When should i tell my parents im pregnant: When to tell people you are pregnant
When to tell people you are pregnant
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For many women, choosing the right time to tell family and friends that they are pregnant is hard. There is no right answer. But there are several things you may wish to think about when making this decision.
Ask yourself the questions below to help work out what’s right for you.
Who should I tell first?
If you have a partner, the decision about who to tell, as well as when and how, is best made with them.
In many ways, it may be harder to tell close family and friends that you are pregnant than people you do not know as well. So, it may be worth planning who you will tell first about your pregnancy and how you will do it.
You may decide you want to tell your family and close friends first. Then they will be available to provide support as early as possible.
How do I tell them?
Close friends and family may prefer to be told personally.
It’s worth remembering that if you announce your pregnancy on social media, you may have little control over who views your announcement and when. These public announcements may draw significant attention, personal stories, and advice, which may or may not be invited and/or wanted.
How do I tell someone who’s infertile or lost a baby?
When you tell people you are pregnant, your friends and family will almost certainly be very happy for you. But some people may not be able to show their happiness for you as enthusiastically as others. Those who have lost a baby, or are having trouble getting pregnant may find the news difficult.
It may help to tell these friends in private and before you tell others, letting them know you realise your news may not be easy for them.
What if I tell people I’m pregnant and then have a miscarriage?
Many women choose to delay announcing a pregnancy at least until the end of the first trimester (12 weeks into their pregnancy). This is usually because of concerns about the risk of miscarriage (pregnancy loss) during this time.
When deciding the right time to tell people you are pregnant, you might want to think about how you would handle a miscarriage were it to happen. Many people would consider a miscarriage so devastating that they would be too distressed to discuss it with others.
On the other hand, by telling people you are pregnant, support may be available in the event of a miscarriage.
When should I tell my employer that I’m pregnant?
Unless your doctor has told you it is unsafe, it is possible to work while you are pregnant.
There is no law saying you need to tell your employer at any specific time that you are pregnant. But both Australian law and your employment contract, agreement or award (if you have one) will include certain rights and responsibilities.
You need to give your employer at least 10 weeks notice if you are planning to take parental leave. You must give them written notice of your leave and return dates. These dates should be confirmed at least 4 weeks before your leave starts.
It’s a good idea to tell your employer you are pregnant before they hear it from somebody else. That’s because there may have to be some changes made to your working arrangements. For example, you may have to avoid certain tasks that are a health and safety risk, depending on what your work involves.
In Australia, you are protected by law against discrimination during pregnancy. That means you cannot be treated unfairly because you are pregnant. This means you can’t be sacked, given fewer hours, or overlooked for a promotion because you are pregnant.
When should I tell my colleagues?
Early in your pregnancy you may experience symptoms such as tiredness or morning sickness. You may also need to take time off for appointments.
This could affect both your personal and working relationships with your co-workers if they don’t know why it’s happening. It’s often a good idea to tell your co-workers you are pregnant once you have told your boss.
A workplace can offer significant personal support during pregnancy. It may be especially valuable should you experience pregnancy complications.
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Pregnancy Announcements – the Do’s and Don’ts!
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Here’s what you’ll find out:
- When should you announce your pregnancy to family?
- How to announce your pregnancy to family?
- How many tell their family before an official announcement?
- When to announce your pregnancy to everyone?
- How to announce your pregnancy to everyone?
- How many get creative with their pregnancy announcement?
- When is the right time to announce your pregnancy?
- Is nine weeks too early to announce pregnancy?
- Why is 12 weeks safe to announce pregnancy?
- Pregnancy announcement photos – inspiration for you!
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1. When should you announce your pregnancy to family?
Everyone’s circumstances are different, but we found most parents-to-be told their family they were expecting when they were between four and eight weeks pregnant.
- 5% 4 weeks pregnant or less.
- 22% 4-5 weeks pregnant.
- 23% 6-7 weeks pregnant.
- 17% 8-9 weeks pregnant.
- 10% 10-11 weeks pregnant.
- 16% 12-13 weeks pregnant.
- 4% 14-15 weeks pregnant.
- 2% 16-17 weeks pregnant.
- 1% 18 weeks pregnant or more.
A couple of points to consider:
“I actually think it’s a really personal thing and I support people who announce it earlier/later than my preference – which was the beginning of the second trimester. If you’re announcing it earlier, you need to be prepared for the fact you may miscarry, and you will then need to inform those people of that fact. If you leave it later and are visibly showing – even if it’s no one else’s business – you need to be prepared that people may start noticing and have an opinion. For my second pregnancy, we told family and close friends immediately, but didn’t tell work until early in the second trimester.”
“Telling close family and friends is important as you’ll need support if anything goes wrong – but personally I don’t want the rest of the world knowing my personal business.”
2. How to announce your pregnancy to family?
Congratulations! You’ve tested positive! Morning sickness has most likely become a daily occurrence and now it’s time to tell your family! No doubt you’re wondering how to share your special news with your nearest and dearest.
- Do you sit them down and tell them?
- Are they located far away so you have no choice but to do it over the phone/zoom?
- Or do you have some fun with it, and slip a hint in somewhere?
We found that 68% of expecting parents announced their pregnancy to their family in person, one-by-one. Nineteen per cent did it over the phone, 8% at dinner and the remaining 5% announced via other methods – such as using photo gift tags on Christmas presents, gift boxes, customised Christmas crackers, a surprise photo, or hints that there is a, ‘bun in the oven!’
3. How many people tell their family before an official announcement?
Telling the closest people in your life you’re pregnant before you announce to everyone else is the preferred choice for most parents-to-be. In fact 93% of parents surveyed spoke to their family before letting the general ‘public’ know.
A couple of points to consider:
“Sometimes telling family early can mean they tell everyone your news instead of you. It’s a fine balance!”
“Do what you want. There’s no right or wrong way to announce a pregnancy. Although, most future Grandparents want to know before you make a social media announcement.”
4. When to announce your pregnancy to everyone?
It’s a widely discussed topic that generally holds very little judgement from others due to the fact it’s a deeply personal choice. The most common time pregnancies are announced is once the mother reaches 12 weeks. This is because mothers are in what is considered the ‘safe zone’ from a medical standpoint.
“I don’t think there is a universal ‘right’ time for people to announce their pregnancy, as each person is so different and has different circumstances and experiences. I think that you should tell whoever you want to celebrate and share the joy with, but also have the support too in case you need it. Some people are more private while others are open to sharing more, and both are totally okay. I think we need to take the shame out of miscarriage and part of that is having the conversation that it happened.”
We asked the Cadenshae community when they announced their pregnancy to everyone, this is what we found out:
- 0% 4 weeks pregnant or less.
- 0% 4-5 weeks pregnant.
- 1% 6-7 weeks pregnant.
- 2% 8-9 weeks pregnant.
- 4% 10-11 weeks pregnant.
- 32% 12-13 weeks pregnant.
- 24% 14-15 weeks pregnant.
- 8% 16-17 weeks pregnant.
- 5% 18-19 weeks pregnant.
- 9% 20-21 weeks pregnant.
- 2% 22-23 weeks pregnant.
- 2% 24-25 weeks pregnant.
- 1% 26-27 weeks pregnant.
- 0% 28 weeks pregnant or more.
- 10% I didn’t.
5. How to announce your pregnancy to everyone?
With social media so completely ingrained in our lives, it has become the most efficient and effective method of communication for most announcements. It’s no wonder then that social media sites ‘Facebook’ and ‘Instagram’ were the preferred platform in which to announce a pregnancy for 75% of those surveyed.
Below are the most popular methods for announcing a pregnancy:
- 55% Facebook.
- 20% Instagram.
- 20% In person (or by phone for those far away).
- 4% Other.
- 1% Email.
A few points to consider:
“Do whatever you want, whenever! It’s your joy and story! Be mindful if you have friends that are struggling with pregnancy, maybe tell them separately. ”
“If you’re not ready to tell people, don’t feel pressured to.”
“It’s completely up to what feels right for you.”
6. How many get creative with their pregnancy announcement?
Along with the rise of social media, the idea of finding unique and creative ways to announce your pregnancy is becoming more and more popular. If you want to get creative, be sure to have a good think about what you want to do, and ensure you come up with the right pregnancy announcement wording for the most impact!
- 57% of parents get creative with their pregnancy announcement.
- 43% of parents get the message out there in a more simple fashion.
7. When is the right time to announce your pregnancy?
“I think the right time to announce your pregnancy is as soon as you want to. Some people want others to know early on and have support through everything no matter what happens. There is no right answer, it’s a personal decision and whatever you choose, is the right time. ”
We asked mothers when the right time to announce a pregnancy was. The responses were:
- 6% Less than 8 weeks pregnant.
- 9% 8-12 weeks pregnant.
- 79% 12-16 weeks pregnant.
- 4% 16-20 weeks pregnant.
- 2% 20-24 weeks pregnant.
- 0% 24-28 weeks pregnant.
- 0% 28 weeks pregnant or more.
A few points to consider:
“Honestly, I think there is no right or wrong time, just what feels right for each person. We chose to announce once we had our initial scans done and had seen our doctor.”
“I would rather not tell anyone. If something goes wrong (which I have experienced) it was far easier to deal with it on my own rather than having to worry about everyone else’s emotions. Just my personal opinion though, other people like having the support of everyone knowing.”
“Really the right time is when you’re ready, but for me once I got the all clear at 12 weeks I wanted to scream it from the rooftops! I just somehow held out until 20 weeks for the gender reveal. ”
“I wish I had announced my second pregnancy right when I found out, then I would’ve been able to have everyone share in my grief over my miscarriage too. Instead of just trying to smile and shrug when asked, ‘are you going to have another?’ or ‘why didn’t you try to have them closer in age?’”
“I think 12 weeks plus is the best time to announce as seven/eight weeks is the most common time to miscarry. I recommend only telling the people who you would also be comfortable telling that you’ve miscarried. This is so you don’t get people coming up to you asking how your pregnancy is going and them and you feeling awkward.”
8. Is nine weeks too early to announce pregnancy?
As stated, there is a higher chance of miscarriage in the first 12 weeks, which is why some mums prefer to wait until then. Many believe it’s easier to tell only their closest friends and family of a miscarriage, rather than everyone else.
However, a few points to consider:
“I’ve had two miscarriages in my first trimester. After the first, you find out how common a miscarriage can be and so to avoid having to let everyone know I had a miscarriage, it was easier to wait with my second.”
“Give yourself time to enjoy the special news before telling everyone. It’s a special time and kind of fun having a secret from the world.”
“Any time that’s right for you is right. A lot of parents are a bit more confident (and mum is usually starting to feel a bit better) in the second trimester. After a miscarriage, I was very hesitant to announce too soon.”
“Any pregnancy (successful or lost) should be recognised, celebrated, and grieved if need be. The notion of making women believe they have to wait until 12 weeks disregards all those babes who weren’t ready for earth and grew their wings before the 12 week mark. Ultimately, the decision is up to the parents, but no one should be made to feel it’s ‘too early’ to honour the new life they’ve created.”
9. Why is 12 weeks safe to announce pregnancy?
The chances of a miscarriage are drastically reduced once a pregnancy reaches 12 weeks. Referred to as the ‘safe zone,’’ it is the most common point in time when pregnancies are announced.
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How to tell mom, parents about pregnancy
“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why are women so often afraid to say this phrase for the first time? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl, this can still be understood somehow. But why do adult women feel such fear, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and a child (whether the first, second, third, fifth …) – they expect with joy?
Psychologist Alla Khvan comments on the situation.
Alla Hvan
It has been noticed that in today’s society, today’s women do sometimes have a fear of motherhood. Motherhood does not really fit into the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements … Future motherhood is beginning to be perceived as the boundary between normal life and the life where all popular values seem inaccessible.
Against this background, the fear of admitting to your mother that you are pregnant is quite understandable. But he himself is, in a sense, just a shadow. And the figure that gives this shadow is in fact the need for mother’s support and the uncertainty that she will receive it.
Previously, the older woman, the mother, helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught the young woman how to feed, she remembered how her mother did the same for her. Somewhere inside, in the subconscious, a modern woman has a need for this experience, for her mother to say: “Don’t be afraid, I’m near, everything will be fine.”
Today, in more traditional cultures and families where this continuity has been preserved – in each family there are many children, and no one has the thought that talking about pregnancy is scary. Where there is a third, there is a fourth; where there is a fifth, there is a sixth. It is normal, natural and harmonious – the birth of a child.
In modern society, indeed, with the birth of a child, a woman will have to drastically change her life. And she wants to count on her mother’s help in this.
But mother has her own doubts, her own expectations from her daughter. Often, she does not want her daughter to stay at home, to be a housewife. As a rule, a modern mother sees her daughter as a modern woman, successful, reaching career heights. And not every mother approves when her daughter wants to make a stop in this or even turn off the “right” path. In all honesty, an “unsuccessful” daughter deprives the mother of the opportunity to consider herself a “successful” mother.
And then it turns out to be unimportant whether the first child is expected by a woman, or the second or third. She begins to worry that her mother will say: “What a wrong time! Why are you doing this now. You will miss the chance to advance, to succeed.” The most interesting thing is that mothers don’t tell this to someone in the end, but fears that they will say still remain. Sometimes this happens because the daughter did not have the experience of experiencing unconditional acceptance by her mother.
So, pregnancy, voluntarily or involuntarily, is perceived as an event that can ruin life or change it irrevocably…
What until recently was natural and taken for granted: “Pregnancy is not a disease” is now sometimes perceived differently. And if a woman “decides” on the third, on the fourth – she seems either a heroine or not quite in her mind. In any case, her decision looks somewhat extravagant.
Who is responsible for what?
When women who are expecting a child (I repeat, it doesn’t matter if it’s the first, second or sixth child) call the helpline regarding unplanned pregnancy, their fears are especially understandable if they live in an apartment with their mother, are financially dependent on her or she looks after the child. In such cases, we discuss with the caller where whose responsibility is and for what. After all, the truth is that no one has yet canceled the life rule “Whose responsibility is that and power.”
If a woman takes on this responsibility, it is easier for her to build a dialogue with her mother. She can say: “Yes, mom, I understand that you are tired. I am very grateful to you for your help. But I won’t kill my child…” Then there can be quite a business conversation about how she sees her duties, what she will do for this child. And then it turns out that the story is not about money and not about square meters.
When I listen to a caller on our line about her fears and doubts about how to finally inform my mother, at some point I notice that she speaks and thinks only like a daughter, and not at all like a future mother. And it turns out that the same woman thinks, feels and even sounds differently depending on who she now perceives herself to be, a negligent daughter or a future mother.
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Her priorities are changing: what is really important to her, what she considers right for herself and her child. Childish resentments and fears go somewhere, patience, wisdom, gratitude appear. She will be able to start a conversation with her mother, and this may already be a dialogue, a search for solutions, and not mutual reproaches and accusations.
What is happening with mom
When there is tension between close people, it would be better to figure out what is wrong?
It doesn’t hurt to be attentive and see what’s really going on with mom. It is clear that she has her anxieties and worries. There may be, among other things, selfish fears that here she is, already an elderly, sick woman. She implicitly hoped that everything had already settled down, she had done everything she could, and now she can be calm: her grandchildren are growing up. And now the situation is changing. Moreover, a mother may not internally admit this to herself, but say: “I’m worried about you, you will create poverty, you yourself will be left without work, you will turn into an old woman, you will not be able to educate your children.”
Or maybe my mother’s picture of what a daughter’s life should be like does not coincide with reality and her daughter’s ideas.
Or she got used to controlling her daughter more or less, and then suddenly the situation got out of control and she was just scared. After all, people sometimes control others not out of malice, but out of a certain distrust of life.
It is likely that the mother is really scared, or lonely, or she lacks attention.
How to talk to mom about pregnancy
Girls often call the helpline and say: “I’m afraid to tell my mother about pregnancy.” I’m starting to figure out what they’re afraid of. It turns out – screams, scandals, sometimes they formulate: “She will kill me!” When I ask them how they think their mother will feel after this news, the girls think deeply.
At some point, they suddenly realize that nothing terrible will happen, well, mom will scream from strong feelings (not the first and not the last time), and in general, strange as it may seem, this is such a form of love and care. This awareness helps them to treat what is happening as a natural phenomenon, “a thunderstorm in early May”, for example.
Expecting a predictable reaction, you can prepare a glass of water, heart drops.
It is important to feel confident. Because only calm confidence will be a kind of deterrent for the development of the conflict.
If the conflict continues
We proceed from a situation where we want to keep peace in the family. The main thing is to speak like a human being, showing that your mother is a person dear to you. “Mom, I see that you are worried, nervous. You are so important to me and it is important for me that we hear each other. Understand that this is not a whim, this is our child and it hurts me when you … “That is, the rule is simple – do not ignore the feelings of another and your own too.
Resentment and looking for someone to blame will definitely not move you forward. You need to look at the situation not with the eyes of an offended girl, but of a woman who knows what all this is for, what she is fighting for, who is building a calm and kind world for her baby.
If a mother is worried because of objective reasons, for example, because her daughter has health problems, it is especially important to show that you are able to take care of your health. Tell your mother which doctors you have already consulted with, under the supervision of which you are going to be observed. This is where the reverse law works: “whose power is that and responsibility.”
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Mom, don’t kill me, I’m pregnant!
Abortion by hand
In Russia, out of 1000 pregnancies, 102 are pregnancies of teenagers from 12 to 17 years old. At the same time, few “carry out” before childbirth: approximately 70% have an abortion, 14% lose a child in a miscarriage. The vast majority – almost 70% – of pregnant teenage girls are unmarried.
It is often the parents who initiate the abortion of a pregnant teenage daughter. Shocked by the confession of their daughter, the parents bring their daughter to the clinic almost by force. But, having quickly solved, as it seems to them, an urgent problem and eliminated the “shame of the family”, parents do not take into account long-term problems: according to statistics, up to 70% of girls, having had an abortion at a young age, then cannot become pregnant. And that means no grandchildren.
What if the unwanted event has already happened? How can a teenage girl tell her parents about him? How can parents survive a legitimate shock and act based not on emotions, and not on the basis of momentary, but on the true, long-term interests of their daughter and the whole family?
How to tell and how to accept
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According to Yulia Mytnitskaya, a psychologist at the Crisis Situations Office for Pregnant Women , , the first and most important thing in this situation for a girl is to accept her pregnancy as a fact and tell her parents about it. It happens that, struck by such news, a girl falls into a stupor, hides from everyone, and then suddenly, for a considerable period of time, begins to act radically, trying to “get rid of the problem” on her own, having read the Internet or heard enough of her girlfriends. It can be not only harmful, but deadly.
If a girl is afraid to tell her parents about everything, she can call the crisis center for pregnant women, which are now available in many cities. The specialists of the center will help her navigate and tell her, literally by words, how to pronounce “such” in her father’s house.
After a girl tells her parents about her pregnancy, the number one task for her and her family is to try to understand each other’s feelings. Parents need to see behind the daughter’s “misconduct” her pain and fear. Indeed, although the reasons leading to the pregnancy of a teenage girl can be different (a girl can become a victim of sexual violence in the family or outside it, and there are also cases when teenage girls become pregnant on purpose, considering this an “initiation” into adulthood) , in most cases, finding out that you are pregnant at the age of 13-14 is a huge stress. And the main thing for a pregnant girl is not to lose the support, protection of her family, not to lose contact with her parents. She can behave boldly, defiantly and in any way, but in her heart she is waiting for help.
But it is also important for a girl to understand that the news of her pregnancy is no less stressful for her parents. For parents, this news poses a lot of problems, material and moral, which they, as adults, will have to solve. However, a large part of the responsibility for what happened to their daughter lies with the parents. According to psychologists, the lack of contact with the mother is considered the main reason for the daughter’s early pregnancy. Often no one told the girl what happens to her body at the age of 13-14, what new opportunities and risks appear. She is defenseless against her growing up, does not know about the intricacies of communication with the opposite sex, responsibility and consequences.
It is important to analyze your relationship with your child and try to protect him from irreparable decisions: succumbing to despair, a pregnant girl may run away from home or commit suicide.
Quite often it is her parents who initiate the abortion of a teenage girl. But according to statistics, up to 70% of girls, having had an abortion at a young age, then cannot become pregnant. This means that there will be no grandchildren
The whole family can participate in making a decision about a future child: parents and the future father have the right to vote. But the final decision should be made by the pregnant girl. And it is important for her older relatives to remember that early motherhood is better than late regrets about its absence.
Dad under 16
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Don’t push the theme of a daughter’s and father’s wedding against their will. Conflicts in a couple will not positively affect either the course of pregnancy or the upbringing of the child himself.
If the father-to-be is also a minor, his parents must find out about the pregnancy. Even if their son is not ready for fatherhood, perhaps they themselves will be able to help and support the mother of their future grandson. If the young father is ready to create a family, then the acquaintance of the parents is simply necessary.
If the minor father of a child raises the question of his paternity, he has the right to do so. But it is not difficult to solve this issue today – there is a paternity test. A minor mother, regardless of age, can submit a joint application with the father of the child to the registry office to establish paternity. Here, even the consent of the girl’s parents (or her guardian) is not necessary. If the young father refuses to submit such an application, then the girl can go to court and demand the establishment of paternity. The only condition is that she must be 14 years old. Until that age, such a claim may be filed by her parents or guardian.
If a young mother is a schoolgirl
It is desirable for parents to organize a young mother’s day so that she has time to take care of the child, have a rest and be able to continue her education.
If the mother is studying at school, it is better to interrupt her studies for a while or switch to home schooling than to expose the girl to constant additional stress. And for others, especially students, it is wrong to constantly see a pregnant classmate. After all, this is not the norm – when a girl becomes pregnant at the age of 13-15.
Support forms
Courses for pregnant women. Photo: Deacon Andrey Radkevich
You can offer your daughter a partner birth (when someone close is present during the birth). This is especially important if the child’s father is not involved in the life of the pregnant woman. A birth partner can be a mother or an older friend who has given birth – the choice depends on the girl herself. But don’t stress on it.
Pregnancy courses can be a big help for a girl. On them, she not only learns about the psychophysiology of pregnancy, childbirth, child care, but also stays in an environment of “like-minded people”, people with similar interests. Such an environment for a stressed girl can become positive. Psychologists work at the courses, who can be told about the specifics of their situation and receive advice.
It is important for the parents of a teenage girl not only to take on part of the care for her, but also to help their daughter grow up. And if the pregnancy occurred before his awakening, it is necessary to awaken him, using various options: courses in preparation for childbirth, communication with mothers who are in a state of desired pregnancy or have babies, going to children’s stores with vests and rattles.
And very important: it is important for the parents of a teenage girl not only to take on some of the cares for her, but also to help their daughter grow up, analyze mistakes, learn to overcome difficulties and make independent decisions.
If you were kicked out of the house?
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Sometimes parents, outraged by their daughter’s pregnancy and her refusal to have an abortion, simply drive her out of the house. In this case, the expectant mother has several options.
If she is registered in her parents’ apartment, then by law no one has the right to expel her. Therefore, in this case, you can safely go to the district police officer or call the police – the competent authorities will quickly cool the hot heads of the parents. Also, this situation may be of interest to guardianship authorities that protect the rights of minors. This is a legal way to return to the apartment.
Parents can be given time to calm down and recover. Most likely, they will very quickly regret their hasty decision and will do their best to look for the expelled daughter. In the meantime, you can go to relatives or friends, with whom you can “sit out” for a while. It is not necessary to tell them about the pregnancy. The main thing is not to turn off the phone in the heat of desperation so that parents can get through and call back.
But it happens that returning home, which is legally possible, becomes an unbearable torture for the expectant mother. Unreconciled parents arrange a real hell for a young mother. It is impossible to live in stress months before the birth of a child, this will affect both the health of the girl and the health of the unborn baby. In such cases, it makes sense to really leave home and ask for shelter and support in crisis centers that deal with helping women in difficult situations. In such centers, you can get both shelter and material, legal and psychological assistance. For example, the following organizations operate in Moscow and the Moscow Region:
– Crisis Center “House for Mom”: +7 (495) 542-00-00
– Crisis Center for Women and Children: +7 (499) 977-17-05, (499) 729 -51-81, (495) 492-26-81, helpline: +7(499) 977-20-10
– Assistance service for pregnant women in a crisis situation of the Family and Childhood Charitable Foundation: +7 ( +7 (916) 256-44-26
– Charitable Foundation for the Protection of the Family, Motherhood and Childhood: 8 (800) -200-05-07
– Crisis Pregnancy Center “Family and Childhood” (Ramenskoye city) , MO ): 8-926-2064197
Also in different parts of Moscow there are state social shelters for children and adolescents who find themselves in a difficult life situation.
Do not be afraid that you will be left on the street without a penny of money and die of hunger and cold together with your baby! Today this problem can be solved.
Rights of an underage mother: what is required by law
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An unmarried underage mother is herself a child in the face of the law. She does not have full civil capacity and therefore needs to protect her rights and interests. However, the law recognizes her parental rights and establishes special rules for their implementation. According to Article 62 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, minor parents have the following rights:
– the right to live together with the child and participate in his upbringing;
– the right to independently exercise parental rights upon reaching the age of sixteen years. Until this age, the newborn will be assigned a guardian who will raise the child along with his parents. If disputes arise between the guardian and the parents, they will be resolved by the guardianship authorities.