brain grows, the phases of sleep lengthen. And her son lengthened, and my daughter. Regardless of the chest. 
Well, like terrible nightmares, etc. The disease affects its development, and this is far from the only problem of such children. 
However, this is done in case of serious violations, and to investigate the norms of sleep in this way – why and who needs it when there are separately sleeping children? 
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e. solitary. All ways to manage children’s sleep come down to reducing contact with parents as early as possible and reducing feedings at night. There is widespread advice to “don’t let babies get used to falling asleep while eating, including while breastfeeding,” “don’t teach a baby to fall asleep when a parent soothes and caresses the baby.” These tips are fundamentally contrary to the very context of the evolution of infant sleep in relation to parental emotions. Today, more and more children are breastfeeding in the United States. If breastfeeding is so widespread, and proving to be biologically correct, according to cross-cultural studies, the current recommendations for sleep management will not only not work, but will even interfere with many mothers.” 
Using this kind of criteria to evaluate “developmental progress” can do more harm than good, especially if the actual sleep conditions differ from the sleep conditions for which such an assessment is intended. 
This is not evidence of parental incompetence, but rather a lack of flexibility in interpreting and applying the advice given by health professionals.” 
If a child does not sleep enough, his nervous system suffers, if he cannot develop normally, if he is really sick! Here, visits to doctors and even medicines are justified – there are situations that are really serious. But in 99% (a figure from me, approximate) of cases, we are not talking about sleep disturbance. It’s about sleep patterns. And if the baby wakes up to suck on the breast – this is the norm! It is important for mom to get enough sleep, co-sleeping helps, as well as daytime sleep. 
In every possible way try to improve his sleep without a mother, resort to tricks and tricks. All this has its place. There is no place to be accustomed to a separate sleep, accustoming through tears, weaning in order for the child to finally “sleep normally”. 
I am sorry that I spent so many nerves and strength worrying about why my child is not sleeping as soundly as I would like, why I cannot put him to bed and go about my business. I’m sorry that one of my grandmothers raised children on a schedule, and the second didn’t raise children at all, but worked, that my grandfather still exhorts me to put my daughter in a crib and accustom her to her, that my progressive mother in the first difficult months of my girl is so I was worried that this was “breast slavery”, that it was impossible to sleep with a breast, that it was too hard for me. I’m sorry that a bunch of kids around the world are doing all sorts of horrors like being left screaming and being taught to sleep. 
This happened! Even though it never seemed to happen. Well, in a wheelchair on the street – it’s easy. No nipples, thumb sucking, transient objects, etc. 
Someday we will finish with GV and get some sleep (and I will finally smoke a hookah 🙂 ). But for now from 80-90 years (I am an optimist) of my life, I am ready not to get enough sleep for a couple of years in order to give my daughter the most important thing that she needs – breastfeeding and my mother’s carcass nearby. 🙂 
Each child needs their own approach, and their own standards. Some children like to sleep more, while others, on the contrary, refuse the next daytime sleep early. So how do you know your baby is getting enough sleep if the sleep rations don’t match the amount of sleep your baby sleeps? 
How does the baby feel while awake? A healthy baby (over 3 months old), who sleeps well day and night, behaves calmly for a significant part of his wakefulness, does not cry all the time he is awake, is able to observe what is happening and concentrate on an interesting subject or activity for a short time. Older babies, who can crawl and/or sit on their own, can keep themselves occupied for a while if their mother is nearby or even sometimes without her presence. If the baby, on the contrary, is very capricious, calm only in his mother’s arms, if she constantly distracts him with something, cannot fix her attention on objects, quickly starts to cry, fidget and get nervous, then this may mean that he does not get enough sleep. Although this criterion is very relative, and it is necessary to study the situation in more detail. 
This is a very controversial criterion, since there are many reasons for poor appetite, but poor sleep cannot be ruled out as one of the main ones. If the baby often wakes up at night, sleeps short dreams throughout the day, then he does not have time to “enter” the deep phase of sleep, and his body does not get enough rest, the level of growth hormone in the blood decreases, simply put – it grows more slowly. Because of this, appetite can theoretically decrease, and weight can grow more slowly. Therefore, if the baby does not eat well, you need to think not only about how to increase physical activity, or stimulate his activity more, but also take into account whether he sleeps enough. 