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We Are Not Just ‘the Nanny’

“So do they pay you extra to speak your language to them?”

My look of confusion turned into a fake smile when I realized the other woman’s implications. Speaking Vietnamese to my children at the park surely meant I was the hired help. Adapting to life as a new mother was already full of challenges. Now I had to defend the right to be my biracial child’s mother?

I was a young Asian woman taking care of a curly-haired child whose skin tone is a few shades darker than mine, so the obvious conclusion must be that I was my daughter’s nanny. Eleven years later, the same assumptions still exist, as evidenced by comments that the woman in the viral BBC video is indeed Robert E. Kelly’s wife, and the need to display family photos in order to prove it.

When the video went viral, friends shared it on my Facebook page, shaking their heads that many people assumed Jung-a Kim was a hired caretaker. Friends who are in interracial marriages commiserated in knowing frustration. One friend commented that she bit her tongue in another conversation when the dreaded “nanny” assumption was dropped. The story led to a robust conversation on the Facebook page for my blog, I’m Not the Nanny.

According to Pew Research Center, 1 in 6 new marriages are between people of different races. Our marriages are not unicorns. But don’t just let us non-white mothers of mixed race children do all the work. Everyone must call out these microaggressions as they occur. Don’t make us ask — just do it.

Most of my “Aren’t you the nanny?” instances occurred when my daughter and son were younger. I thought once they became school-aged, I would no longer have to field those insensitive questions.

Thien-Kim Lam, who runs the blog I’m Not the Nanny, and her family.Courtesy of Thien-Kim Lam

Every time I let down my guard to just parent my children, it happens. Take the woman doling out samples at Trader Joe’s. As I reminded my children to say “please” and “thank you” after accepting their amuse-bouche poppy seed cracker topped with cranberry studded cheddar, two white boys bounded up to the counter. The employee stared askance at me. Busy with my own children and tired after a long day at work, I gave her a confused look. Did we forget to do something after accepting our fancy cheese and crackers?

It wasn’t until I navigated past the brown rice pasta that it hit me. She thought I was in charge of the other kids too.

“You want to be enlightened about interracial families? Stop assuming that we’re the nanny.”

On the flip side, I’ve had strangers stop mid-stride, turn around, and tell me how beautiful my children are.

“Mixed babies are the best!” they exclaim, clapping their hands in glee.

“Black and Asian babies are the best mix out there,” others whisper conspiratorially to me.

I’m not even surprised anymore by the strangers who command me to produce more children because my husband and I make such beautiful babies. Apparently, I’m a biracial baby factory tasked to brighten their day with my children.

I smile, nod, and continue on my way. It takes energy to discuss racial assumptions, and I have to pick my battles. I’ve even lied about our family’s background because I’m tired of fighting with strangers.

I adore that mixed race children are celebrated. There are Facebook pages that proudly celebrate interracial families by sharing photos of mixed race children in every combination imaginable. Interracial and monoracial families alike gush over the children’s golden brown skin, luscious curls, and toothy grins.

The multiracial children are put on pedestals for their beauty and even for how mixing races will save the United States from all its racism. (Spoiler alert: it won’t.)

Why mixed-race Americans will not save the country https://t.co/2mw01aLSvg

— NPR’s Code Switch (@NPRCodeSwitch) March 8, 2017

Listen up, people: you can’t have it both ways. You can’t rhapsodize about the beautiful mix of multiracial babies, then turn around and assume that I’m the nanny. My children aren’t memes to make you feel better about the state of race in our country.

And don’t be offended when someone calls you out on your hypocrisy. You want to be enlightened about interracial families? Stop assuming that we’re the nanny.

Thien-Kim Lam is the founder of I’m Not the Nanny, a lifestyle blog about multicultural parenting, tech, and food.

Not Just the Nanny by Christie Ridgway

Book Review

by SB Sarah · Oct 13, 2010 at 3:34 pm · View all 13 comments

Title: Not Just the Nanny
Author: Christie Ridgway
Publication Info: Harlequin/Silhouette Special Edition 2010
ISBN: 978037365558
Genre: Contemporary Romance

I am a fan of forbidden attraction romances, but I often get a major case of the squicks from romances that are set in a workplace, particularly a nanny/babysitter employment situation. But Christie Ridgeway’s name and the description that indicated the kids were older and therefore the nanny was, too, was enough to convince me to give the book a try.

Oh, holy smoke, there is some hot steamy attraction up in here. While the ending left me a little cold, the development of attraction and the negotiation of the relationship was steaming excellently hot.

Kayla has been the nanny for single father Mick for years. She’s older than one might expect – and she lives in because Mick is a firefighter who is often on call at the station for 24 hour shifts. Kayla has been finishing her BA degree while she works, and at 27, she’s got her degree, an excellent relationship with the children she cares for, and an increasing amount of discomfort because secretly, she’s fallen in love with Mick (who, in case you are wondering, is 34. The age difference is not so so huge). She doesn’t want things to change but they are going to.

Mick has been on autopilot for a long time, first after overcoming his grief at the loss of his wife in a traffic accident, then raising his children with the help of a live-in nanny while serving as captain of the fire department. But now everything is changing: his daughter is a pre teen who has gone bra shopping and fights with him over wearing makeup. His nanny suddenly looks terribly attractive to him. Even the local bar got a complete remodel. Everything is different. He’s, much like many guys I know, utterly pissed at all this change popping up around him.

I love Ridgway’s manner in detailing those changes and how they affect everyone while also showing their own changes as well. Jane, Mick’s daughter, is on the cusp of teenager-land, with the accompanying hormones and temper and drama fits. His son is just at the leaving edge of childhood. A new job with another family has popped up for Kayla that Mick knows about but is afraid to tell her of, and Kayla is aware that it’s time she grew up herself and moved on from her hopeless relationship.

And yet there’s an axis point around which all these relationships revolve and from which all those changes emerge: one spot in the kitchen where Mick first notices Kayla in a different light (literally). That one location in their home becomes the epicenter of the story, and the ripples that emerge from that one moment carry through every scene afterward. That a location in the house serves as a pivotal point in their relationship also underscores how important their healthy and happy home life is, and how each person in their family is valuable and important. The kids aren’t an afterthought – their drama affects Kayla and Mick.

The reverse of that was my problem with the ending.

I thought it was a little too easy for the kids to accept Kayla’s potential change of status in their family, especially after a semi-pointed conversation with Jane about the fact that Kayla is paid to take care of them.

One of the best moments in the book comes at the end, when Mick realizes that his perception of his job as a father is somewhat incorrect, that his job as a first responder and immediate emergency caretaker has leaked into his home life, skewing his understanding of his responsibilities to his children. I’m trying to be broad here, but his realization of how his kids help him as much as he helps them was just wonderful. Too often, fathers get a limited, un-nuanced treatment, and in his book, I really appreciated Ridgeway’s portrayal of Mick as a father.

My problems with the ending caused me to finish the book with a bit of an, “Oh, well, the first 3/4ths were kinda awesome” feeling, and even if the resolution is too easy, the slow build of attraction between Mick and Kayla, and the way in which they honor both their responsibilities and their feelings is worth reading. I’m not often one for romances with children in them, but as I said in the beginning, there was enough to indicate that my fears of trite portrayal might be unfounded, and I am so, SO glad I gave this book a try. 

Not Just the Nanny is available from Amazon and on the Kindle, Book Depository, Powells, eHarlequin, and BN/Nook.

Not just a nanny and not just a mother.

Babysitters and governesses on the site Bonna.ru.

Subject: Would such a nanny suit you?
The situation is this.
Working. At a completely normal job with a normal salary, but with a terrible work schedule and constant hassle. To say that I’m tired is to say nothing.
More and more often I think about how to leave work for a year and a half and work as a nanny during this time. Yes, yes, the nanny. With a full load, with a full “accompaniment” of the child – from washing-cooking to training sessions.
Why such a strange desire – I can not clearly articulate. Apparently, the soul requires.
The specifics of today’s work is such that I can keep my finger on the pulse, and I’m not at all afraid to fall out of the cage this year 🙂
So that’s the doubt – will someone need a nanny like me? For some reason, it seems to me that moms and dads are very embarrassed by my previous work experience and the reason why I decided to temporarily change it … Like, it’s better to take a pensioner or an aunt without education, because everything is clear with her – for more She doesn’t have to count. And here – a young healthy aunt, who decided to change the office to a children’s room. Isn’t it suspicious?
About myself – 30 years old, son is a schoolboy. It is quite adequate, non-conflict, I treat my work responsibly, I love kids :), especially kids at the age of why and hows 🙂 Higher humanitarian education, knowledge of developing methods is still fresh :). I do not smoke.
Tell me – would someone take me to their nanny?
So far – purely theoretically, because if I decide to leave, then only in August-September.
Write honestly, I will be interested in all the comments 🙂
I won’t tell you yet

You asked honestly. I would be embarrassed by such motivation, it is very suspicious, probably I would not dare to hire you.
Kolokolchikova

And what exactly would be embarrassing?
That is, by definition, a nanny is a person with a deliberately lower social status than the child’s family?
Until I tell you

No, of course, what are you. You just usually expect something like: “I love babies, early development methods are a handbook, and what kind of children’s diet meals do I cook.” And here you are with some of your cockroaches (pure IMHO).
Kolokolchikova

So, I understand that it is best to lie about your previous work experience? Think about how “I love kids, how I dreamed of working with them all my life,” etc.
And what about “cockroaches”? That I decided not to stay at home, but to go to work, and to do what I am sure I will do very well?
By the way, I really adore kids, I understand no less than retired nannies in early development methods, and I cook diet meals quite well 🙂
When my son was one and a half years old, I was also looking for a nanny, looked at a lot of candidates. And since then I can’t stand these carbon copies “I love kids” – the falsity is incredible… . I do not call for lying, and parents, of course, understand that any sane nanny will talk about her love for children, etc., and the question of your previous job will also naturally come up, but so far I (!) You said, like this: “I was sick of work, I want to take a time-out for a year and a half (by the way, why is it temporary, what are you going to do later – it also confuses me)”. By “cockroaches” I meant the following:
1) whether you are sick of it in the same way as the work of my excessively active child;
2) if you can change your life so abruptly, will you set me up, realizing after a couple of months that the job of a nanny is not suitable for you;
3) how your emotional throwing will be reflected in my child.
Kolokolchikova

I would consider you as a potential nanny. The only thing that can be alarming is that you can really get tired of working as a nanny, and you report it at the last moment, which will cause great inconvenience. And as for cockroaches… it is still absolutely unknown what is in the head of another nanny with whom mom will conduct an interview – she can hide her cockroaches like that… So if you really want to try something new, then why not?: )
galchich

I wouldn’t take it. Motivation – I agree with the girls – is not the same. Plus, babysitter’s professionalism, seniority and experience are personally important to me, ped. education (preschool or early grades – depending on the age of the child, she would take a nanny). Apparently you don’t have it. Despite the fact that there is a large choice of nannies from those applicants who meet the above requirements.
But I do not rule out that a babysitting job with your initial data can be found quite quickly (employers have different requirements and requests). 🙂
wran

I am most confused by the phrase – for a year and a half. When we hired a nanny, it was a fundamental question for me whether the candidate really wanted to work for a long time. I don’t want to change a nanny for a child every year, the first nanny worked for us for 3 years, with today’s one, I hope the relationship will also develop for no less than 3 years. We had an intermediate nanny with a law degree who decided to try herself in a new role. After 4 months, she played enough of this toy, and problems began. Therefore, when the agency offered us a doctor who wanted to “temporarily work as a nanny”, I did not even consider this option.
Ping

When I studied at the training courses for nannies, the psychologist told us that it was undesirable to work in one family for more than 1. 5-2 years.
allegro

and all sorts of small requests can constantly arise, a completely different model of behavior is being developed (here one nanny wrote that the apartment is a mess and all sorts of intimate things are lying around, which parents did not allow before). For a longer period, the nanny becomes strongly attached to the child, considers him her own, the inevitable separation is a lot of stress. When I asked about stress for a child, it was said that children have a more flexible psyche, and it is easier for them to adapt to this situation, because they have parents. Sorry, it got a little messy.
allegro

And maybe I would have taken it :)) Of course, I have not much experience with nannies at all – our nanny has been working for the third day 🙂 But! I have been thinking about babysitting for a long time. And before giving announcements, I formulated the basic requirements for myself (besides, I would not even leave a child with a person whom I doubt even a little). Therefore, in the ad that I gave, I wrote that age and education are not important to me. Moreover, our nanny even has little experience – she is still young (younger than you 🙂 ) But!!!! When I met her, I realized that I was ABSOLUTELY CALM. On her first working day, I was worried, but not for the child, but for how the nanny would get used to our apartment and whether she would be comfortable in someone else’s house. If now I was offered to put a video surveillance system behind her to see how she treats the child when we are away, I would refuse 🙂 I completely trust her. And I am sure that age, education, even experience are not important in a nanny. If I decide that it is time for the child to develop, I will enroll him in courses or send him to the appropriate kindergarten. I believe that the ideal nanny is a person who, in the absence of mom, dad and grandmother, gives the child warmth and care. All. The only thing I put forward a condition – the right speech. It’s just that we have such an age when the child begins to speak, and I would like him to hear normal Russian in my absence :)) True, this is an additional condition, and not the main thing. The nanny wrote very correctly in one of the lower topics. An intelligent, educated person may come to you, but at the same time your soul will be restless. And in this case, you need to refuse his services. Because the main thing that should be in a nanny is that I have to trust her. That is, I must be sure that my child will be fine with her. And that’s it!!! You know, I probably understood the difference between an ordinary employee (office, editorial office, factory) and a nanny. In an ordinary worker, his professional skills are important. And in the nanny – human qualities. Therefore, finding a good nanny is like meeting true love :)) You can immediately, or you can search for years. Here the selection criteria, in my opinion, are not rational, not pragmatic. I’m looking for a Human. Because I’m going to trust him with the most precious thing I have. And I rely in my choice mostly on my intuition.
Therefore, initially I said – maybe I would take you as a nanny :)) “Maybe” – because I have to get to know you for this. To talk, to look at you :)) It is very difficult to fake decency, goodwill 🙂 And since we were looking for a nanny for our daughter for a little over a year (hereinafter – kindergarten), I would not be embarrassed by your desire to change jobs only for a while 🙂
Heather

It is very easy to fake goodwill, but decency will manifest itself over time only (if any). I would never take a complete stranger.
Nata

I disagree:) Fake kindness always looks fake. And so much so that, as a rule, I caught it even on the phone, talking with potential nannies. They say good words to me, they try to please me, but … Somehow, the screws in my head click very loudly – “yeah, so this and that can be extracted from this”, so loudly that I hear them in the telephone receiver :)) The thing is that real benevolence is always quiet 🙂 It’s not so much in words, but in behavior, demeanor can be seen . .. The slightest discrepancy between words and a person’s reaction betrays pretense. With decency … sometimes – yes, only with time you understand. And sometimes it’s obvious. Here’s how lucky. 🙂
Heather

I would not. Firstly, for me a year and a half is a very short time, and secondly, a person who is tired of working in one place and only assumes that the work of a nanny will not tire him and annoy him will not suit me. I want the nanny to know exactly what awaits her)))
But I have a busy work schedule – problems with the nanny will respond very painfully, I want to be sure))).
Lindaa

I would even take it! I’m just against pensioners, it’s physically difficult for them to walk and play with a child, and it’s harmful for a child to sit like a pensioner all day watching TV.
TatyanaL

And I would just take :))
The main thing is that it is interesting for the child and the nanny, and vice versa . .. It is better that the worldview of the nanny and parents coincide. And this is just your case, and not the case of a retired grandmother, who “out of poverty” is served as a nanny …
But my baby is still very small, I will only need a nanny from September… Young educated women came to me who wanted, as they say, to change their edge. It is advisable to take a nanny not for a year, but for 5 years. And I would personally take it only with a pedagogical education and EXPERIENCE of working with young children in the garden.
Buttercup

And we would take it if you lived not far from us and were not afraid, in turn, of three baby dolls (2, 5 and 7 years old). 😉
Kosha Drakosha

Subject: I doubt it…
I read the topics in the conference, as I see, there are good and different nannies, and what you get – God knows. In other words, you need to keep your eyes open, discuss everything and keep track of it so that the requirements are met as it should. So I thought…
And my situation is this. The thing is, I’m not very healthy. I have chronic depression, frequent mood swings, loss of energy and so on. In short, the child is not very good with me. Yes, and it is difficult for me to cope with an active child. Therefore, we settled on the option of a nanny.
I thought for a long time what qualities a nanny should have in my case. I decided that first of all it should be a kind, cheerful, responsible person, on whom I could rely, in whom I could be sure, so as not to worry about every trifle, not to follow her: is she doing everything right. Because not before me sometimes.
I already have a negative babysitting experience.
Unfortunately, I came across such a nanny who felt my “weakness” and decided not to strain at all, because. no one is brainwashing her.
Another minus is the mood of the nanny. She also turned out to be “depressed”, and this also presses.
I understand that the situation is not simple, but still I ask for advice from local mothers and nannies, is it possible to find me a nanny that is adequate to my situation, and if so, what should she say? Do I need to warn about my condition or is it superfluous? Wouldn’t this be repulsive? In appearance, I do not give the impression of being sick (like), complaining is also not in my rules.
What should you pay attention to when choosing a nanny? How to understand whether she will try to benefit from my condition or not?
Maybe it’s not even worth trying?
And there are such mothers

Even those who are in good health want to find a responsible nanny. It’s really not easy. You don’t have to talk about your problems. They are only yours. How to find a person you can trust? This question is almost rhetorical and very individual. One glance is enough for someone, and intuition prompts, while for another, video surveillance at home is not enough. In order not to get depressed, entrust the selection of a nanny to your relatives. Maybe it will be easier for them to impartially assess the candidacy of a nanny. Unfortunately, many mothers from experience will agree with me that with many nannies, the principle of trust and verify works. Take it for granted.
Inna Pogodki

I would not talk about the condition.
Ms. Kersha

You need to send your child to a home kindergarten.
KOZA

“for home” (C) :)))))))
Is NOT HOME good? :))
Paradise Lost

Not good yet. The child is not yet ready.
Yes, and it’s hard for me to get up early in the morning, and my husband gets up late for work.
Again, and twitch-pick up on time. And I only come to my senses in the evening, I have time to do some things.
For a child 2.7
And there are such mothers

Of course, it’s not worth talking about your condition.
In this case, I see a nanny, first of all, one who can be TRUSTED. Those. in the first place, I still would not put education / knowledge developed. methods, namely decency, responsibility. And it is imperative that everything in her family be good. Advice is often given here, and in this case, IMHO, it is important: ask the nanny if it is possible to come to her house – to look at relationships with loved ones and in general how she will react to this. And also, rather, it seems to me that it is important that a person be, well, not that indifferent, but rather mundane, or something. Logical – in. 🙂 And calm.
Good luck!
Irinka_2004

I consider it superfluous to share my indisposition with the applicants, because a person may misinterpret your revelation for himself – he will think that he will also have to perform the functions of a nurse from time to time: (.
Your task is to understand / accept for yourself and inspire your potential nanny that you expect her to fulfill her immediate duties, and everything else does NOT concern her. She is obliged (!) to abstract from the environment and others during work and focus solely on the ward and his problems, nothing more.
Paradise Lost

In my opinion, in the situation described, we need a woman of 40-50 years old, financially prosperous, with a good husband, adult children, an easy, accommodating character, cheerful, educated. The one where you can be yourself. It’s not worth hiding the illness, you need to make friends (not to visit and get to know relatives, but to have the same moral values).
I know that most mothers are against friendship and trusting relationships, but this, I think, is because confusion exists in the concepts of “trust-familiarity.”
Don’t worry, everything will work out!
Nanny

Conference on nannies and governesses

Conference Compilation

[Opinion survey]

Why doesn’t the beautiful nanny turn her back on the viewer?

Komsomolskaya Pravda

StarsCulture

August 31, 2005 13:34

So far, only two sitcom series have been shown successfully in Russia: Alf and Friends. Both were made by Americans and we came with a translation. Attempts by domestic television people to film something similar regularly failed.

Alexander Rodnyansky: – The competition for the “nanny” was 1500 people per place!

So far in Russia only two sitcom series (“sitcom” means “comedy of situations”) have been shown with success: “Alf” and “Friends”. Both were made by Americans and we came with a translation. Attempts by domestic television people to film something similar regularly failed. Everything from the ever-memorable “Strawberry” to “Accelerated Help” only annoyed the audience. And especially the main identifying mark of the sitcom is off-screen laughter. A year ago, STS CEO Alexander Rodnyansky decided to make the sitcom a national Russian genre. Few believed in success. Until “My Fair Nanny” appeared on the screens. Alexander Rodnyansky told KP about the most popular sitcom in Russia. Who’s laughing off-screen? – So why did all our sitcoms fail before? – Because they were filmed as humorous shows, the sole purpose of which was to make the viewer laugh mixed with shame. Such a “gee-gee.” Naturally, everyone was enraged by laughter behind the scenes. The audience said: we are not stupid, we do not need to explain where to laugh. – Well, why is this unfortunate laughter behind the scenes necessary? – This is what we have left from the 50s. The sitcom was born as a stage show. And the first sitcoms were filmed like this: the audience gathered in the studio, a performance was played on the stage, the audience laughed. Then the audience disappeared from the frame, but the habit of laughter remained. Just like, for example, the way of shooting. In the sitcom, the actor’s back is almost never shown – he always faces the audience. In general, this is such a performance. How the fate of the butler was decided – There are thousands of sitcoms in America. Why did you choose Nanny out of all of them? – “Nanny” was super successful. This is very simply determined, just look at how many seasons the series lasted. If one – then so-so story. Two seasons is nothing. Three is almost heroism. From four and above – a very big success. “The Beautiful Nanny” ran in America for five seasons, then it was successfully shown in many countries, then the Greeks and Argentines removed their versions of the series. But the Russian “Nanny”, which was brought to life by the team of Alexander Akopov, is the most successful. – You bought a license from the Americans to film Nanny. Did that mean you got a story where you can’t change anything other than the actors? – Not at all. We could change everything. Another thing is that it is stupid to change what brought the series popularity all over the world. – That is, you could make sure that Shatalin had not three children, but five, and that the butler turned into, say, a cook? – Could. And about the butler, by the way, we had a lot of questions. A very atypical character for Russia. I know so many different people, but I have never met a single butler. And yet we decided to leave the butler. This is a very important character – a witty reasoner. And the actor is terribly charming. Zhigunov could have been a banker – All the main characters of Nanny are the same as the Americans. What is the difference then? – In everything else. Well, starting with the fact that we changed the profession of the main character. For Americans, the owner of the house and the father of three children is a banker. A very wealthy and highly educated man who even speaks the finest English – this is what is called British English. In our country, it is clear how people treat very rich people, especially bankers. With great suspicion. We went through many different professions and came to the conclusion that a legitimately successful person in Russia is a music producer. So Maxim Shatalin became a producer. – But you hardly changed your nanny? – Yes, all the main features remained with her. In the American version, this is a simple Jewish girl from Brooklyn, who speaks almost slang. We have a girl Vika from Ukraine, with a local characteristic dialect. Another thing is that the nature of the relationship between the characters is completely different. The American “Nanny” is even more of a Cinderella story than ours. In the same place, the society is multi-story, and the Brooklyn simpleton has very little chance of intersecting with a successful banker. Because when he flies on a plane, she rides on a tram. And here, although rich people have appeared a long time ago, it is quite realistic that a Ukrainian nanny will appear in the house of a wealthy producer. Stotskaya wanted to be Vika’s nanny – Our Anastasia Zavorotnyuk is very similar to the American “nanny” Fran Drescher. Were you specifically looking for a similar actress? – They really are similar, although ours is better – more beautiful. But the resemblance is not special. We were looking not for a twin, but for a type. It is clear that it should not have been a girl: since she badly wants to get married, she is at least 27. At the same time, she is all a little “too”: she constantly talks, she is bright, she has noticeable makeup. And, of course, with such search parameters, this is more of an impressive brunette than some kind of conditional blonde. By the way, the nanny’s accent could be anything: we tried both Armenian and Georgian. But the Ukrainian performance by Zavorotnyuk turned out to be the most successful. – How long have you been looking for an impressive brunette Zavorotnyuk? – The casting went on for eight months. We reviewed one and a half thousand candidates. Among them were very famous: Lolita, Stotskaya, Amalia Goldanskaya, Alika Smekhova, Elena Zakharova. And, in general, they had already begun to lose hope when Anastasia Zavorotnyuk appeared. Zhigunov received an offer at a business meeting – Well, did many people also apply for the role of Shatalin? – Casting was for all roles. But it so happened that Sergei Zhigunov and I met on completely non-acting matters, we were talking, and suddenly I realized that we were not talking about that. What is this Shatalin! And then he offered him the role of Maxim. For him it was very unexpected. – Did the Americans participate in the selection of actors? – Yes, and everyone was approved. – And no one asked them questions at all? – Of the main ones – no. There were episodic questions. For example, American consultants could say that this actor is not suitable, because in the 77th episode his daughter must steal a car, and he is too young to have such an overgrown child. – Against what in our series were the creators of the American “Nanny”? – Against our attempts to be very original. When, for example, we offered a very charming actor for the role of a scoundrel. So that it was not just a bad guy, but such a charming villain. On this occasion, Americans say that the audience is ready to love the hero if he is good, and hate if he is bad. And halftones only violate this “black and white” balance. And apparently they are right. At least one joke per minute – It’s clear that in the sixth season, which you’re filming now, Shatalin and Vika will get married after all. And could you marry them, say, in the fourth season? – Yes, at least in the third. But we would have lost the audience. After all, this is a series about how heroes from two different worlds go towards each other. And about nothing else. – How many people write jokes for “Nanny”? – Approximately twenty people per episode, since a sitcom cannot have a density of less than one joke per minute. I think those days are gone when one talented writer took everything and joked himself in the script. I’m not talking about Grigory Gorin. But everyone else who considers himself a professional humorous script … Their times are behind them. – In the new season, in addition to “Nanny”, there will be two more sitcoms on STS. And one – also about “we ourselves are not local.” – This is such a “Nanny” on the contrary, called “Who is the boss in the house.” The heroine is a wealthy divorced lady who is looking for a housekeeper, but finds a housekeeper. A provincial young man, an ex-football player of the district team, appears in her house. She has a son, he has a daughter. – And Tatyana Dogileva will play in the second sitcom… – Yes, and this is a very unexpected series, because it is on the topic “from the life of working families” forgotten since Soviet times. The heroine’s name is Lyubov Orlova, her husband leaves her, leaving her a house, a Volga and three children. And she goes to work at the factory. “Lyuba, children and the factory” – that’s what it’s all called. The humor in this series is sharper, much tougher than in Nanny. Because the guys from Lyubov Orlova’s brigade joke about the same as the guys at the factory usually joke. And she answers them accordingly – as circumstances require. – Just like that and answers?! – Just like that. But within reason, of course. In some places it is very unexpected laughter. – Well, why is the heroine’s name Lyubov Orlova? – Not by chance, of course. Do you remember “Shining Path”? Well, the heroine of Dogileva is Lyubov Orlova of our days. – You brought sitcoms into fashion, and now they are filmed by all channels. You think no one else will be annoyed by off-screen laughter? – I think it will. After all, it is annoying when there is laughter, but the viewer is not funny. So, if there are unsuccessful sitcoms, there will be annoyance. And they will definitely show up. SOMETHING ABOUT SITCOMS Situation comedy characters are meant to be opposites. Even better, if one character comes from somewhere where it is customary to live differently. Nanny Vika came “from Mariupol”, and furry Alf – in general from another planet. Sitcoms take place in a closed space, usually in an apartment or house. The characters almost never go outside. The driving force of the sitcom is episodic characters. If it were not for the numerous guests who visit the heroes, Vika’s nanny and producer Shatalin would have exhausted the resource of jokes in ten episodes. There is no serious plot in the sitcom. This allows you to finish the series at any time when it bothers the audience. The most “sitcom” of all Soviet comedies was “Hello, I’m your aunt!”. If this script fell into the hands of the Americans, they would certainly have imposed off-screen laughter and stretched the adventures of the fake aunt of the series by a hundred.

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