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While we were in intensive care, neither the manager nor the teacher, under whom this all happened, deigned to call and clarify not even what the condition of the child was, but whether the child was alive. When we were in the kindergarten, when the doctors were trying to understand what was happening with the child, I repeatedly asked the teacher and the manager, I asked repeatedly if my child fell, if anyone hit her. To which they told me: “No, no, no, everything was fine.” Naturally, I informed my husband about what was happening with the child, he was away far from the city. He found out the phone number of the teacher at whom it all happened. It was a substitute teacher. Previously, we had 2 main educators, one was left, but it turns out that substitutions constantly come in one of the shifts. These are completely new faces every time. The husband found out the phone number of the substitute teacher, phoned her. And she admitted over the phone that the child had fallen, that at the time of the fall she was not next to the child, but she saw that she landed on her ass and hit her back too. As to whether Sophia hit her head, she couldn’t tell. And on the same day in the evening, the child was taken from the intensive care unit with me to the hospital, where they did a CT scan to rule out a closed craniocerebral injury. Fortunately, this was ruled out, of course, they took blood in intensive care to identify the cause of seizures, ruled out encephalitis, meningitis, took blood for latent infections and congenital diseases. On November 25, we were transferred to the hospital on Gorky Street, where we underwent rehabilitation. We underwent all the necessary examinations on Gorky and were advised to contact the Avicenna medical center in Rostov to do a three-hour EEG video monitoring, because Sofia had convulsions that day.
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The kindergarten began to put pressure on epilepsy, they announced to everyone that their daughter had epilepsy. But in our family no one suffers from epilepsy, the child had no signs of epilepsy before. And how can a teacher who has no medical education make such a diagnosis? – the girl’s mother Yulia Frolova is indignant.

On November 24, 2022, a three-year-old girl from the kindergarten “Svetlyachok” in the city of Volgodonsk was taken to the intensive care unit of the emergency hospital in an ambulance in serious condition

After the incident, Sofia underwent all kinds of examinations: X-rays, MRI, EEG, a blood test for various infections, she was taken to Rostov for an epileptologist’s consultation and a three-hour electroencephalogram was done, the doctor assured that epilepsy in Sofia’s case was out of the question. The neurologist, to whom the Frolovs turned, confirmed the absence of epilepsy. Presumably there was a “single convulsive syndrome”. As a result of the fall, the girl received a painful shock, and her body reacted in this way. And the fact that at the moment of severe pain no one spared the girl could increase her fear and also provoke a worsening of her condition.
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– On November 30, we were discharged from the medical rehabilitation department, and on December 3, we went with the child for EEG monitoring. As a result of a three-hour examination, no epilepsy was found, that is, this is not epilepsy.

Results of the examination at the Avicenna Clinic

In addition, we signed up there for a consultation with a neurologist and an epileptologist. We were told that we have a perfectly healthy child, there is no epilepsy, everything is fine. Most likely, as a result of the fall, the child had either a painful shock or a strong fright, and against this background, her body worked in this way. Well, you understand, I am a mother, this is not enough for me, I would like to hear the opinion of another specialist. I wrote it down here in Drozdova, a neurologist. She immediately said: “I remember this case, I was called to the intensive care unit for a consultation. I immediately said that this is not epilepsy.” She looked at the EEG results again, we were diagnosed with a single convulsive syndrome, and she confirmed almost word for word what the Rostov epileptologist told us.
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Doctors ruled out epilepsy in Sofia.

Sophia’s mother immediately after the incident did not want to make a fuss and make a scandal, but the attitude towards the situation of the head of the kindergarten Larisa Lebedeva caused indignation among the girl’s parents. None of them blame the teacher for the girl’s fall. Children fall, but being in kindergarten, parents are sure that the child should be under the close supervision of the teacher, and if something happens to him, the teacher should not ignore it, and there must be a connection with the parents. And if this was not the case, it means that, in their opinion, this is, first of all, the lack of control on the part of the leadership. nine0005

It was not possible to find a photo of Larisa Lebedeva on the Internet. In this photo, she is in the center (eighth from the right).

– The head of the kindergarten “Firefly” Larisa Yuryevna Lebedeva believes that they are in no way, in no way to blame, that they did the right thing at that time. When I wrote to the parent chat about what had happened, it turned out that after substitute caregivers began to visit us, many children began to write at night. And one of the children complains that the arms of the legs hurt, I think that, probably, this is all happening on the nerves. One mother even reported that the other day she took a child without a fingernail. How could a child fall to lose a nail? What’s going on in this garden? We don’t understand. I would like to understand, I would like to have permanent caregivers, after all, these are kids, it is hard for them to change caregivers, new faces. Of course, attention to each child is important. I have a question for the teacher who was at that time during the fall. I don’t blame her for the baby falling, no. When 29a person in a group, how can one teacher keep track of everyone? But the very fact that she saw that the child had fallen, that she was lethargic after the fall, did not behave as usual. The question is why didn’t she call me? All this critical condition of the child could have been avoided. And now, of course, it is not clear how all this can turn out in the future, because she had oxygen starvation in addition to everything else. She was pale and dizzy. When I came to the kindergarten and began to call her, she heard me, recognized the voice, tried to focus her eyes on me, but her head was spinning and her eyes ran away. By this time, the manager was also hooked. Someone from the ambulance team told her that this was one of the signs of epilepsy. But we have all the results of the examination, which confirm that our child does not suffer from epilepsy, and I want them not to put this stigma on our child.
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Julia and Alexander Frolov, the critical situation could have been avoided if the teacher had responded in time

Now our girl, thank God, feels like before the fall. She is funny jumping, running, laughing. She seems to be forgetting what happened. Naturally, she remembers the fall, she remembers that she hit her back. By the way, when we were discharged, transferred to the hospital, I examined the child and in the lumbar region near the spine, I found a bruise in her. This suggests that there was still a blow. nine0015

Luckily, little Sophia is doing well now, as before the incident. N o her parents are in no hurry to send her back to kindergarten.

The juvenile affairs inspector told me that she came to the kindergarten, conducted an investigation, and this substitute teacher Lyudmila Georgievna Fandeeva already began to say something completely different. She said that at that moment she was nearby, that Sophia didn’t just fall, but simply slid to her feet and didn’t hit anything. That is, the teacher began to speak completely differently.
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Now Sophia feels absolutely healthy, she is ready to go to kindergarten, but the Frolovs are not yet ready to continue taking their child to Firefly. Mom admitted that she was afraid to take her to the garden. After all, nothing has changed since then. Constantly changing caregivers in a group with three-year-old children is not a favorable practice from the point of view of child psychology. Unfamiliar aunts do not inspire confidence in kids. And if the educators treat them without special attention, then going to kindergarten turns into the forced presence of the child in the children’s team while the parents are at work.
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– How can I take my child to kindergarten? How to return, as a normal life, I do not know, really. I didn’t want all this, I didn’t want to raise a scandal. If they called me, supported. But the manager started calling only after I told my parents about what had happened. Many parents began to resent, and apparently, it also dawned on her. She called me and said she wanted to talk. And I told her that I had nothing to talk about with her anymore, I had to call when I was standing in the intensive care corridor, when we were being examined, and now why call? For what? At first I refused, my husband would not let me lie. I say, let’s not file any application, I told the PDN inspector to stop the investigation and not start a criminal case. I just signed up, you know? But the last straw was when I was told that the head teacher gathered the educators and praised: “Well done, you are doing the right thing, you did everything right, it’s not our fault. There are hidden infections, hidden diseases. Well done girls.” This was the last straw, and then, despite the fact that I was alone in the city with 2 children, I took the children under my arm and took the statement to the police. I was waiting for a human relationship, you know?
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For many children, adaptation to kindergarten is very difficult, they are still small anyway, but here, can you imagine, every day a new face? It also happened that in 2 shifts there were completely two strangers. One of the parents heard how one of them shouted loudly at the children, the other – the young one constantly sticks on the phone, and the children are left to their own devices. We have a teacher, Yulia Viktorovna, who is permanent, she really cares about the children. She called and asked for Sophia. When I came to the kindergarten to pick up things, she came up to me, asked how my daughter was, hugged me, and cried with me. She is a mother herself and also worries about my child. And the manager does nothing at all, – says the girl’s mother. nine0015

Sophia’s Pope Alexander Frolov believes that the police should have been contacted immediately after the incident.

Pope Sofia at the time of the incident was on a business trip far outside of Volgodonsk, but was always in touch. From the first day, the man urged his wife to file a police report against the kindergarten employees, but the mother did not want to make a fuss.

– I am sure that the application had to be written immediately, because time was lost. This played, let’s say, in favor of the head. Because the child, roughly speaking, over time, the injury went away, but it was not fixed, well, only with a camera on the phone. It was no longer possible to conduct a forensic medical examination due to the circumstances. A very big question, of course, to the manager. An initial check is now being carried out with the police on this fact, it is very alarming that they are still trying to evade responsibility, questioning everything that happened there, I mean the correctness of their actions. They even try to lie to the last, they say that there was no fall. nine0015

On December 11, 2022, the Frolovs filed a complaint with the police against the leadership of the kindergarten.

– The statement was written here in all instances, if, perhaps due to some acquaintances, she tries to evade responsibility, I don’t know, or if this somehow affects the attitude towards our child, the child will eventually walk to the garden, then I intend to go further to Moscow. In principle, therefore, we turned to your editorial office so that this would not disappear, let’s say, and on the spot, as we say in Russian, “we didn’t blur it out.”
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We had 2 constant educators, everything was fine, everything was fine. The organizational moment does not interest any of the parents. Are there enough educators or not enough, the question is, why are our educators being touched? Why they are transferred to other groups, and this is the responsibility of the leader. The manager must take clear full responsibility for her subordinates and for all the work that she does. After our second teacher was sent to another group, the parents wrote a collective statement-complaint or request, whatever you want to call this statement, everyone signed in full to return her to our group. But after that, because of us, our permanent educator, who is still working, received a scolding from the head. Everyone is afraid of the manager there, I don’t know for what reason, this again needs to be established, to find out the reason why. You can’t behave like that. As a leader in her position, she needs to do some other work, maybe work on herself, in order to fulfill her duties normally in the future. I know that in other kindergartens, parents know the heads by sight, even dads, who rarely take their children away, but our head is not known even by some mothers who are constantly present at some meetings, constantly discussing something. For me, this is very surprising. And I want this kindergarten to thoroughly check what is happening there. Because, there is a feeling that everything is like in a closed institution. If something happens, everyone immediately closes their mouths. I mean to the educators so that no one complains anywhere. Repeatedly there were statements from the head that no one, God forbid, should go to Notepad and complain. Perhaps all these pre-investigation checks and trials will lead to some kind of consensus. I would just like justice, – says Alexander Frolov. nine0015

Little Sophia, telling her parents about what happened, said that after the fall that day, no one approached her and did not regret it.

– When all this happened, after resuscitation, I talked with the teacher who was present at the fall, she told me that yes, the child fell, she came up, regretted it, the child was crying. She said that yes, she played, that she herself fell, cried a lot. After talking with the teacher, I was sure that the teacher came up and took pity, asked Sofia: “Daughter, did your aunt come up, take pity on you, wash you?” She said, “No, no one approached me.” We asked the child several times if someone felt sorry for her after the fall, she answered no, she cried and no one came up. Again, the question is for the head, who organizes educational work, and for the teacher, who comes, who should have directly paid attention to the child who was injured, even minor. But it so happened that they didn’t call their mother that there was a fall, they didn’t spare the child, and I’m inclined to believe my child, ”said the girl’s father, Alexander Frolov. nine0015

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