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Refusing to Nap at Daycare | Sleeping

Is your toddler refusing to nap at Daycare? Parents share their tips of how they handled this situation.

As one mom shared on the PSP Advice List (which resounded with many parents!):

“My 2 year old started going to daycare 2 weeks ago. Until he started daycare, he was with me all the time and my husband and I knew that adjusting to daycare won’t be easy on him. Our family is moving away at the end of May so daycare is going to be temporary, but decided to start him there so I could get a much needed break and time to prepare for the move. We chose this place because it fits our budget (nanny is too expensive), and because our older son goes to the same one. He has rough 2 weeks and a lot of tears, but now he’s finally OK. I think that having his big brother around, proved to be very helpful- he was his support and a friendly face through this time of separation from me.

Now, the problem is that he won’t nap there. The teachers say that they try to put him to sleep both near his brother, and away from him, but he refuses to sleep and interrupts other kids by running around and yelling. So far it’s been going on for 3 days but they always ended up calling me and requesting me to pick him up.

He is the youngest one there (they take kids from 2, but most are atleast 2.5) and he’s not used to sleeping in a big boys bed at home (he sleeps in a crib). I suggested brining there a travel crib, but the daycare owner say it’s not allowed, citing certain regulation. I can certainly give it more time, but there is a part of me that things that perhaps this place is just not the best fit for him.Here is the dilemma:

My husband thinks that we should transfer him to another place and that perhaps a daycare that handles other younger kids will be a better fit for him. even if it’s for a month and a half.

I think that especially since it’s a very temporary arrangement, we shouldn’t transfer him and submerge him to at least two more weeks of painful separation in a new place, without having his older brother around to comfort him. But truthfully, if he doesn’t start napping there, the whole daycare solution is pretty useless to me because I’m planning to be away full days starting next month.

I’ll appreciate your opinions and experience with refusing to nap in daycare.”

 

Responses

 

Make a plan with the daycare on how to ride it out:

“Why / how is it that the daycare can call you to pick him up if he doesn’t nap? Isn’t that what they’re paid to do, watch him whether he naps or not? It’s not a situation of a child who’s behaving terribly and creating some sort of safety hazard. He’s simply not ready to settle down yet on day 3. Maybe go meet with them and see if they can make a plan with you to ride this out.”

 

Allow time for your toddler to make a transition:

“I recommend meeting with the daycare and agreeing on a plan to sensitively support him through the transition. My thought there is don’t keep switching the sleep arrangement. Figure out which one people feel is best for the child (maybe within sight of brother but not in playing range) and then agree to consistently do that. Kids need a sleep routine, not constantly changing sleep settings.”

“Three days is not enough. 3 days does not sound to me like much time for a kid to make a huge transition.”

““We were in that same situation when my son started daycare this past Sept. He had just turned 2 and had a very specific nap/bedtime routine which includes complete darkness and a pacifier. At his preschool it is not dark enough and we decided to not send his pacifier in hopes of breaking that habit (which we did thank god!!! And I credit to not sending with him to school) He did not nap for the first MONTH!! He had to be removed everyday and sit in the hall and read books with one of his teachers bc he was disturbing the other children peacefully napping. It was a long month but his school held strong and now he naps for 2 hrs very day there!

I think it’s unrealistic for the school to expect t him to nap so easily. They should have experience with kids not napping and know how to handle the situation. They should not be calling you to pick him up every day, that’s unrealistic! I would give him some more time and hopefully it will jut work out, and if you are moving next month anyway, I would not switch places now.”

“It took my son about six weeks before he started napping at daycare. The providers at the daycare said that was pretty normal. It was hard. He came home exhausted. But eventually he did learn to nap there.”

 

Encourage the daycare provider to sooth your child:

“Can the daycare people soothe him down a bit more? Make a little mini-nap routine for him that he enjoys and that is calming and comforting for him? Even a two minute little ritual can help. It sends a signal. Maybe they have a ritual which he’s not connecting to yet. Is there anything that you do at home that he’d love, and that would be feasible for his favorite daycare person to do at nap time?”

“My son also refused to nap in daycare when he started just before age 3. Luckily they were quite flexible and caring in helping him through it. The ladies used to tell him to lie still for a little while and they then would then give him picture books to look at as long as he stayed quiet in his bed. I know of another kid who was allowed to listen to music with headphones.”

“When he was a little more used to being there one of the teachers he loved would actually sit by him and stroke/pat him on the upper back a little and this would often calm him and put him to sleep.”

 

Find distractions:

“It also helped for him to look at the clock. He was scared and confused and not knowing how time worked it seemed like “naptime goes forever.” When we explained that when the hands of the clock pointed here and here it would be time for everyone to get up that helped.”

 

Get support from the whole family, including siblings:

“I’m on your side about preferring staying put. I think the support of brother is huge. Huge. Huger than adults may be able to imagine. I also think if you switch again now, you’re almost guaranteed to just begin a whole new transition experience afresh. It could be worse the second time!”

 

Bring in home comforts:

My daughter refused to nap in our nanny share for a couple of very stressful weeks. We tried lots of tricks but ultimately she needed to be alone in a room, couldn’t sleep if the other girl was there as that was too distracting and potentially entertaining. We also brought over some sleep accoutrements from home– sleep sack, sleep sheep, etc. Hopefully the daycare can work with you, it’s in their interest that he nap, too… seems like you should be able to bring the travel crib! We started at a daycare and they had like 7 pack n plays in the “sleeping room.”

“Does your son have a favorite stuffed animal they will allow him to bring to help him with sleep? Can you send a book or two that he can interact with during nap time so he’ll stay quieter? I’d talk more with the daycare to see if you can find some solutions. If they’re resistant on all fronts, then maybe look at other options.”

 

Skip the nap, practice at home:

“I understand your dilemma and concerns especially since it is for such a short time period, in having him in daycare. Here is my opinion and few suggestions.
Part of me agrees with you where you should just stick it out and see if he adjusts to their nap time routine. My suggestion though is on the weekends maybe try to practice with him in putting him down to nap in a ‘big boy bed’? If that’s is a possibility.
Also does the daycare give you the option of skipping nap time all together? I know some daycares will sit with children who don’t nap and will draw or do a quiet activity with them. That is if you are ok with him skipping a nap everyday.
If the daycare if not willing to compromise at all then maybe it isn’t the right fit for him and one that has younger children will ne better, as,your husband suggested. Otherwise you will keep getting phone calls abt him being a disruption to the entire class.
As you said you will not be available to him starting next month and you will be moving and doing daycare else where, so you’s really want to merge him into a daycare setting that fits him so he understands it’s a new routine.”

 

Look for a more accommodating daycare:

“I would say that you unfortunately need to look for a different daycare setting.”

“This daycare facility simply doesn’t seem dedicated to making this work. I can’t believe that they call you to pick them up. What would they expect a working parent to do? Not to mention that the child is now learning that if he doesn’t go in for a nap, they will call you and you will come get him. Seems that it’s very unlikely to resolve itself because of the way they are approaching it.”

“I’m surprised that they call you pick him up. Is it a tiny daycare? Generally there are several kids at a daycare who don’t/won’t nap, so this shouldn’t be a big deal. But if they’re in one room, maybe there is no spot to take the sleepless kids?”

 

Make sure your child is with the right age group:

“I put my daughter in daycare at 2 yrs old. At the recommendation of the daycare, they had me put my daughter in with a older group of kids (2.5 yrs +). It seemed like a good idea at the time as my daughter likes playing with older kids and has a step brother who she adores (4 years older). She had a tough time at day care – unusual for her as she takes in new situations well and is relatively independent. The daycare folks kept on saying that she is doing fine but when I picked my daughter up, she was ready to leave and not look back.There were lots of tears. It was difficult for me to determine if she was just having a hard time since she’s only been with me or her nanny that has been with her since she was 4 months or that it was not the right place for her. I went with my intuition and pulled her out and asked if she could join the younger kids (18 months- 2.6 year olds). She did much better and is now attending 4 days a week from 9-3pm without any problems.”

 

Remember what 2 year olds are like:

“2year olds are at a precarious stage where they can sort of communicate but not as effectively as even a 2. 5 year old. When placed with all older kids, I think its hard on them. I underestimated the importance of being around kids the same age. The caretakers that take care of older kids are used to them and don’t necessarily provide the one on one attention that younger kids need to transition. (this is dependent on the day care but that is what I observed at our day care).”

 

And final words:

I’m sure the daycare folks have seen this over and over.

 

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    You were relieved to have mastered the baby’s nap routine this summer, but now it’s time to start daycare! We spoke to some sleep experts about how to best transition your little one from naps at home to naps at daycare (or caretaker’s house).

    Larissa O’Loughlin, RN

    The Mama Coach

    Bring a portable sound machine* to your daycare provider. Ask that they place it by your baby’s crib during their naps. Since many daycares have the cribs in the same open space as the play areas, a sound machine will drown out the noise of other kiddos and make napping for your little one easier!

    Alison Mitzner, MD

    Pediatrician, Family Wellness & Fitness Expert

    Sleep is so important for promoting overall good health and growth. Sleep also promotes better learning and improves memory. You need enough sleep and good sleep to effectively learn. Sleep is so important to ensure your children are awake, alert and recharged the next day to learn and develop on all levels emotionally, physically and cognitively.

    A lack of sleep causes children to have decreased attention span and they can be also more distracted and impulsive. A well rested child will be happier and more positive. Kids that don’t sleep enough may be cranky, moody and have tantrums. If your child is hyperactive, they may actually be overtired and not getting enough sleep.

    The amount of hours of sleep per night a child needs decreases as they get older. Infants 4-12 months of age sleep 12 to 16 hours including naps. For toddlers age 1-2 years of age, sleep up to 14 hours including naps.

    The amount of hours slowly decreases by 1-2 hours as they reach preschool, elementary and teenage years.

    Babies in the first year will typically have 3 naps and transition to 2 naps by around 12 months. In the second year around 15-18 months, toddlers transition typically from 2 naps to 1. The age at which naps stop varies depending on your child and may be anywhere from 2-4 years even 5 years of age. The total number hours of sleep your child is getting overall for their age is what is important.

    It is important to have a calming bedtime routine and stick with it and the same goes for naps as well. A child up and playing is less likely to fall asleep. Setting the mood for your child’s bedtime and naps is important. Books, music, dimmed lights, blackout shades if possible during the summer hours with increased daylight hours can help or whatever routine works for you and your child. Even having your child going to bed 15-20 minutes earlier can help if your child doesn’t appear to be getting enough sleep.

    Hadley Seward

    Pediatric sleep consultant and founder of Bonne Nuit Baby

    Do your best to work with your daycare provider to mimic home sleep conditions and sleep schedules. However, there’s only so much you can do. If daycare sleep remains a challenge, continue to follow the ideal nap schedule according to your baby’s age when they are at home. Also compensate with an early bedtime on daycare days and weekends.

    Kelly Murray

    Founder of Kelly Murray Sleep Consulting

    Have realistic expectations. Your child is likely not going to sleep as well at daycare as they do at home. There is a lot more stimulation at daycare with all of their baby friends being around. They tend to experience FOMO and then they don’t want to sleep. Also, the environment is not as conducive to sleep. Seldom are daycares able to achieve complete darkness or silence, both of which are required for good quality naps. All that said, they will likely still nap, just not as well and that is OK. They can make it up at night time.

    If your child isn’t sleeping as well at daycare, I would recommend allowing them to have a cat nap ( about 30 minutes) on the way home in the car or stroller. That way, you don’t have to put them to bed early. If they won’t nap on the way home, then put them to bed at least 30 minutes earlier than usual. This will prevent them from being overtired which can lead to night waking or early morning wake-ups.

    Communication is key. Provide your daycare with a nap plan that details when your child sleeps and how they fall asleep. That way, they can try to replicate what you do at home. It is also important to be understanding that your daycare provider may not be able to do things actually as you do them at home. They still have multiple children to care for during. nap time. Be rest assured that they will try their best, they want your baby to sleep well as much as you do!

    *Whilst the Angelcare Sensor Pad can detect movement it cannot differentiate between baby’s, yours or another form of movement in or attached to their crib and may not alarm if required. Therefore, when monitoring baby’s movements you should not use a crib mobile, any toy that plays music, emits white noise etc in or attached to the crib, a fan directed at/near the crib – these all emit a form of movement, albeit very small on the surface of the mattress or the crib itself.

    90,000 Research: Daytime sleep is good for health and memory. Even for five minutes

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    If you sometimes feel like taking a nap during the day, there’s nothing wrong with that. Chinese researchers have found that even five minutes of sleep can positively affect our mental abilities and even prevent dementia.

    The study results were published in the British Medical Journal.

    Researchers studied the sleep patterns of more than 2,200 healthy people over the age of 60 living in major Chinese cities (Beijing, Shanghai and Xi’an). Of these, 1,534 people slept during the day – from five minutes to two hours, and the remaining 680 people never went to bed during the day.

    It turned out that daytime sleep contributes to more accurate spatial orientation, fluency of speech and clarity of memory in older people.

    All study participants were also tested for signs of dementia. It turned out that people who allowed themselves to take a nap during the day, the situation was much better.

    In developed countries, about one in ten people over 65 develop dementia. In total, approximately 50 million people in the world live with this disease, which causes deterioration in memory, mental abilities, as well as the ability to navigate in time and space and recognize familiar people.

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    As a person ages, sleep patterns change, and people begin to sleep during the day more often. Previously, scientists could not agree on whether daytime sleep reduces the risk of dementia, or vice versa – serves as a symptom of it.

    The scientists point out that the study was an exploratory study, and they cannot yet prove that daytime sleep really helps maintain cognitive function and prevent the development of dementia. Not taken into account, for example, the duration of daytime sleep, and the time at which participants slept, and these factors can be very important.

    But the researchers made some conclusions.

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    They suggested that daytime sleep is the body’s response to certain inflammatory processes.

    “Inflammatory chemicals are directly involved in sleep disturbance. Sleep regulates the body’s immune response, and daytime naps may be our evolved ability to respond to inflammation. People who have more inflammation tend to sleep more,” reads the article. research.

    Alzheimer’s Research UK’s Sarah Imaricio told the Daily Mail that people with dementia tend to experience sleep disturbances, but research shows that changes can begin long before the onset of symptoms such as memory loss.

    According to her, the researchers could not figure out how daytime sleep affects memory and thought processes, they only showed that there is a connection between them.

    “Other studies have also linked dementia to changes in sleep quality, but more research is needed that looks at sleep-related factors, not just daytime sleep,” she said.

    This would paint a clearer picture of the link between dementia and sleep during the day, she says.

    Influence and consequences of daytime sleep on the body

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    • Is it harmful for an adult to sleep during the day: what science says

    • Sleep and genetics

    • Sleep hygiene

    • Summarizing whether it is harmful to sleep during the day

    Many adults would be happy to take a nap in the middle of the day, but due to work schedule, not everyone has such an opportunity. In addition, it is believed that mainly children are supposed to sleep at lunchtime, and drowsiness in an adult either arises from a night of lack of sleep, or indicates some kind of illness. Let’s see if it is harmful for an adult to sleep during the day according to scientific data.

    Is it harmful for an adult to sleep during the day: what science says

    Daytime sleep is surrounded by a lot of myths. Researchers are also confusing by providing conflicting data. So, in the early 2000s, a study was conducted in the interests of US astronauts. It was found that the most beneficial sleep for well-being consists of two stages – a two-hour day and a four-hour night. French anthropologists did not agree with such data. According to their research, pilots who rest for more than 45 minutes are less likely to respond to emergencies, because during this time the body has time to enter a deep sleep phase.

    The latest research provides more information and helps to understand whether daytime sleep is harmful for adults:

    • NASA found that mini-sleeping improves productivity by a third, and increases alertness by 1.5 times. It is recommended to sleep no more than half an hour, even 10-20 minutes give a person the necessary boost of vigor.
    • Doctors from the University of Guangzhou claim that a daily hour of daytime sleep increases the risk of cardiovascular disease by 33% if a person slept at least 6 hours at night. At the same time, such rest 1-2 times a week, on the contrary, helped to reduce the risk of CVD, including heart attack.
    • According to a scientific experiment conducted by Greek scientists, an afternoon nap twice a week reduces the risk of coronary disease by 12%, and three times – by 35%.

    Daytime sleep among employees is practiced by such giants as Nike, Google and British Airways. Some Japanese companies also allow afternoon breaks.

    Sleep and genetics

    Sleep duration is primarily determined by heredity. That is why someone gets enough sleep for 6 hours, and someone needs at least 10 hours of rest. With sleep deprivation:

    • cognitive function worsens,
    • suffering from the cardiovascular system,
    • reduced immunity,
    • increases the risk of diabetes,
    • blood pressure rises.

    The tendency to sleep during the day is genetically determined, but that indicates the ease of falling asleep. If you’ve never slept during the day but suddenly feel sleepy after dinner, you may have sleep apnea, stress, or insomnia. In this case, it is not the question of whether daytime sleep is harmful, but what causes violations of the usual regime that should cause concern.

    Sleep hygiene

    Good sleep is important for health. Simple rules will help to establish a routine:

    • Do not eat heavy meals before bedtime.
    • Take care of physical activity – aerobic exercise causes a sleeping effect.
    • Avoid sleep deprivation, do not try to compensate for nighttime wakefulness with daytime sleep.
    • Sleep in darkness and silence.
    • Avoid caffeine in the evening.

    Alcohol in small doses (30 ml) promotes relaxation. More than 300 ml (in terms of ethanol) have a stimulating effect – sleep becomes superficial and restless.

    Summarizing whether it is harmful to sleep during the day

    Summing up, we can say that, according to the latest data, not only micro-sleep in the daytime lasting from 5 to 15 minutes is useful, but also naps.