Cleaner and cook: Top 10 Housekeeper Cooks Near Me
Top 10 Housekeeper Cooks Near Me
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Angelica B.
Angelica is a reliable, capable and personable assistant. She developed an immediate rapport with my mother and was able to assist her with all her needs. She is pleasant and professional in all her conduct and communication. I gladly give her five stars!
– Abra M.
Leslie L.
Leslie is a hardworking housekeeper with a keen attention to detail. She often suggests things to make the house run more smoothly. She is very accommodating to our needs and her thoughtful touches are appreciated.
– Abby G.
Heather S.
Heather is super detail oriented and thorough in her cleaning style. I’m so thankful for her careful eye! Also, she’s so patient and caring with the kids. They love her!
– Annie W.
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I had been working as an Executive housekeeper/cook full-time and house sitter on occasion for the last 20 years of my life. I truly enjoy what I do and it’s very satisfying to make the lives of other people alot easier. I had been blessed to work for the last 16 years for 5 families here in Chicago and I’ve learned a lot. My experience and knowledge will truly make your life easier. I’m always ahead of your needs, able to deal with contractors, drive, make payments, shopping in general, help with parties and special events, and prepare healthy meals for you and your loved ones. References are available upon request, and also my resume. I’m a US citizen with a clean driving record….
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Angelica B. | Bellflower, CA
$20-35/hr • 46 yrs old
Experienced Housekeeper Looking For Full And Part Time Job I Can Cook Clean Run Errands
Description:
I have 2 year experience housekeeping I am bilingual fluent in Spanish and English love cooking Mexican food is my specialty but will cook according to your needs
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Recent Review:
Angelica is a reliable, capable and personable assistant.
She developed an immediate rapport with my mother and was able to assist her with all her needs. She is pleasant and professional in all her conduct andcommunication. I gladly give her five stars!…
Reviewed by Abra M.
Anna N. | Hollywood, FL
$25-40/hr • 6 yrs exp • 42 yrs old
Full Time/Part Time Housekeeper/Cleaner/Cook Available
Description:
I have many years of experience in 5 bed/4 bath houses as a main job and few similar in private apartments. My main duties include care about whole apartment: From changing beds, kitchen to cleaning windows. Iam very organized, self-motivated and pay attention to detail. Also I have an experience in cooking for more people, catering, love pets- own cat. I am very honest and dedicated person. I have my own transportation….
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Gerry C. | Fairfax, VA
$16-22/hr • 10 yrs exp • 75 yrs old
Fully Engaged Housekeeper, Organizer, Cook, And Companion (when Needed).
Description:
I am a responsible, engaging, outgoing, competent person who has a gift for organization and service.
I truly enjoy all things domestic, such as meal planning, shopping, and cooking, and cleaning. My goal is toshare my skills to assist a person or family in living a less stressful, uncomplicated life. I also have enjoyed working with people who are of an age, or stage in their life, that they are in need of assistance in some areas Please contact me, and I will be happy to see if I would be a good fit for you…..
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Pagona P. | Worcester, MA
$25-30/hr • 7 yrs exp • 48 yrs old
Part Time (Flexible) Childcare Provider, Housekeeper. Errand Runner, Cook
Description:
Caring for kids, cleaning, running errands & cooking are very relaxing for me!! My experience includes watching kids ages: newborn- teenager, cleaning homes & cooking part time for > 7 years.
Happy to help youde-stress & take time for YOURSELF, leaving the kids, housework, dishes, errands & cooking to a caring, reliable, fun, compassionate & trusted Greek American 🙂
I am a healthy, active, inquisitive conscious soul, lover of books, yoga, adventures to foreign countries, Museums, biking, hiking, connecting with precious souls- especially being around kids.
Building a coaching business & looking for opportunities to be ‘stress less’….
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Christina D. | Richmond, MO
$10-30/hr • 10 yrs exp • 56 yrs old
Experienced Housekeeper/ Dietary Cook Available Up To 12 Days A Month
Description:
I have been for hire in housekeeping an dietary cook field for the past 5 plus years! I can work varied hours an days. I also do Child Care and Senior Care Services.
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Lucy B. | Billerica, MA
$25-35/hr • 10 yrs exp • 66 yrs old
Experienced Housekeeper, Cleaner, Organizer, Cook, Sitter, And Errand-runner
Description:
I am a caretaker by nature and energetic/meticulous in every task that I do. My greatest satisfaction is indeed *your* satisfaction. I’ve been providing families with all kinds of help for over 10 years,including babysitting, transportation, cooking, light and deep cleaning, organizing, and more. I’m glad to say that the vast majority of my jobs I have acquired have been only through referrals.
I charge what I believe is fair based on the quality of the work that I provide. I’m a mother of two grown adults, a wife and daughter. I am easy to get along with, energetic, kind, dependable, and patient….
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Nate H. | Atlanta, GA
$30-50/hr • 10 yrs exp • 36 yrs old
Cook / Home Manager / Housekeeper / Organizer / Nanny
Description:
VACCINATED!
Need your home to run smoothly?! “Professional housewife” to the rescue!!
For 15 years, I’ve worked as a home manager, housekeeper, nanny and personal assistant in Atlanta. All families are welcome(LGBT, singles, pet owners etc).
Looking for clients with great communication skills that recycles.
Currently working very part time with a high profile family in Buckhead, but I have flexibility & availability for another position offering 20 hours or more.
I use green/Earth-friendly products, and heavy duty brands for sanitizing.
– Home management
– Organizing / de-cluttering
– Cooking
– Child care
– Laundry
– Running errands
– Correspondence
– Problem solving
– Thinking outside the box
– Event planning
– Meeting vendors
– Interior design
– Certified life coach
I love hiking, road trips, brain teasers/riddles, fixing things, taking my camera out for shoots, and documentaries.
Profile updated 11/1/21
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$30 – 50 per hour…
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With over 10 years experience in luxury homes, I am a full-service Housekeeper, which includes all aspects of deep cleaning of residence. Superior museum-quality cleaning with proficiency in special surfaces(antiques, crystal, china, silver, brass, stone, marble, fabric/upholstery, artwork, and other specialty surfaces. Grocery shopping for the family and residence; ensuring proper groceries are in stock at all times. Cooking daily meals and catering for events. Washing, ironing, steaming and folding linens, towels and clothing; managing items sent out for professional care. Assisting with packing and unpacking for moving and travel; wardrobe maintenance and organization. Management and organization of all closets, pantries, and storage areas. Willingness to run routine errands such as doing laundry, dry cleaner, groceries etc.
Additional Housekeeping duties as needed and requested…
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Recent Review:
Leslie is a hardworking housekeeper with a keen attention to detail. She often suggests things to make the house run more smoothly. She is very accommodating to our needs and her thoughtful touches areappreciated….
Reviewed by Abby G.
Lesa C. | Atlanta, GA
$35-50/hr • 10 yrs exp • 33 yrs old
Home Manager/Housekeeper/Cook/Organizer
Description:
Hi!
I’m Lesa! I have 5 years custodial experience at a university. I’ve been cleaning and house sitting part time for the last 10 years. I have references upon request, am a non-smoker with a clean back groundcheck. I love dogs and children and I love meeting new people.
I can do one-time deep cleaning, weekly or biweekly cleaning or organizing projects. I provide all of my own cleaning products and supplies (except vacuum). The cleaning products I provide are Eco friendly, safe, and non-toxic. For occasional deep cleaning or difficult messes, I will use commercial cleaning products.
As of March 2019, I’m a now licensed and insured. I have new pricing and will will be updating my profile as I make progress.
Sweeping
Mopping
Dusting
Bathrooms
Bedrooms (making beds, putting away things)
Tidying up living areas
Interior windows
Organizing closets/cabinets
House sitting
Pet sitting
Basic dog bathing (as an add-on to regular house cleaning)…
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Pauline C. | Houlton, ME
$15-20/hr • 10 yrs exp • 60 yrs old
Housekeeper, baker, cook, laundry, ironing and all those fun things I love to do
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I have cleaned houses for over ten years. I have had my own business for three years.
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For the last seven years I have been working as a HOUSEKEEPER/COOK for families in the SF Bay area, including a Live-in job for a family in Belmont. I am currently living in San Jose, I am a single mother oftwo adult sons. As a housekeeper I have full cleaning, laundry and ironing skills. I can keep a house clean and tidy, making beds, bed linens changed, cleaning bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming, mopping.
As a cook, the practice by cooking daily dinners for families of different cultures and cuisines gave me the skills to be an efficient cook, so I can cook by myself healthy food and I can follow your recipes as well. I am available to work part-time or full-time M to Saturday. I can also do laundry and ironing. I can describe myself as a mature, reliable, family-oriented, punctual, self-directed person. I have good references from the families I have worked for. Thanks for taking your time reading my profile….
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Cathy A. | Houston, TX
$10-15/hr • 67 yrs old
Part-Time Cook, Housekeeper, Rake Leaves, Shopper, Errand Runner, Etc…
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Hi, I am Cathy, 56 years old and I have cooked, cleaned and taken care of my family for over 30 years. No job is too small or too big! Whether it is spring cleaning or continuing maintenance. I do it all. Rakeleaves, clean and organize from the garage to the kitchen cabinets and closets. I will clean windows inside and out.
Do laundry, vacuum, mop the floors, clean the bathrooms and dust from the ceiling fans to the base boards. I can prepare meals. I am a great cook at least that is what everyone says….
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I have worked at hotels, homes, and with government officials. I have cared for and was a nanny in Nicaragua which included housekeeping and cooking. I cooked at a missionary home for three years, that receivedmissionaries from the United States. I have been in the U.S. with my husband (an American) for eight years and have two children. I have worked at a hotel in South Carolina and have cleaned homes here in Cordova. My clients have been happy with my work and I have received other work through referrals. When I work, I don’t stop until the job is done and done right. I look as my work as helping others and the wages earned are going to be used to help others. So as I work, I know if I do my best, the customer will be happy and I will be making others happy.
I look at my work as a way to help others in need and I would like to help as many as I can. When I am hired, the client will not be disappointed because I am giving my best to them….
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Maria L. | Fife, WA
$20-35/hr • 10 yrs exp • 51 yrs old
Experienced, Reliable Nanny, Housekeeper, Companion Provider And Cook
Description:
I’m a mom of four energetic, athletic kids who always worked a FT job, managed my household and kept an organized chart of their sports events, school meetings, and participated in PTA meetings and setting upfundraising functions. I like to keep a neat house and teach my kids how to do the same. My kids are grown and all but I now live on their own. So I have time at nights and weekends to help others watch their kids, with chores and light housekeeping and cooking, if needed….
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I am an organized gal that loves to cook and clean. I would love to spend time with kids of all ages! I am the oldest sibling in my family and used to the responsibility that comes with that.
I am eager tolearn and happy for job opportunities….
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Recent Review:
Heather is super detail oriented and thorough in her cleaning style. I’m so thankful for her careful eye! Also, she’s so patient and caring with the kids. They love her!
Reviewed by Annie W.
Karen A. | Wildomar, CA
$10-15/hr • 9 yrs exp • 61 yrs old
Part Time Housekeeping, Errand Runner, Transporter, Clean, Cook, House Sit, Pet Sit Etc.
Description:
I have always liked to clean, I just get in those cleaning moods, a little music and away I go, I like to Cook, clean, run errands, organize, etc.
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Dora D. | Mount Kisco, NY
$35-50/hr • 10 yrs exp • 56 yrs old
Housekeeper/cook Available Live In /full Time/part Time
Description:
I have many years of experience in cooking, personal chef, housekeeping, house management for privet/formal homes. I’m responsible and reliable person. Very neat and highly organized.
Intelligent. I’m able towork independently. Energetic. Detailed oriented. I can manage a household. Organizing the entire home. Managing vendors, contractors op. Creating fresh and healthy meals, organic farm to table. Maintaining kitchen. I have food safety certification. Grocery shopping, running errands, doctors appointments. I have driver’s license with clean history. . I Can provide LETTERS OF RECOMMENDATION and back round check. Non smoker. I have references from New York and Florida. Looking for a cook/personal chef position,
family helper. Thank you for your consideration….
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Emma R. | Elmhurst, NY
$20-40/hr • 3 yrs exp • 47 yrs old
Hi. I Have Experience Cooking And Cleaning House Or Housekeeping
Description:
Hi my name is Emma,
My experience job at the Hotel, Housekeeping and Cooking until now.
I need job for part time
Monday – Friday 1 p.m. -6 p.m.
Before my job ,
– Pick Up kids from school
– Tidy room
-prepare for diner
– light clean house
Call me if you need clean the house weekdays or weekends.
-Thank You-
Emma…
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I am honest, hardworking, and patience. I have many years of experiences as child care, house keeper, and private chef/cook. I am good in keeping places clean and organized. As a private cook, I served manydifferent kind of food. As a mother, I love to take care of kids with all my heart. I have knowledge for taking care of children with special needs. Additionally, I have a good driving record & BLS Certified. Prefer live out or Live in at separate apartment and no DOG please? Thank you…
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Housekeeper Cook Job Description: Salary, Duties, & More
Housekeepers and cooks have a lot in common.
Both clean up after others, prepare food, and perform other duties that keep their organizations running smoothly. However, housekeepers are typically responsible for cleaning individual homes or apartments while cooks work in restaurants, hospitals, schools, etc.
Housekeeper Cook Job Duties
Housekeeper cooks have a wide range of responsibilities, which can include:
- Keeping an inventory of cleaning supplies and ordering supplies when needed
- Preparing meals for the household, including planning menus and shopping for food items
- Cleaning and performing minor repairs on the interior and exterior of the house such as replacing light bulbs or painting walls
- Maintaining the cleanliness of a home by vacuuming carpets, dusting furniture, and mopping floors
- Organizing and maintaining the household inventory of linens, dishes, pots and pans, silverware, and other supplies
- Cleaning bathrooms, including scrubbing toilets, washing floors, shampooing rugs, and cleaning mirrors and cabinets
- Cleaning windows and screens, which can be labor intensive depending on the size of the home
- Cleaning sinks, tubs, toilets, and other fixtures in bathrooms and kitchens
- Laundering linens, towels, bedding, and clothing using commercial or industrial washing machines and dryers
Housekeeper Cook Salary & Outlook
Cooks are typically paid hourly wages, and their salaries can vary depending on a number of factors.
These factors include the cook’s level of experience, the size of the restaurant or hotel they work for, and the location of the job.
- Median Annual Salary: $27,500 ($13.22/hour)
- Top 10% Annual Salary: $54,500 ($26.2/hour)
The employment of housekeepers and butlers is expected to grow at an average rate over the next decade.
Demand for housekeepers and butlers will be driven by the continuing demand for luxury hotels and high-end restaurants. In addition, demand for housekeepers and butlers will continue to come from the healthcare industry as more people age and require home care.
Housekeeper Cook Job Requirements
Housekeeper cooks may have different requirements, but often they must:
Education: A high school diploma is not typically required to become a housekeeper, but some employers may prefer a high school diploma or GED. Some housekeepers may choose to pursue an associate’s degree in hospitality or a related field.
Courses in housekeeping, hospitality, business and accounting can be helpful for housekeepers.
Training & Experience: Housekeepers and cooks typically receive on-the-job training from their new employer. This training may include learning the cleaning products and methods used by the establishment, as well as the preferred cooking methods. Training may also include learning the organization’s preferred cleaning and cooking methods.
Housekeepers and cooks may also receive training in their previous positions. For example, a cook may begin as a dishwasher before advancing to a prep cook and eventually a cook.
Certifications & Licenses: Certifications are not generally required for the role of housekeeper-cook, but they can be useful for securing a job.
Housekeeper Cook Skills
Housekeepers and cooks need the following skills in order to be successful:
Attention to detail: Attention to detail is a skill that can help you perform your duties well.
This skill can help you clean a room or a house thoroughly, ensuring that you’ve removed all dirt and grime. It can also help you prepare meals that are free of any contaminants or other unwanted substances.
Communication skills: As a housekeeper, you may be working with a team of other housekeepers, a team of butlers or a team of other domestic staff. It’s important to be able to communicate with your team members to ensure that everyone is on the same page and that you’re all working together to provide the best service possible. You may also need to communicate with your employer to discuss any issues that may arise.
Food safety knowledge: Food safety knowledge is an important skill for housekeepers and cooks to have. This is because they are responsible for preparing and handling food, and they need to know how to do so safely. Housekeepers and cooks should be familiar with proper food storage methods, how to handle and prepare different types of food and how to properly clean and sanitize kitchen surfaces and cooking equipment.
Ability to work independently: Housekeepers often work independently, so it’s important for them to be able to complete their tasks without much supervision. This can include cleaning the entire house, preparing meals and doing laundry. Being able to work independently can help you develop your own cleaning routine and work efficiently.
Basic computer skills: Many housekeepers use computers to manage their schedules, track their finances and communicate with clients. Knowing how to use a computer can help you complete your work more efficiently.
Housekeeper Cook Work Environment
Housekeeper cooks work in private homes, hotels, resorts, and other establishments. They typically work long hours, including weekends and holidays. Some housekeeper cooks work in shifts, while others work during the day. Many housekeeper cooks are responsible for all aspects of food preparation, including menu planning, shopping, and cooking. They may also be responsible for cleaning the kitchen and other areas of the establishment.
In some cases, housekeeper cooks may be responsible for supervising other kitchen staff.
Housekeeper Cook Trends
Here are three trends influencing how housekeeper cooks work. Housekeeper cooks will need to stay up-to-date on these developments to keep their skills relevant and maintain a competitive advantage in the workplace.
More Focus on Health and Wellness
As the health and wellness trend continues to grow, housekeepers will need to adapt their services to meet the needs of their clients.
Housekeepers can capitalize on this trend by developing skills in areas such as nutrition and fitness. They can also focus on creating a clean and healthy environment for their clients to live in. This includes using eco-friendly cleaning products that are safe for pets and children.
More Attention to Detail
As the economy improves, more and more people are looking for ways to save money. One way they are doing this is by hiring housekeepers who can provide detailed cleaning services at a lower cost.
Housekeepers who are able to provide thorough cleaning services will be in high demand, as they will be able to offer a value proposition that other cleaners cannot. In order to stand out from the competition, housekeepers should focus on providing excellent customer service and ensuring that all areas are cleaned to the client’s satisfaction.
More Work From Home Opportunities
The trend of working from home is growing rapidly, as more and more people are realizing the benefits of having a job that allows them to stay close to their family and friends.
Housekeepers who are interested in working from home can take advantage of this trend by becoming certified in cleaning services that allow for remote work. This will allow them to find jobs that fit their schedule and give them the flexibility they need to be successful.
How to Become a Housekeeper Cook
A career as a housekeeper cook can be rewarding and fulfilling. It’s important to consider your interests and skills when planning your career path.
Do you enjoy cooking? Are you good at cleaning? If so, becoming a housekeeper cook may be the right choice for you.
To become a housekeeper cook, you will need to have strong organizational skills and be able to work independently. You will also need to be able to lift heavy objects and be physically fit.
Related: How to Write a Housekeeper Cook Resume
Advancement Prospects
There are many opportunities for advancement for housekeeper cooks. They may move up to a position of head cook, which comes with more responsibility and often a higher salary. They may also move to a larger household, where they would be responsible for more staff and more cooking. Or, they may open their own catering business or cooking school.
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2022 Housekeeper Costs & Prices for Housekeeping Services
Typical Range:
$75
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$175
Cost data is based on research by HomeAdvisor.
Updated June 10, 2022
Reviewed by
Asya Biddle,
Cleaning Services Professional & Owner of The Dust Busters, Williamsport, PA
Written by HomeAdvisor.
Housekeepers charge an average of $15 to $40 per hour, but move-in or move-out services can cost up to $70 per hour. An average housekeeping session costs about $100 for a one-bedroom apartment, while cleaning a 2,600-square-foot home costing about $130 to $390.
Full-time housekeeper salaries range from $25,000 to $60,000. Live-in housekeepers typically charge about $2,500 to $5,000 per month, plus the cost of room and board.
Housekeeping encompasses more than a cleaning service. While housekeepers help with cleaning, they also offer added services, including laundry and dishes. Some full-time services even include grocery shopping, cooking, and offering childcare.
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| National Average | $125 |
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Cost Factors
Many housekeepers charge by the hour, but costs can vary depending on the size of your house, the number of people (and pets) living there, and extra service requests, like laundry or dish-cleaning.
House Size
Some housekeepers charge by the square foot, at $0.05 to $0.15 per square foot. Alternatively, housekeepers may also charge based on the number of bedrooms and bathrooms, with a 1-bedroom home costing less to clean than a 5-bedroom house.
Pets
Housekeepers may charge an additional $25 to $50 per cleaning session for homes with pets. Pets tend to shed, track in dirt and mud after a walk, or have occasional accidents on the floors. Plus, if your pets are roaming freely during the cleaning session, the housekeeper will need to work around them.
Additional Services
Housekeeping services typically include tidying up any clutter, sweeping, vacuuming, mopping floors, and taking out the trash. Deeper cleanings or additional services will cost more.
Some common add-ons include:
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Laundry: $5 to $20 per load
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Clean the refrigerator: $10 to $40
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Clean the oven: $20 to $40
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Changing the bedsheets: $12 to $18 per bed
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Clean the windows: $4 to $10 per window, interior only
Family Size
Larger households tend to accrue more clutter and dirt, so housekeepers will charge more to clean up after larger families. Plus, larger families may require a full-time or live-in housekeeper, costing more than a housekeeper who visits weekly or monthly.
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Cost of Housekeeper By Service Level
Housekeepers offer a wide range of services outside of cleaning the house. Some housekeepers live in residence and help with everyday tasks, like watching the kids or running errands, while others come by once a week for general cleaning.
Live-In
Hiring a live-in housekeeper includes a salary of about $30,000 to $60,000 per year or $2,500 to $5,000 per month plus food, utilities, and room and board. These costs also scale if hiring more than one housekeeper.
Since the housekeeper lives in your home, you can negotiate on-call hours and working hours. This arrangement provides the most flexibility for people with unstable schedules. While it costs more to hire someone to live in your home, they often have a more comprehensive list of duties including:
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Full-Time
Hiring a full-time housekeeper costs about $2,000 to $5,000 per month, but without the additional costs associated with a live-in housekeeper. They’ll also have a more rigid schedule and responsibilities that you can negotiate at the time of hiring, including general cleaning, errands, cooking, childcare, and more.
Daily
A daily housekeeper costs $50 to $200 per day. Daily housekeepers are also considered part-time housekeepers, and they visit once per day to complete general cleaning, cooking, and sometimes shopping. Added services may cost extra, like cleaning the oven or doing the laundry. Part-time housekeeping makes sense for people without children or with fewer home care needs.
Weekly
Weekly housekeeping typically costs about $160 per week, with costs ranging from about $75 to $260 or more. For weekly housekeeping, you can expect them to complete the following tasks, and any other responsibilities agreed upon at hiring.
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Clean floors: Housekeepers will sweep, mop, and/or vacuum floors throughout the home.
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Clean bathrooms: The housekeeper will wipe down mirrors, counters, cabinets, and toilets.
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Clean the kitchen: The housekeeper will do a general cleaning of the kitchen, including wiping down counters and appliances. Washing dishes and cleaning the oven or fridge will cost more.
Hourly
Housekeepers generally charge $15 to $40 per hour, depending on location, experience and duties. Keep in mind that more in-depth services, like move-in or move-out, will cost more than the typically hourly rate.
Housekeeping Cost by Service Type
Housekeepers responsibilities vary based on the service level and type. You’ll want to confirm the details in the contract before you hire a housekeeper, but expect to budget for the costs of the following housekeeping service types:
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General Cleaning: Housekeepers will charge their standard rates of $15 to $40 per hour for general cleaning.
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Laundry: Housekeepers charge $5 to $20 to wash, dry, fold, and iron a load of laundry.
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Childcare: Childcare is usually negotiated for full-time or live-in housekeepers, costing about $2,000 to $5,000 per month.
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Cooking: Daily, full-time, or live-in housekeepers may include cooking services for about $15 to $40 per hour.
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Shopping/Personal Assistance: Housekeepers may charge a standard hourly rate, but expect higher fees based on distance, traffic, fuel, and errand time.
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What Housekeeping Services Can I Get on My Budget?
Since housekeeping services vary so widely, you can save or splurge on housekeeping services depending on your budget and needs. Here’s what housekeeping services you can get based on a monthly budget.
$50
For $50 a month, you may be able to hire a housekeeper for a one-time service. But keep in mind that less frequent services mean the housekeepers need to perform a deeper cleaning, which comes at a higher rate than general cleaning. If you keep your home pretty clean but could use a break once or twice a month, you can hire a housekeeper for a quick, one-hour cleaning session for $15 to $40.
$100
Depending on the housekeeper’s rate, you could hire them for general cleaning services two to six times per month, as most housekeepers charge $15 to $40 per hour. Alternatively, you may hire a local housekeeper once or twice a month with added services, like laundry or washing dishes.
$500
With a $500-per-month budget, you can hire a weekly housekeeper for general cleaning, with a budget to add more services, such as cleaning the fridge or cooking.
$1,000
Housekeepers charge about $160 for a once-per-week service, so $1,000 per month will afford weekly services and plenty of additional services. This type of service is ideal if you want a break from folding the laundry or scrubbing out the oven.
$5,000
With a budget of $5,000 per month, you can afford to hire a full-time or live-in housekeeper to handle general cleaning and other agreed-upon services that can range from running errands and cooking to providing childcare and performing regular deep-cleanings.
FAQ
Do I need to hire a housekeeper?
You may not need to hire a housekeeper, but you might benefit from it. People who can especially benefit from a housekeeper include:
What questions should I ask when hiring a housekeeper?
There are some important questions to ask either on the phone or during the in-home consultation. If you’re still unsure, you can find more questions and tips to choose a cleaning service.
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What services do you offer?
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Can you provide references?
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Would you agree to a background check?
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Do you provide the cleaning supplies?
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Will it be the same housekeeper each time?
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Who do I call if there’s a problem with my service?
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Are you okay with pets?
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Do I have to be home while you’re cleaning?
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Are you fully licensed, bonded, and insured?
How much does it cost to deep clean a house?
Home deep cleaning costs$200 to $400 on average. But for serious grime or large homes, you might pay up to $700.
What’s the difference between a maid and a housekeeper?
While some people use the terms interchangeably, maids or house cleaning services only clean the home while housekeepers take on additional responsibilities. Housekeepers are often hired independently or through a referral service. They also tend to take on more tasks than a maid, such as cooking, shopping, or childcare.
When hiring a maid or a housekeeper, be sure both parties agree on what the position entails and what term fits best.
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Affordability of clean cooking solutions like liquefied petroleum gas (LPG) fuel is one of the biggest barriers to reducing exposure to household air pollution in low income households.
New research suggests that “pay-as-you-go” smart meter
technology may be the novel solution to this problem. This technology enables incremental fuel payments for households in place of paying the full upfront cost of an LPG cylinder. Studies assessing pay-as-you-go LPG cooking patterns showed that in
spite of economic and other hardships, the amount of LPG consumed by households remained relatively stable. Such evidence illustrates how smart devices can help address the affordability challenges of clean cooking for at-risk populations, especially
during COVID-19, and might promote sustainable living in the future.
Transitioning to Cleaner Cooking Solutions
Living in an informal settlement within Kenya’s capital city Nairobi, Anita and her family relied on polluting cooking fuels, such as wood and charcoal, that
generate high levels of air pollution indoors. In spite of being aware of the health risks that come with burning unclean fuels, the family faces financial challenges when it comes to affording cleaner cooking fuel options, such as liquefied petroleum
gas, that require high upfront cost.
But things started to change when a company offered a new payment scheme so that Anita and her family can use their phones to purchase credits and pay for the costs of clean fuels in small increments. Through the
provision of the pay-as-you-go technology, Anita’s family could afford the transition to a cleaner cooking solution and support the reduction of harmful emissions
Co-benefits of PAYG LPG beyond fuel affordability
Not only Anita, her husband and children profited extensively by this new opportunity. Many other families in the settlement followed Anita’s example and started to use the pay-as-you-go technology with cleaner and safer LPG stoves. Families in
the settlement also reported other benefits of PAYG LPG beyond fuel affordability. Additional to the flexible payment scheme, households also value the increased safety from burns/gas explosions, the ability to prepare multiple dishes simultaneously
using the double-burner stove provided with the smart meter technology, and having fuel cylinders delivered directly to their home.
Household Air Pollution as a risk factor in Sub-Saharan Africa
Household air pollution generated from the use of inefficient stoves paired with polluting fuels like wood, charcoal, animal waste or kerosene is a leading risk factor for disease in Sub-Saharan Africa, particularly among women and children. Families
like Anita’s suffer from high levels of household (indoor) air pollution, generated by inefficient fuel combustion. The release of such fine particulate matter and other pollutants do not only dramatically affect people’s health,
but black carbon and methane are also powerful climate changing pollutants. Stoves powered by electricity or gas are clean and scalable solutions proven to reduce exposure to household air pollution and disease. Yet, affordability is a common barrier
to their adoption by the poor and vulnerable households.
COVID-19 can affect affordability of Clean Cooking Solution
The ongoing pandemic also had negative impacts on the access to clean cooking solutions.
A recent study1 assessed effects of COVID-19 lockdown on
clean energy access. During lockdown, a quarter of households who were buying LPG in bulk could not maintain its use in the face of loss of employment and income decline, ultimately switching to polluting cooking fuels such as kerosene or wood,
which could be bought in smaller amounts or gathered for free. These households also tended to have had lower LPG consumption prior to lockdown and had suffered greater pandemic-related income loss compared to households that continued to use LPG.
Thus, inequities in clean cooking fuel access may have been exacerbated by COVID-19 lockdown and may continue to do so in the light of the pandemic.
Smart Technology can increase affordability and access
Pay-as-you-go (PAYG) technologies can be a solution to address the high upfront cost for access to clean cooking fuels, particularly during times of the pandemic and lockdowns, by allowing consumers to purchase LPG credits in small increments (for
example via mobile banking).
In the same setting, another study2 provided evidence that 95% of study households enrolled in the pay-as-you-go
(PAYG) LPG programme during COVID-19 lockdown maintained use of the fuel source despite declines in household income. For comparison, in a separate town where the programme was not available, households reduced their average use of gas by 75%.
This study also showed how the food-energy nexus provides an opportunity to address two key Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs): achieving zero hunger (SDG 2) and universal affordable, modern and clean energy access (SDG 7) by 2030, further compounding
the health benefits afforded through clean household energy. Ensuring that LPG is affordable, accessible and meets the dietary and cooking needs of families should be a policy priority for helping improve food and energy security among the
urban poor while at the same time preventing diseases.
Since affordability is a key access barrier to clean cooking fuels for many, new technologies and innovative solutions need to be provided for poor and vulnerable communities around the globe.
Relieving the financial barrier, also reinforced by COVID-19,
and supporting the transition to clean cooking solutions will have major impacts on public health and our climate. Therefore, smart technologies, such as PAYG LGP could serve as an effective solution to accelerating the adoption of clean cooking,
and achieving Sustainable Development Goals related to health, food, energy and climate.
Read more about the health and energy linkages here and find out more about the Health and Energy Platform of Action (HEPA)
[1] Matthew Shupler, James Mwitari, Arthur Gohole, Rachel Anderson de Cuevas, Elisa Puzzolo, Iva Čukić, Emily Nix, Daniel Pope, COVID-19 impacts
on household energy & food security in a Kenyan informal settlement: The need for integrated approaches to the SDGs, Renewable and Sustainable Energy Reviews, Volume 144, 2021, 111018, ISSN 1364-0321, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.rser.2021.111018.
[2] Matthew Shupler, Mark O’Keefe, Elisa Puzzolo, Emily Nix, Rachel Anderson de Cuevas, James Mwitari, Arthur Gohole, Edna Sang, Iva
Čukić, Diana Menya, Daniel Pope, Pay-as-you-go liquefied petroleum gas supports sustainable clean cooking in Kenyan informal urban settlement during COVID-19 lockdown, Applied Energy, Volume 292, 2021, 116769, ISSN 0306-2619, https://doi.
org/10.1016/j.apenergy.2021.116769.
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Khizhnyak Evgeniy Alexander Work in.
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in Istanbul, full time
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Animators (sports and mini-club) $600-800Animators with experience…
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0024 | Kropyvnytskyi, UA
in Istanbul, full time
Offered job packing Wiener Roesthaus coffee
The position is ideal for men, women and couples.
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– sorting; – work in the warehouse;
– cleaning the work surface.
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August 19, 2022
Work in Europe, FLP | Zaporozhye, UA
in Antalya, full time
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Turkey Antalya, Konyalti
Housekeeper required (cooking, housekeeping, ironing)
Salary 3200 lire. no children
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June 29, 2022
FROSTA GUZELLIK, GKT | Alanya
in Antalya, part-time
A cleaner is required for a beauty salon in Alanya, Oba district.
Turkish citizenship is required.
Schedule: 6/1 for 4 hours a day, morning or evening.
Requirements: responsibility, efficiency, discipline.
Responsibilities: wet…
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June 13, 2022
WorkEU, FLP | Zaporozhye, UA
in Istanbul, full time
Employees in hotel and restaurant complexes, Turkey, Istanbul and Antalya.
3 and 5 star hotels require:
The men are laborers.
Responsibilities: cleaning pools, cleaning the territory, gardeners, serving cutlery in a restaurant, distributing…
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Zaporozhye, UA
in Istanbul, full time
Work in 3*-5* hotels in Istanbul and Antalya. Turkey. Men Wanted: Handymen pool cleaning, grounds cleaning, gardeners, serving cutlery in a restaurant, distributing drinks, distributing food, packing garbage. Working hours 8. Sunday…
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February 20, 2022
EuroStartup, Sp. z o.o. | Warsaw, PL
in Istanbul, full time
Turkey, Istanbul
Let’s get a job as a housekeeper in the family.
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– women under the age of 40
– pleasant appearance
– knowledge of the Turkish language
– neatness, promptness, cleanliness
It is necessary to keep the house clean,…
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February 1, 2022
EuroStartup, Sp. z o.o. | Warsaw, PL
in Antalya, full time
Various hotels in Antalya are looking for employees under the age of 45 for the following positions:
street cleaner
cook (hot dishes)
cook (cold dishes)
kitchen cleaning
housekeeping
administrator
Salary 400-500 dollars per month.
The hotel provides accommodation and 3…
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February 1, 2022
Angelovskaya A., FLP | Zaporozhye, UA
in Antalya, full time
International organization in Antalya requires: Kitchen workerRequirements:• Experience in a similar position is welcome• Activity• Diligence and commitment to cleanliness and order.• Responsibility Responsibilities:• Table setting for breakfast. ..
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December 28, 2021
Angelovskaya A.
, FOP | Zaporozhye, UA
in Antalya, full time
Vacancy
Antalya, Konyalti
Housekeeper required (cooking, cleaning, ironing)
23-30 years old, salary 3200 lira.
No kids
Vac 250
We make a full package of documents for obtaining an invitation, visa, insurance. Full support until the signing of the contract…
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December 28, 2021
Array, AS | Istanbul
full time, work experience from 1 year and above
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-cleaning-washing-ironing
-participation in food preparation.
Age 30-40 years.
conscientious attitude to the performance of duties.
Not an agency, we are looking for ourselves.
price 500 usd
Questions Viber/telegram/whtsp Tatyana. No commission.
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November 26, 2021
Buqqva Residence, GKT | Antalya
in Kas, full time, work experience from 1 year and above
Looking for a couple or two women living in a luxury boutique residence in Kalkan, Antalya province, Turkey.
Responsibilities – cleaning rooms, ironing, cooking breakfast. Man – cleaning the territory, swimming pool, minor repairs. Only since…
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October 26, 2021
Mazur Natalya, FOP | Zaporozhye, UA
in Alanya, full time
4-star hotel Alanya Recruiting candidates for positions: Cook, kitchen assistant and waiters with experience. Buffet service in a 4 star hotel.
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Willingness to work;Age up to 50;Men/WomenKnowledge of English…
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September 16, 2021
Job Gold Time, LLC | Bishkek, KG
in Antalya, full time, no work experience
Requirements:
– accuracy
– cleanliness
– love for children
Working conditions:
– with accommodation
– 6 days per week
– 1 day off
Responsibilities:
– babysitting and care
– cleaning and partial cooking
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December 4, 2019
Napoli staff agency, LLC | Bishkek, KG
in Antalya, full time
Requirements: Age from 18 to 50 years old, no vped habits, decency.
Working conditions: Work from 4 months to 1 year. Working hours are 8 hours. Overtime is paid. Accommodation, food, round-trip tickets, work visa – costs $350….
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January 28, 2019
Mikhaleva Ya.G., FOP | Dnepr, UA
in Belek, full time
Work in Turkey (Turkish work visa is issued). Recruitment is announced for the best five-star hotels in Turkey for 2018! Contract period: from April to October 15, 2018. Work for students: from April to September 2018. Students…
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January 19, 2018
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Quarrels over scattered socks and unwashed floors seem ridiculous only until they end in divorce.
Most of the household chores traditionally fall on women – and this does not lead to anything good, including for the men themselves. Onlíner journalist Polina Lesovets talked with psychologist, PhD in Psychology, associate professor, author of books on family therapy Natalya Olifirovich about how to share household chores correctly, whether there is any “correct” at all, why we are affected by parental scenarios, in what cases claims in spirit of “wash the dishes immediately!” – this is, in fact, an acute need for love and care, and why no one is to blame for the current twisted models of the Belarusian matriarchy and patriarchy. With this text, we open a special project with Dreame, dedicated to the eternal struggle of “m” and “g” for the right to blame the cleaning on their neighbor.
– While preparing for the interview, I made a list of all household chores. It turned out more than 200 points, from “put a clean garbage bag in a bucket” to “wipe dust off fridge magnets.
” Do you think it makes sense for each couple to make a similar list and honestly split it in half? Or is it the way to nowhere, the way of eternal division and weighing, who has done more?
– I think it’s a good idea. After all, when we get married or start living together, then, in fact, we form a new state. For example, high-tech Japan and Mongolia with a primitive communal system are trying to unite into one system. People come to a family with completely different experiences and views, so it is important to draw up a “contract” at the beginning of a relationship. Looking ahead, I’ll say that it’s impossible to agree on all two hundred points in advance, because sometimes there is a case that didn’t exist before: to remove pooped diapers from a baby or to do homework with a third grader.
In any case, it is reasonable to prescribe such a “family constitution”. Because if there are no rules, then there are no boundaries. And then conflicts are inevitable. There are rare couples who understand each other perfectly and are phenomenally able to negotiate, but these are rather exceptions.
Most people need to discuss who is responsible for what at the very beginning of the relationship. What a man and a woman categorically do not want to do. If they match in this, there is a chance to live a pretty good life.
Because a picture in a movie is only part of the truth. Maybe sex takes an hour a week, and romantic dinners two hours a month, but the rest of the time is consumed by everyday life: how to eat, work from home, buy cat food …
The task is to make life comfortable for two people. If out of two hundred points one hundred and ninety-eight fall on only one person, and on the second – one or two, problems will arise.
– If the couple did not think about the “household constitution” in advance, how to properly divide household chores? And in general, does the same “correct” exist? Maybe for some families the proportion of 2 to 198 is normal?
— There are as many couples and as many families as there are grains of sand in the desert and stars in the sky (smiles.
— Approx. Onlíner). Every relationship is very different. Usually problems arise when someone does not want to perform a certain duty, it sags, and the second partner demands: “Do it, do it!”
For example, a guy thinks that his wife should put his socks and shorts in the washing machine. He boldly and unscrupulously scatters them near the laundry basket. And my wife has said more than once: “It’s such a trifle to put things in a basket. Why can’t you?!” And the husband replies: “But my mother always did it at home!”
And here for the first time we are faced with the fact that each of us brought a whole load of expectations and ideas from his family. Some parents shared heavy household duties in half; for others, everything went according to the “traditional” scenario – the interior arrangement of the house was for the woman; and the third was dominated by matriarchy, and it was the man who cooked soups and watered the flowers.
A young couple is faced with the fact that they need to create their own “constitution”, their own rules.
Until they began to live together, they might not have guessed the existence of other norms. For example, a woman could not even imagine that a man would throw underpants and socks in the bathroom, crawling out of them like a snake from old skin, and expect the “slave” to come and, smiling, collect them and put them in the washing machine. Or, for example, the girl lived in a family where her mother had very strict rules and always demanded that the cup on the table be on a stand. Then this girl gets married, there is a wonderful oak table at home, but her husband does not use any coasters, and she begins to swear. And he cannot understand at all what the matter is, because the problem is not worth a damn. This table had been used for five generations without any bases, and in his family it was believed that any scuffs and prints added to the table even more value.
It’s important to talk here: “Darling, where did you get the idea that I have to do this?”, “Darling, why did you think it had to be like this?” Any couple will face similar questions.
— It turns out that we carry with us parent scripts that we don’t even review, don’t revise?
Exactly. Most often, we live either according to the script, doing it “like mom”, or like “like dad”, or according to the counter-script, doing the opposite. For example, my mother washed and cooked, and I am an independent woman, emancipe, and I will not do any of this.
When we receive scripts from our parents, we are naturally unaware of them. The choice appears at the point where the person begins to think: why am I doing this? “Why do I demand from my husband that he earn money?”, “Why do I demand from my wife that she take maternity leave if her career is going up and she earns three times more than me?”
In couples, there are now two options for relationships in terms of power and hierarchy. The first option is when the power belongs to one person (if a man – patriarchy, if a woman – matriarchy). Second, spouses share power with each other.
This is called an “egalitarian system”, actually a democracy. In a democracy, a husband and wife need to negotiate, and this, of course, is more difficult. Because patriarchy or matriarchy assume that there is one main person in the family who will tell the rest how to live. Responsibilities are distributed once and for all, they change extremely rarely. Problems arise only when one person starts to protest – a teenage son or a wife who went to school and realized that it was possible in a different way.
There is more flexibility in the democratic family model, roles are interchangeable. Usually, both husband and wife can pick up the children from the garden, do their homework, cook dinner … Most often, both earn money. But, unfortunately, we do not have a good parental model of such interaction, but only one where the wife serves her husband. Therefore, each couple has to invent their own “democracy” and find compromises.
— We mostly inherited the model “dad works, mom is beautiful”, which translates as “mother is a domestic slave”, and also as “dad is infantile in everyday life, mom is in making money”?
– “Home slave” – absolutely.
In this we are very different from Western women. In fact, since 1917, a woman has received equal rights with a man, but no one has removed her former “patriarchal” duties from her. Having gone to work, the woman did not push life away to anyone. And the man did not have household duties, because a huge number of peasants moved to cities, including Minsk – thanks to Masherov, who created a million-plus city to launch the metro. The only reminders of the peasant past today are the balconies lined with rubbish and blooming tomatoes (smiles. — Approx. Onlíner). At the same time, the man was freed from his farm, horses and an unplowed furrow in the field, but the woman was not, because you always want to eat. And women in the Soviet Union were terribly overworked. They were, as Ekaterina Mikhailova wrote, “terrible women.” They dragged the whole family on themselves, often losing their husband, and only pain, cold and fear remained in their hearts. These women raised their daughters the same way: “Be submissive, be silent, obey, do” .
It is clear that a counter-script always appears after a script. That is why, when I ask women in psychological groups: “Who is in charge in your family?” – the majority answers: “Mom” . Dad may be under the illusion that he is in charge, but mom decides everything.
We have a hidden or explicit form of matriarchy in Belarus. It’s not good or bad, it is. But, unfortunately, matriarchy will not go far. The shadow side of matriarchy is the symbolic castration of a man.
The more responsibility a woman takes on, the less a man has. The law of family therapy: hyperfunctional always exists in tandem with hypofunctional.
How does a woman think? “He doesn’t do anything, so I take on more” . And how it actually works: the more a woman takes on, the less a man needs to do. This is a vicious circle. And there is no one to blame. If we analyze the history of any family, it turns out how many losses and losses she experienced, how many fell to the lot of men, how women took care of their sons, how meticulously they treated their daughters-in-law .
.. It takes decades, and maybe more, for the situation to change.
Today’s youth travel a lot around the world and read a lot. Today, people cannot be driven into marriage by mere obligation. Shame no longer works: “Ai-i-i-i, you’re 27, and you don’t have a husband and kids yet.” Many women choose to be themselves and develop. And when they meet partners, they discuss the “family constitution”. After all, someone has to take out the garbage, cook food, clean, water the flowers, remove the washed things from the dryer, buy food, earn money, mend clothes, clean the snow from the car and even take the cats for a haircut … If some duty sags, for example no one wants to make money, because “everyone is beautiful” and everyone has paws, then the family will definitely be dysfunctional.
The biggest problems arise in families with small children, although before that people can live in perfect harmony. A baby subjugates space to such an extent, it requires so much time and resources that often adult, smart, educated people simply cannot stand it.
The inner container is overflowing. Everything that used to be looked upon condescendingly: scattered socks, dishes not put in the dishwasher, milk forgotten for purchase – causes a very sharp reaction. One says: “I work from morning to evening, I get very tired, I come home, and you stick a child to me!” The second one says: “This is your child, just like mine! You have to sleep with him on the weekends or I’ll go crazy.” . Conflicts and scandals begin. The task is to be able to “negotiate”, change roles. Either each will give in to something, compromise, imagine what it is like to be in the shoes of another, or a couple is waiting for a divorce.
I repeat once again: the models that we inherited are very different. For example, a girl grew up in a family where her father and mother worked, and does not think of anything else. For her, a woman as a person exists only if she is financially successful and, along with her husband, harnesses herself to the family cart.
And there are families where Vedic, anti-feminist ideas are popular: a woman is ordered to serve a man, look a certain way, wear skirts, give birth to children. In such models, men are presented as some kind of “half wits”, because if a woman does not “recharge” them with her “energy”, they do not succeed. But the wife is still to blame: she inspired badly, wore skirts badly, breathed badly into mother earth with her various organs (laughs. – Approx. Onlíner). Perhaps this was a good model millennia ago, when a man could provide for a family alone – before the invention of contraceptives, before we could have one or two children or not at all. Now this model is not very working. Because a rare man, no more than 5% of the population, can provide for his family alone. And in my opinion, it’s great when a woman not only inspires and spreads energy emanations, not only serves as a recharger, but can convert her energy into her own business and money.
Let me emphasize right away: I am not talking about the period when a woman brings up children.
If a woman takes care of a child, performing all the functions that several people used to do – grandmothers, mothers, nannies, older children – honor and praise to her. During these years, she, of course, does not work. But it happens that a young mother does not want to be on maternity leave. And then the couple needs to agree on who will take care of the child.
Sometimes I see problems in the family precisely because both spouses are exhausted. No matter how you divide the responsibilities, in the case of a small child, there are three things to do, and there are only two of you.
Here it is important to ask for help, so that someone cleans the house, or prepares food, or walks with the child. And it should by no means be a grandmother who, sitting on the sofa and smoking a pipe, will tell how before there were no washing machines, and they gave birth in a furrow, and coped with five children. No. If you want to help, help financially. Or take a walk with your great-grandson, listen to your granddaughter, have pity, support.
Yes, maybe we are more gentle than the generation of 50 years ago. But if you don’t take them out, you don’t cope, this is normal, and for this it is not necessary to give birth to five in a furrow. While you have small children, if you need extra help – look for it, do not be shy. Hire cleaners, ask someone to help. And remember, not all years you will have such a mess (smiles. – Approx. Onlíner).
— If in a family all household duties are taken over by a woman, what consequences will this lead to?
– If this is an ordinary woman, and not a woman with an atomic battery, then she will begin to deplete. There will be no resources to recover and feel good. Then most often comes obsession with cleaning, food and order. Because she puts in such a huge amount of effort that it becomes super-value. Woman starts tugging at home: “Where did you end up on the washed floor!”, “Did you dirty the stove again?!” Great power over the domestic sphere and at the same time the feeling that efforts are not appreciated.
Therefore, the woman is either in the plus of grandiosity (“if it were not for me, you would be overgrown with mud and starve to death”), then in the pole of insignificance (“Masha calls the cleaners home, and I myself will clean everything”).
When a woman feels that the balance has been disturbed, that she has invested more and received less, she begins to recoup in another area. For example, in communication. She takes offense at her husband that he is not included in everyday life, lies on the sofa, “drifts on an ice floe”, and begins to get angry, reproach, attack. No wonder there are all these jokes, where the wife is presented as sawing, vicious, aggressive, chronically dissatisfied.
The couple is drawn into a destructive cycle where the wife becomes an emotional stalker who endlessly runs after her husband with a ladle and reproaches, while the latter runs away and hides in his “hole”: “Oh, she’s such a difficult woman, I don’t want to live with her I want another!
Such relationships are often chronicled.
The couple gets used to living like this and turns the cycle of the victim – the pursuer in a circle, until one of the two understands that it is possible differently – without screaming and raids. Perhaps with less order in the house, but with greater emotional harmony.
Another option is that a woman leaks everything to her children. For example, a husband earns well, does nothing around the house, but malice accumulates, and then the children become the object of aggression. She can reproach them, force them to do what is not for their age, tightly control. Chronic aggression stresses sons and daughters.
Alternatively, children become symbolic partners of their mother. She does Saturday cleaning with the children, forays for groceries with the children. Then it is very difficult for such boys and girls to separate from their mother, because she holds them very tightly, makes them the meaning of her life.
Sometimes the sexual sphere suffers. The offended woman says that she is tired, that her head hurts, and thereby digs a hole for herself.
All over the world, with the advent of sex toys and video hubs, sex life has become less frequent and intense than before. There are other sources of excitation of the cerebral cortex. Therefore, a man, having received one, two or three refusals, perfectly makes lonely love. And solo sex is now recognized by the World Health Organization as the norm. And then the only thing that distinguishes a couple from just friends goes away. And they live together as a cleaning lady-cook-washerwoman-controller (an eternally dissatisfied woman who gets tired in the office, and then comes home and works the second shift) and a man who each time receives feedback that he did something wrong, and turns on less and less…
To prevent this from happening, sit down and have a sincere conversation: “Darling, if this continues, I’ll just be exhausted. I will burn. I don’t have time for myself, I don’t even have an hour before bed to read … I think cooking dinner and washing dishes may well become your duty.
It is important to understand the difference between a polite request and an aggressive demand. Sometimes the message is very appropriate: “I need help” . But the tone in which it is said discourages any desire to participate.
— Is it true that the relationship ends if the balance of “take – give” – both monetary and domestic – is broken in a couple?
– Not always. There are people who give much more than they receive all their lives, this is normal for them. For example, a girl who was raised by her mother with two brothers, reporting that “a man is cool, and a woman is just an insignificant element of decor.” Or a girl who is very insecure. She will do everything to keep a man nearby. He will invest heavily in order not to survive the pain of rejection and divorce.
There are two poles. One is very selfish women who don’t want to do anything. The new generation with silicone lips. Their main values are appearance and the ability to hang out, to be an insta-star, a blogger, anything, just not to do household chores.
The second pole is such a little gray hen that from morning till night, grain by grain, works all day long and is afraid that her cockerel will stare at the other.
And in the middle is an ordinary woman who sometimes falls into the pole “I can do it myself and I will be better”, and sometimes into the pole “how could I be without him”. These vibrations are with us for life. We are so arranged that at every moment we make a new choice. Sometimes it is important to be lonely, self-reliant, independent, to develop your business. And at other times, support, support is needed, and we are ready to pay a very high price for this.
Mankind is made up of such diverse and amazing individuals that there will always be those who do not fall under any criteria and “average samples”. Therefore, I will not give common advice and say, they say, it is only right this way, and not otherwise.
It happens very differently. As the Buddhists say: “If you meet the Buddha, kill him” .
And I will say: if you meet a person who assures that he knows what is right in a couple or in a family, pass by.
— What a high price we are sometimes willing to pay to keep in touch… This is a bitter thought.
— Yes, high, because sometimes loneliness is a huge pain for a person. We often react to disconnection in the same way that young children react to the departure of their mother. We experience a real vital horror. We forget that we are already twenty, thirty or forty years old, and if the partner leaves, we will be left with arms, legs, a profession and a well-established life. The world will not collapse. But at the moment of the break, we regress to the state of a small child, whom mother threw into the garden, and he clings, crawls over his legs, sobs. Mom leaves, and the universe splits into pieces … Therefore, in a situation of a break, we sometimes make inadequate decisions. People need to learn how to get out of codependent, abusive, destructive relationships.
Everything that we see in the world today says: yes, people are getting smarter, flying into space, inventing cures for covid, but psychologically they remain the same immature. And in a situation of overstress, they tend to regress to the very first childhood trauma.
Often people conflict in a couple not only because of money or overload, but because they do not feel respected, recognized, noticed. Sometimes simple things are enough. For example, come home and thank the person who cooked dinner. If we could put ourselves in another person’s shoes and look at the world from their window, 90% of our problems would disappear. If a husband could feel how his wife lives, who is forced to earn money, compete in the women’s team, and then rush home to cook dinner and at the same time remain cheerful and contented.
If a wife could “be in someone else’s shoes”, see what it’s like for a husband to constantly think about where to make money in a crisis, where to invest savings so that inflation doesn’t eat them up, how to teach children, how much money to go on vacation .
.. If only everyone could get into the shoes of the other, there would be much less conflict.
.. If only everyone could get into the shoes of the other, there would be much less conflict. Therefore, I have only one piece of advice: talk. Also, give yourself at least two days a week when you give up the kids, close all the doors and do what you like: watch TV shows, drink champagne, walk around the house with the dog. This should be a time just for you as a couple.
– It turns out that everyday life is not just everyday life? Behind the banal claims like “he can’t iron his own shirt” or “she doesn’t want to cook” are there deeper things?
— Of course. Behind everyday claims are unsatisfied needs – for recognition, love, respect, care. This is not always a banal overload. Sometimes – a feeling of not being valuable, not important, not needed. When we understand that we are valuable to our partners, then with much more zeal we do things that often break the love boat (smiles. – Approx. Onlíner).
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After the birth of a child, my eyes were opened to family life and my husband
After the birth of a child, my eyes were opened to my husband. Or the husband felt that I would not go anywhere, since we have a child. We have been together for over 12 years, 5 of them officially married. And more and more often the thought comes that even then it was necessary to leave, and not arrange a wedding.
Two years ago, a long-awaited child was born and my life has changed a lot. No, looking back, I see that the husband used to be a liability in all family affairs. We work the same way, but after work and on weekends I did everything around the house.
My husband doesn’t need anything, just to get stuck on his computer or phone.
She offered to go to the cinema – “if you want, choose where, for which movie.”
My husband never made his own informed decision. Mom decides everything for him. Honestly, from wallpaper to resting place. Even with the money donated for our wedding, she disposed of in her own way. And this is taking into account the fact that both they and my mother chipped in on her in the same way.
As for the fact that they put counterfeit money in an envelope, I won’t say anything at all, they explained it by the fact that they would suddenly steal it and then after the holiday they would definitely replace it with real money. But the mother-in-law took everything for herself, allocating 1/4 for us to rest.
She used to take her husband’s salary for herself, allegedly he does not know how to manage money, and it would not be bad to help them pay for his education. By the way, they have a large plot of land from which they have a good income by selling their vegetables.
But how much of our energy and time is spent on this garden, I will not say anything. And all the money goes to the husband’s parents.
I actually work there for food, which I don’t really eat. And all the weekend we have to come to them and help. The answer was given that I also have parents and I also want to spend time with them, let them also come here and we will all spend time together.
From time to time, the husband quits and does not look for work for a very long time, because he usually quits in the spring, and his parents happily do not give him a break from their tasks and affairs. He no longer had any strength for me and my affairs, so I had to do everything myself. At the same time, pull the entire budget and bills on yourself.
The last time my husband quit was on the last day before my decree and got a job only when the child was six months old. I bought everything necessary for the baby from the maternity pay, for which I actually wanted to buy a used car for myself.
For the first 7-8 years I tried to somehow please my husband, because against the background of constant work until he lost consciousness for his parents, he was constantly depressed and in a breakdown.
I arranged romance, dates, surprises. Gave gifts, and not cheap. He didn’t give me anything special. Even when I accidentally drowned my phone and I needed a new one and I lacked 5 thousand, he added them to me and now periodically reminds me of this.
And how much money he gives me now that I’m on maternity leave. Only I don’t spend anything on myself, only food and what is necessary for the child (he is allergic to almost all products). And before I get money from him, I must first listen to a tirade that I spend a lot, and then report what I bought with them.
For the 12 years I’ve lived with him, I can’t even remember any good and expensive gift. From gold, I only have an engagement ring from him, which, by the way, we bought in half.
Mostly my parents give me this. The husband, on the other hand, gives a modest bouquet of flowers for every holiday, which fades completely in a day. Because he takes it from the discount category.
A little story from the past. I had a long delivery (about two days). There were severe complications in the child due to the negligence of doctors. As a result, after 5 days in the maternity hospital, we were transferred to the hospital for another month.
And in the evening before discharge I call my husband to make him happy. And in the course of the conversation, he says to me the phrase “what is it, you also need to be met with flowers and balloons or something.”
I cannot express the disappointment I felt then. No, he used to say to me the phrase “do you need to give flowers or something” before each holiday, but like at that moment, she did not offend me.
We were treated and waited for this child for a very long time.
Looking at other young fathers, you can see that they are really happy with the child and really grateful to their wife for him.
And my husband is not in a hurry to work and is not always at home in the evenings, because you need to help your parents. On weekends, we also spend separately with the advent of autumn. I am no longer needed in the garden, because the whole mass has already been dug up and collected, so I see no reason to change one prison to another. Therefore, I have been alone with my son for more than two years 24/7.
Do you know how sad it is when you go for a walk with your son to see families walking with the whole group? I have tears welling up on every such family. It seems that she is married and has a husband, but I feel like a single mother.
And it’s not so much a shame for myself as for the child, because for every car passing by of the same brand as her husband’s, the son shouts “dad”, and you tell him “bunny, this is not dad, he works.
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I ask you to spend at least one evening with the child so that I can rest, they tell me “I sit with him every evening anyway.” It means that he is lying on the couch on the phone, and the child is running around and preventing me from cooking or cleaning. Or he just brings his toys and sits with me in the kitchen.
I ask you to spend time with the child, and my husband says to me, “what will I do if he wants to be with you.” Or “I take you out to the parks for a walk, what claims.” The husband can play with the child without irritation for 10 minutes or until the first rebellion of the child.
It is very embarrassing to walk in the park when the husband pulls the child away from every flower bed or shouts at him that he, so-and-so, does not want to go where the father requires. Then, naturally, it flies to me that I am raising my son poorly. As a result, I tear the child out of my husband’s hands, calm it down and lead it to where the son wants, correcting and explaining what is possible and what is not.
Therefore, instead of resting, I am again with a child, and my husband, offended that they do not obey him, sits on a bench. And after the tirade that no one loves dad.
My husband’s duties are only evening bathing. And then, even then I don’t rest, because I need to prepare a bottle, prepare pajamas, make a crib for the child. She stopped talking about her fatigue.
I tried a couple of times, to which I was given the answer “what do you want, everyone lives like that” or “how do you meet with friends, you are now a mother” or “be glad that I’m not like my colleague, who always comes drunk home, makes mistresses and half-spits his wife. Maybe you also need to be beaten sometimes for educational purposes?
By the way, I always get up earlier than the rest, cook breakfast, prepare a multi-course meal for my husband. Then I wake up my husband so that he won’t be late for work, periodically I listen to a scandal that I wake up in a wrong way, not affectionately, not with love.
And I can stand over him for half an hour and wake him up.
Indeed, maternity leave is a real test of a family’s strength, and I’m afraid our family failed it. Apart from the thought that it is time to disperse, I have no other thoughts. What’s the point of holding on to such a family?
For my husband, our family will always come second, and I’m tired of putting up with it. It’s better not to live in this expectation that he will change and understand something.
He is one of those people who never feel guilty. And why is he to blame if he does nothing and he is never at home. I am so bad that I stopped bringing romance to our family, that I get tired of everyday life and the child, and most importantly, that I complain about all this.
And I’m really tired, tired that my husband has no help, love, support. Now the main thing is to go to work and stop being financially dependent on your husband. Look for an apartment and leave as far as possible. I don’t even need alimony from him.