Infant daycare costs near me: Cost of Care – Child Care Aware MN

Childhood, finding your own business and studying

– Nastya, what were you like in childhood?

– Curious and independent, I don’t think my parents were easy with me. When my cousin and I were three or four years old, under my leadership, we built a barricade of pillows and got to the top shelf of the locker, took out my grandmother’s passport and tore it. I think my expedition was based on interest and the idea that I could do it in principle. So I took it and organized it all. nine0005

At the age of five or six, I ran away from the kindergarten during the daytime walk, because it was not far from home. I was extremely depressed that my parents took me to it, although I perfectly know the way there and back. It was important for me to be independent. Mom and dad were not happy with this decision and did not support my initiative. I liked to come up with experiments with flowers or look at bugs and spiders, in general, study animals and nature. I think the opportunity to spend a lot of time in nature in the village, visiting my grandparents, played a role. nine0005

When I was little, I was constantly joking, and my grandmother asked my mother to write down what I say, to which she replied that she could not follow me with a notebook all the time. I also liked to think about why different people react and behave differently, shared my findings with my mother and asked her many questions on this topic. I think her willingness to support my interest in this eventually played a role. This is perhaps the best description of what I was as a child. In my school years, I never sat much in the classroom and I cannot call myself a diligent student: I was a good student and traveled due to my abilities. I went to a music school: at some point I wanted to leave it, but in the end I graduated as an external student. This gave me the skill to finish what I started, which is worth owning, although it still needs to be applied selectively. I also played table tennis for a short time and went to karate, but a year later I had to leave it, because I began to prepare for admission. nine0005

— What were your hobbies and what did you want to be?

— In the beginning, I wanted to be a hairdresser because I liked having my hair done. But I quickly realized that in this case I would have to do the hair myself, and this profession ceased to be tempting. I also wanted to be a veterinarian, my love for the animal world showed. At the age of ten, I came across the magazine “Lisa”, in which simple tests were printed with three possible answers and a decryption key. I was carried away by solving them, I could stay up late with the magazine. When I asked who was doing all this, my mother answered that psychologists. I didn’t understand what exactly they were doing, so I decided to get some kind of specialty to earn money and at the same time study as a psychologist for the soul. At the age of 11-12, I talked to a boy in a solfeggio lesson, whose mother worked as a psychologist. I was so impressed that I was not mentally present at the lesson. I was occupied with the thought that I could not study anything else and work only as a psychologist. I was delighted, then I decided on my occupation. nine0005

— How was your admission to the university and was the subsequent education of high quality?

– It seemed to me that I would enter the Pedagogical University, because the medical school seemed unattainable. I was interested in clinical psychology and the “medov” community, but at that time I did not consider such an option. At the beginning of the eleventh grade, Olga Vasilievna, our class teacher, took us to the Open Doors Day at KSMU, for which I am very grateful to her. Already at the entrance, I realized that I would do everything possible and impossible to study there. nine0005

My classmate was preparing to enter the Faculty of Medicine, I learned from her everything about tutors and their cost, after which I came with all the information I collected to my parents. I didn’t have a very wealthy family, it was financially difficult to pay for tutors, but my parents discussed everything and decided that I would enter KSMU.

Later, at an open day at KSMU, I read “We, the people in white coats, are super” on the desk and thought that a female surgeon sounds amazing. At some point, I got the idea to enter the Faculty of Medicine, my mother liked it. I was supported by a biology tutor because I showed good results in this subject. She said that my brains were enough for the medical faculty, why go to clinical psychology (as if brains were not needed there). After a while, I realized that even though a female surgeon sounds cool, I’m not interested in what she does, and I didn’t want to give up my long-term dream of a psychologist. For the sake of appearance, I continued to prepare for admission to the medical faculty, but I myself was engaged in other things. nine0005

I miss my university years and sessions, I like the feeling of intensive intellectual work. The training was interesting and of high quality, because it made it possible to get acquainted with what areas in psychology exist: pathopsychology, neuropsychology, organizational psychology, psychological counseling, family psychology, etc. Everything was built in such a way that with each of the areas we could get acquainted in test mode in order to choose what we want to do in the future. My profession is arranged in such a way that no matter how high-quality basic education is, you need to constantly study further in the chosen field. nine0005

The beginning of the path and features of the profession

— What was your idea of ​​psychotherapy at the beginning of your work?

– I did not think about how I would work, I just liked psychology. I really wanted to understand how people work. At that moment, only this was the focus of attention. In addition, at the beginning of my studies, I had a very philistine idea of ​​how a psychologist can help in situations that cannot be changed, for example, a serious illness or death. nine0005

In my second year, my mother became very ill, and for the first time I ended up as a client in a psychotherapist’s office. Of course, the situation with which I came was impossible to change, it was only possible to accept it and live with it further. But I left in a completely different state after the first meeting. I felt heard, understood and accepted. I exhaled emotionally and then thought how great it is, I also want people to feel better after meeting with me. I had an understanding that I want to work as a counseling psychologist and help people cope with unbearable things. nine0005

From the fourth year I began to study additionally, and by the time I graduated from the university, I already had two additional studies within the profession. Also, from the fourth year, I began to regularly attend personal therapy and continue to go to it now.

– Tell us about your first job as a psychologist.

— At the university, we learned to work with children and write conclusions. Then I thought that I would definitely not do this, because I was not interested in either one or the other. Later, I started working in a psychological center, namely, with children with normal and developmental disabilities, and also writing conclusions. In general, she did what she initially did not think to do. And it turned out to be interesting to me. Working with children, I quickly realized that I lacked knowledge: I have general ideas about what can and cannot be done, but in-depth knowledge was needed. Therefore, I went to additionally study how to work with children. I worked at the psychological center for three and a half years, became deputy general director, but at some point I realized that I could only develop further on my own. I quit my job and went into private practice – it will be five years in February. I liked working with children, but gradually I realized that I wanted to work with adults, and now I work only with them. nine0005

— What are your qualifications?

— I am a psychologist, clinical psychologist and teacher of psychology. The main difference between a clinical psychologist and a psychologist is that the area of ​​his activity is not only healthy people with life difficulties, for example, with relationship problems, but also people with various mental disorders and borderline conditions.

– What methods and in what areas do you work?

– I have chosen a humanistic direction for myself. I believe in the constructive forces of a person – no matter what problem he comes with, he already has the potential to cope with everything. It is important for me to build relationships with the client on an equal footing, so that gradually a person, better understanding how he works, begins to rely more and more on himself and create his own unique life path. I believe that the task of good psychotherapy is to help a person feel like the author of his life, make independent decisions and, ultimately, learn to cope without psychotherapy. I look at a person as a complex system and work with an integrative approach that combines techniques from different directions. In a sense, each person has their own psychotherapy. Based on the personality of a person, his device and preferences, I mix various methods in different proportions and combinations. nine0005

– Tell us about your personal therapy and the connection of this process with the worker.

— Personal therapy turned out to be incredibly useful and cool practice not only for me personally, but also for implementation in the profession. When you start to understand yourself better, it is easier to understand how the person opposite you works, how he deals with his feelings. I, like any person, have my own “blind” zones – places that are unpleasant and painful to look at, or that are simply habitually ignored. Psychotherapy helps to make “blind” zones more obvious and conscious. So the personal therapy of a psychotherapist is an excellent tool, including for being attentive to the person who comes for help and not solving your problems at his expense. nine0005

It is very important to distinguish between one’s feelings, ideas or experiences on an issue and what is happening to the client, rather than transferring one’s own experience to him. You should not think that if a person has chosen the specialty of a psychologist, then he is somehow different from others: he also had an imperfect childhood, has his own problems, and it is very important that he understands how it works for him. It is not necessary that this be 100% worked out, psychological sterility is not required from a specialist, it is impossible, but it is enough if, metaphorically, he stands a couple of steps above his client. Then he can give him a helping hand to move forward. nine0005

— Is it necessary for a psychologist to have a medical education?

— No, not required. There are areas where a psychologist, on the contrary, needs pedagogical education, for example. So it depends on the field in which the specialist works.

— How to distinguish a competent specialist from an impostor?

– A qualified person fulfills a number of conditions. This is a higher profile education or retraining courses, advanced training in various methods to expand the tools for working with a client, personal psychotherapy, at least as a mental hygiene and burnout prevention. Moreover, serious training programs include the required number of hours of personal psychotherapy during the course of training. This is also one of the ways to master the method in which you work. Without this, the certificate will not be issued. Supervision is also very important – the opportunity to receive support and feedback about your work from colleagues, as well as discuss difficulties in work and sort out your mistakes. nine0005

Another pole is when a person has completed a three-month course and begins to consult. It’s not enough, it shouldn’t be. More recently, I heard about a case that outraged me – when people, after going through a more or less intensive course of psychotherapy and understanding something about themselves, decided that this was enough to help other people. They have no higher education, no retraining, no courses, only their own personal experience in psychotherapy. This is from the series “I have seen people cut their hair many times, but this does not make me a hairdresser, if I start cutting a person, I will cut him badly.” Just like my experience as a passenger does not make me a driver. nine0005

— Does the age of a specialist matter?

– The age of a psychologist does not play any role, is neither an assistant nor something that interferes, because all people are different, and they choose their specialist according to a number of criteria. What I described above is necessary, but there is also the personality of a psychologist. Some people are more comfortable working with a man or a woman. Often teenagers choose specialists with whom they have a slight age gap. Someone, on the contrary, may want to work with an older psychologist, so that he symbolically replaces his parental figure. In general, an important role is played by the competence of a specialist and his personal characteristics, how comfortable you are with him as a person. nine0005

– Is it possible to divide psychological methods into acceptable and quackery?

— Quack methods, of course, will include something pseudo-scientific with the promise of quick results and dramatic changes in one meeting. This doesn’t happen. The problem has been formed for more than one day, and it cannot be solved in this way. We treat a cold for a week, so why should a problem that we have been dealing with for years be solved in a couple of days? This also includes methods that are not designed to improve a person’s condition and understanding of himself, but are aimed at influencing and managing others. “I’ll help get my husband back” and the other from this series have nothing to do with psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is not a place where we learn how to better manipulate other people, it is building contact with ourselves, and from this point we look at how we can build relationships with others. nine0005

– Are there any prestigious places for training among psychologists?

– Prestigious places are those where an evidence-based approach is used, this also includes various international programs, programs with a state diploma that confirms qualifications. There are many different approaches, and each specialist chooses the one that meets his ideas about the person and the worldview in general. Someone is closer to cognitive-behavioral therapy, someone is closer to gestalt or body-oriented psychotherapy. These are very different directions with their own advantages and limitations. Therefore, you need to choose based on your interest. nine0005

– In your opinion, is there a shortage or an overabundance of professional specialists in Kursk?

– I think we have a psychologically developed city. There are cool psychological centers, a sufficient number of professional psychologists in various areas, in this regard we are lucky. I do not believe that there is an overabundance of specialists in Kursk, because the number of people a psychotherapist can take for permanent psychotherapy is limited. I hope that in the future people will be more attentive to their health, both physical and mental, and solving their psychological problems will become the norm, which means that even more people will seek help. Moreover, it is not necessary that the psychologist to whom a person comes for the first time will suit him, even if all the criteria are met. Personally, they may not converge, and it’s great that there is someone to choose from. nine0005

– Tell me about professional ethics. Have there been cases in your practice when patients came after a specialist who violated the rules?

— Professional ethics are the pain of all pains. People came to me telling about its violation by another specialist, I also heard similar stories from colleagues. I get very angry when I hear something like this.

One of the rules that is very important to consider in your work is confidentiality. Everything said in psychotherapy remains a secret. Privacy provides security, and a secure environment is a necessary condition under which we grow and develop. Disclosure of a client’s personal information (and even the mere fact that a person asked for help) is a violation of professional ethics. Also, the psychologist should not make decisions for the client. At a minimum, this is dishonest, because in any case, the person himself will have to deal with the consequences. In addition, this will only infantilize a person, which contradicts the very idea of ​​psychotherapy. The psychotherapist should never have an intimate relationship with his client. This is the taboo of all taboos! Such a violation of professional boundaries will have extremely negative consequences for the client’s psyche. nine0005

Another of the violations is that the psychotherapist uses the client’s bonuses. For example, a person has his own business or connections, and a specialist, using a relationship with a client, asks for help in something: to provide a discount on services, and so on. This is the use of the client and the violation of the initially stipulated roles, all this will only harm the person. It’s great if people know about these moments.

— Is psychotherapy now fashionable? Tell me when going to a psychologist or other specialized specialist was no longer taboo. nine0010

— I think in the last few years going to a psychologist has really ceased to be a taboo. They began to be treated as the norm, and people themselves began to say that they go to psychotherapy. There used to be a huge confusion between a psychologist and a psychiatrist. Diagnoses were stigmatized, and the attitude that only people with a disease or weaklings turn to psychologists prevented people from turning to specialists for help. Although in reality it takes a lot of courage and strength to show your vulnerability and face your problem, admit that it exists and begin to solve it. Now there are fewer such stereotypes. This applies to both people experiencing emotional difficulties and people with diagnoses. The situation is gradually leveling off. nine0005

I assume that there are people who visit a psychotherapist simply because it is considered prestigious in their environment, and you yourself are enlightened if you visit a specialist. But I think that most people do ask for help. After all, if we have a toothache, this is not a question about fashionable or unfashionable, we go to the dentist to treat it. I hope that such an attitude will be formed in the future society. If we’re experiencing an emotional problem or heartache, it’s okay to go and “take” it to a specialist who understands what can be done about it. nine0005

— Tell me, has the number of patients increased due to the events of recent months?

– I can’t say that my number of clients has grown, but their requests have changed. People with anxiety conditions began to come more often. I notice how in clients who are in my long-term therapy, their personal topics are revealed through the prism of world events in recent months. They raise different layers of injuries and pains.

– Can you recommend books that are a must-have for everyone who is interested in how it works and how to work with it? nine0010

— This is a book by Olga Primachenko “Tender to yourself. A book on how to value and take care of yourself “, Joseph Burgo “Why I do it. How to recognize your psychological defenses and learn to cope with unpleasant emotions and the consequences of childhood traumas “and Sue Johnson” Hold me tight. 7 dialogues for the love of a lifetime. I also added a book about relationships here, because any relationship is the place where we most intensely get to know ourselves.

Eva Lgovskaya

nine0005

• #Kursk

News today in Russia and the world

News today in Russia and the world – Russian newspaper

Fresh number

RG -Nedela

Homeland

thematic applications

Union

Fresh number

10:02

Who can get preferential car loan in 2023

Today’s highlights:

05:00

0005

Professor Pshenichichnaya told who is threatened with Kraken

Exclusive

08:00

January 14 Hockey player Valery Kharlamov would turn 75 years old

13. 01.2023 9000

Ukraine – to protect human rights

13.01.2023

Ministry of Labor: More than 40 payments, benefits and compensations will be indexed by 11.9% from February 1

13.01.2023

Following the meeting with members of the Human Rights Council, Putin gave instructions on the CVO and the mobilization of doctors. The main

Opinions

“The current legislation does not provide for confiscation for insulting and discrediting”

Alexander Khaminsky

Human rights activist

Alexey Leonkov

Military expert

Aleksey Leonkov

Military

Valery Kechinov 9000

Former Forwards of the Russian Federation. and “Spartak”

Alexey Zubets

Economist

Maxim Vasyunov

Journalist

“The idol of the screen failed” main role “in life

Elena Yakovleva

Sergey Tikhonov

Journalist

Gregor

Lawyer (Russian Federation, Germany) , Chairman of the Moscow Bar Association “Mueller Wagner Advocates”

Alexei German

director

Vladimir Sipyagin

State Duma deputy

Media:

• All
• Photo
• Video

09:10

from F-1 to Tokamak: Nine days of the life of academician Kurchatov

---

Buyers devastated the salons of Russian auto

How the merchant capital of Russia Kyakhta turned into a provincial settlement

---

05:00

“Is it possible to get the flu for the second time in a season?” – this question was answered by the infectious disease specialist Mashkova

Exclusive

13. 01.2023

Minister of Finance of the Russian Federation Siluanov congratulated “RG” on the Day of Press and agreed to answer the most interesting question of our readers. Ask your question

05:00

Will 5G technology allow you to talk on the phone on the plane during takeoff and landing

04:30

Call, Air, Nuremberg: the most anticipated films of 2023 by choice ” RG”

04:00

Italians in shock: goods with “mafia” symbols began to flood Europe

01/13/2023

“Running on traitorous artists”: Volodin’s colleagues discussed how to implement his idea of ​​confiscation of property

---

01/13/2023

01/13/2023

“Cheburashka” became the highest-grossing film in the Russian box office, overtaking “Avatar”0005

03:00

14 more metro stations to be built in Moscow in 2023

13. 01.2023

Rosstat named the most expensive products for the year

Digital0002 Popark

09: 00Avto

Buyers devastated the salons of Russian car dealers

more news from the section of

Russian weapons

01/13/20144 military corporal Scholkov: the Armed Forces of the Armed Forces – Sol Station

more news 9000

09:10 Society

From F-1 to TOKAMAK: Nine Days in the Life of Academician Kurchatov

more news from Science

Guide Park

13.01.2023Culture

The winning film of the “Winter” author’s film festival “Don’t bury me without Ivan” is released on January 26

“On approval of the form of the act of acceptance and transfer of gratuitously seized or confiscated objects of the animal world, the physical condition of which does not allow them to be returned to their habitat”

Order of the Federal Agency for Fisheries dated 10.