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Hello! My name is Peyton. I have over 10 years on experience in education and childcare, ranging from teaching to nannying to being a summer camp counselor. I currently work in nonprofit education programmingand am looking to help a family with before-school and drop-off needs….

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Rachellie W. | Mesa, AZ

$18-39/hr • 10 yrs exp • 55 yrs old

Before School And After School Care And Transportation

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I am available to be your “DATE NIGHT BABYSITTER”!
I’ve been hired by more than 5 families on care. com.
I cared for children from 6 months to 12 years old. I loved the children and enjoyed all the time Ispent with them.
* I have never smoked.
* I have my own transportation.
* I am certified Adult & Pediatric First Aid/CPR/AED.
Please contact me so we can further discuss my qualification s and the specifics of your childcare needs.
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Recent Review:

Rachelli was a nanny for us.
She really strives to be a part of the family, she cared for my daughter like she was her own.
She was willing to help in other areas and other kids as we needed.
Shehandled our young dog very well.
She can handle chaos!! We will miss her….

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Hey there! My name is Makayla. I am a sophomore at USF. I am studying elementary education and am looking for an angel(s) to care for long-term! I have three younger siblings; 5, 10, and 15 so I have experiencewith all ages. I love to cook and clean and am more than comfortable with pets as I worked at an animal hospital as a veterinary technician for over a year.
I am looking for something more part-time. Specifically, BEFORE SCHOOL: 5-8 a.m. or AFTER SCHOOL: 4-7 p.m.
I also provide overnight care; $50 night per child + normal hourly rate from wake-up to bedtime!
Can’t wait to meet y’all!!…

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Makayla is the oldest of 4 siblings so she has lots of experience in caring for younger children. She is punctual and also very organized.

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Juliana N. | Yorktown Heights, NY

$20-30/hr • 7 yrs exp • 24 yrs old

Experienced Sitter Available Before School 6am-10am Weekdays / After School After 5pm

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Hello, my name is Juliana! I’m 23 years old and just concluded college in 2018. I live in Mahopac. I have many years of experience work with children. I also have a yearly job (monday-thursday, 8am-4 p.m. inPutnam Valley) I am fun-loving who does not smoke and I have my own car! I am also a photographer part-time, I run my own business on the side.
My hours are flexible after 4 p.m. weekdays, and friday-sunday I am completely free. My rate is $22-$25/hr.
I look forward to hearing back,
Juliana…

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Regina H. | Media, PA

$20-30/hr • 10 yrs exp • 60 yrs old

Before School, Date Night, Weekend And Overnight Sitter

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I have over 20 years experience with children of all ages and have worked with them in various capacities as a professional in social services and human services field. My undergraduate degree is in Psychology.I am also available for virtual learning a few days or few hours a week.
I will consider date nights, overnights and last minute sitting. I will also consider working with your child during the morning hrs and walk them to school. I will also wait with them while they wait for the bus. There are some holidays I am available if scheduled in advance. I will be a possible back up and offer one-time sitting. Last, I have no problem with caring for a sick child. I am also available for those on waivers and those who receive services with AWC . I have a background working with children, adolescents and special needs.
I have undergone background checks and I am very comfortable with pets. I also have online reviews. I am a non smoker & vaccinated….

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Laura Z. | Cheshire, MA

$15-20/hr • 10 yrs exp • 62 yrs old

Young Grandmother Of 6, Looking For Before And/or After School Work.

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From 2018 till March 2020 I took care of 2 girls in Dalton after school. I transported them to activities, along with doing crafts, homework, playing outside and having fun together. From 2019 till March 2020 Ialso watched 2 boys early mornings before school. The boys and I enjoyed playing, drawing, coloring and just being silly. I drove them to school or camp. Also from August through October I filled in watching a 3-month-old boy 3 days a week. We worked on milestones, and all the other responsibilities that go with watching an infant. In August of 2020 I had a PT position watching 3 children, ages 3, 5 and 9. We did many outdoor activities and I was sad when the position ended.
I have 8 grandchildren, who call me goofy Grammy, because I truly like to have fun with them! I have a degree in Human Services. I ran my own business from home. I also served in the children’s ministry at church with 2yr old and then 4th & 5th graders.
I am certified CPR and First Aid trained….

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Carolyn B. | Tracy, CA

$18-25/hr • 50 yrs old

Preschool Teacher Looking To Provide Before School Care

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I am a mom of 2 grown daughters, currently working as a preschool teacher and providing before school care and transportation to one child which will end this school year. I have over 24 ECE units and am closeto getting my AA degree in Early Childhood Education. I am First aid and CPR certified. I’m vaccinated and boosted. Clean and safe driving record. I am looking to provide before school care and /or transportation to school in the fall. I provide a safe and fun learning and caring environment for your child….

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$15-20/hr • 1 yrs exp

Part Time Early Morning Help / Before School – Up And Out The Door Help!

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Experienced, responsible, non-smoker available Mon-Fri (5:30 a.m. – 9 am) to help with early morning or before school care. I am CPR/First Aid certified, happy to transport children to/from activities anddelighted to help with light housekeeping, meal prep and caring for pets in the home as well.
I look forward to hearing about your childcare needs….

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Reliable mom of two grown children with previous preschool experience and recent experience with infants and toddlers.

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Sandra G. | Buffalo, NY

$13-25/hr • 10 yrs exp • 64 yrs old

Looking For Early Morning / Before School Position

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I have over 30 years experience in childcare.. have great references and would be a great asset to your family..

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I am currently a teacher at an elementary school and am looking for a part time after school or before school position to help me pay for graduate school. I am dual certified in general education and specialeducation grades 1-6 and have a masters degree in Literacy Birth-6. I would be happy to help with students homework and am familiar with many online educational platforms. I have a few years of experience babysitting, as well as tutoring. I am a non-smoker and have my own transportation. I am comfortable with light housekeeping as needed….

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Breanna C. | Indio, CA

$20-40/hr • 7 yrs exp • 26 yrs old

Babysitting, After/Before School Care, House Helper

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Seven years working in the child care industry. My experience ranges from summer camps, nannying, babysitting, mommy-assistants, and house aids.

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$25-35/hr • 3 yrs exp

Fun Before School Sitter

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I had many babysitters look after me, take me to school when I was younger. Now, I am hoping to do the same! I love starting the day on the right foot and hope to have your little ones doing so as well!

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I am a full time child care director in a NYS licensed program, working with middle school aged children.
I can: provide lesson plans, help with homework, help prep meals, help with laundry (children’s laundryONLY), assist in outings….

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Nicole R. | West Chester, PA

$15-25/hr • 10 yrs exp • 42 yrs old

West Chester Area Before And After-School Care Available

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Former Elementary School teacher/mom offering before school care for West Chester area students. Care provided in a safe, loving, organized, fun home by an experienced teacher and calm mother of four children.

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$20-25/hr • 10 yrs exp

Before School / Early AM & Date Night / Weekend Babysitter 🙂

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I was a full time nanny for over 6 years and have been babysitting for over 10 years.
CPR certified, fully vaccinated, and reliable transportation! Looking forward to chatting to see if I’m a good fit for youand your family!…

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Sharon M. | Land O’ Lakes, FL

$10-15/hr • 58 yrs old

A Few Hours After School Or Evening Date Night Sitter, Possible Before School Sitter, Homework Help

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I have two teens, one in HS. I’m an RN, been out of work 10 years to a family. I have experience with highly functioning child on the autism spectrum.

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$18-20/hr • 10 yrs exp

Part/Time Caregiver/Before School/After School/Summer Vacation Available

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I love children, I come from a large family. I always had to care for my brothers and sisters. I am retired and I have experience in baby-sitting and being a nanny for a doctor and his family. I am trustworthyand dependable. I can provide references up on request….

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I have always wanted to work with kids. Kids is the definition of happiness. I like playing outside with them. Doing crafts for family members or just for them. For about 6years I have been babysitting mylittle sister. I have always been a responsible person. Made sure I feed her, played with etc….

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Erin W. | Howell, NJ

$20-30/hr • 6 yrs exp • 39 yrs old

After/Before School Care, And Full-Day Care Available.

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I have five years experience as a preschool teacher at Montessori enrichment. I am a mom of two children, ages 14 and 11. I am energetic and passionate about children. I love to get them outside, or engaging inarts and craft. I am honest and reliable and will treat your children like my own….

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What relatives of patients with dementia talk about

February 28, 2018, 16:50

Dementia is a syndrome in which brain cells are destroyed and a person loses the ability to think, speak, walk, is diagnosed in 10 million people annually (data from the World health organizations (WHO) for 2017). According to Alzheimer’s Disease International, an international federation for the problems of Alzheimer’s disease (the most common cause of dementia), every three seconds someone in the world falls ill. In 2015, there were 46.8 million people with dementia, and by the middle of the century their number will exceed 131 million.

There are no up-to-date statistics for Russia. According to the latest data (for 2004), 1.8 million people lived in the country with various forms of this disease. Experts call the numbers underestimated, and also predict an increase in the number of patients due to the aging of the population. According to the WHO, the syndrome is one of the leading causes of disability in older people in the world.

The degradation of human cognitive functions occurs gradually until the disease is considered incurable. Some pharmaceutical companies, such as Pfizer, have even curtailed years of research and development. Some drugs can delay the development of symptoms by several years if treated early. But relatives usually look at the first signs, taking dementia for a normal form of aging.

“People do not understand that this is a disease”

“People do not understand that this is a disease, that they need to see a doctor. They complain: my mother’s character has deteriorated so much, and the mother-in-law does not sleep at night and does nasty things. They are shy, hide, do not ask for help,” said Tamara Bondarenko, executive director of the non-profit partnership “Association of companies in the service industry for the older generation.”

Although in the initial period of development of dementia, the patient can live separately, perform simple household chores, over time the person becomes dependent on others. At a late stage, the patient does not orient himself in space and time, walks with difficulty, does not recognize relatives and friends. There is a growing need for control: it is not uncommon for dementia patients to leave in an unknown direction, leave gas in an apartment or rewrite real estate for the first comers.

“Grandma fell ill when she was 87. Although she was strong. She lived for thirty years in the village with her grandfather, on natural products. It all started with sclerosis, confusion. It came to hallucinations. She did not understand where she was, did not remember what happened five minutes ago. She rarely recognized us. Instead of a kettle, she could turn on the oven. She looked for bread in the freezer, went to the bank at three in the morning. Turned on the water. We even heated the neighbors,” 34-year-old Irina from St. Petersburg told “+1”. who cared for an elderly relative for five years. “Gradually I stopped sleeping. I woke up every two or three hours. The psychotherapist prescribed antidepressants. It’s been a year since my grandmother died, and my sleep has only recently returned to normal.”

To distract herself, Irina took a part-time job as a cook’s assistant in a kindergarten. The woman calls her work her salvation. Soon her grandmother had a stroke. To care for the sick Irina would have to leave work, but she admitted that she did not know how to give injections and carry out other medical procedures.

“We decided to move her to a boarding house. We chose a good one, more expensive. We talked with lonely old people who live there. They didn’t want to go to the state one, they don’t live there for a long time, and they couldn’t afford a nurse. They charge three thousand a day. For a boarding school we paid 50 thousand per month. Another ten went to diapers, medicines, diapers. Grandma’s pension covered part of the expenses. To get benefits, free medicines, you need to go through so many doctors! In addition, it turned out to be expensive – appointments, taxis, everything requires money. she spent only three months in this boarding school, almost lived to be 93. But we associate this with the consequences of a stroke. It just started to fade away.”

Relatives solve the problems of care in different ways, but experts assure that there is nothing better than home. According to Irina Roshchina, Associate Professor of the Department of Neuro- and Pathopsychology of the Faculty of Special and Clinical Psychology of the Moscow State University of Psychology and Education, it is difficult for patients to adapt to new conditions. Even going on a visit or a trip to your favorite dacha does not bring former joy, but provokes stress. dementia, necessary appliances, such as diapers, disability registration, property protection, receiving a pension when the patient does not understand where he signs.0003

In Russia, several public educational projects have been set up to help relatives of dementia patients, such as the Memini online portal. Several times a year, the non-profit organization “Help for Alzheimer’s Patients and Their Families” (“Altsrus”) holds seminars in Moscow for relatives caring for elderly patients with dementia, “School of Care”. Several participants of the “School of Care” shared their experience of living with patients with “+1”.

“Following the recommendations of doctors, it is possible to extend the active phase.” Vladimir, 57 years old

“We noticed the symptoms in March 2011 But we realized in hindsight that the dementia started earlier. Six months before that, she was bad at sewing, knitting, and cooking. But we did not attach any importance to this. Then she began to get confused more than usual, to make mistakes in the simplest things. Mom, of course, is an elderly person, but it became obvious to me and my sister that something was wrong.

We didn’t understand what was going on and took her to a neurologist. The doctor immediately said that my mother had dementia, possibly Alzheimer’s disease. She prescribed medicines, injections and suggested specialists who deal with this problem in Moscow. The Scientific Center for Mental Health of the Russian Academy of Medical Sciences sounded. Division for the Study of Alzheimer’s Disease and Associated Disorders. I found it. In the first few months we managed to get an appointment. We spent the first five or six years there regularly. I was told how to behave with my mother in everyday life, what to do with her.

The first years we lived actively. They were engaged in Nordic walking, played chess. We did everything together: shopping, eating, cleaning, even doing laundry together. We tried to communicate: we went to visit, they invited friends themselves.

But that time passed quickly. Three years ago, my mother began to fall into delusional states, sleep poorly, and behave aggressively. The last two years it requires continuous monitoring. I had to put locks on all doors and windows, remove the handles from the stove. If I do something, I look back at her every two or three minutes. Mom is now in bed. He speaks badly, he does not understand anything.

I am in charge. At first I went to work, but then I had to leave everything. The situation was depressing. But over time, we got used to each other, we cope. Sister – visits, comes when she can. I can do some things during this time. But since my sister, unlike me, does not constantly loom before my eyes, my mother does not perceive her well: she does not obey, she rereads.

Mother’s character has changed a lot during her illness. She reacts badly to all people, so we did not think about a nurse. We did not consider boarding houses either. She is very restless, energetic, difficult to follow. And a change of scenery wouldn’t help either.

Mom, of course, doesn’t realize much, but her native walls work better for her. Even when we first went to the dacha to visit a relative, she always asked to come back home. As we were told in the “School of Care” and as I myself understood from experience, caring for such patients is, after all, the business of relatives. Nothing can replace their help and care.

On the recommendation of the center’s specialists, we registered at the place of residence in a psycho-neurological dispensary. Doctors sent, saying that they can give free medicines. But the necessary drugs were not found. We buy everything ourselves. We spend 5-7 thousand per month.

In my opinion, the most important thing is to notice in time, attach importance to changes and turn to specialists. Nothing good will happen if everything is left to chance. Following the recommendations of doctors, you can prolong the active phase. ”

“If you take care of your health, it becomes easier.” Olga, 29 years old

“We live with my husband’s grandmother. She is 87 years old. She worked as a doctor. She retired five years ago and took to her bed the very next day, saying she couldn’t do anything. She had various fears. She began to fear that there was no money. She tried not to go to the toilet, afraid that the toilet would become clogged, refused to eat, fearing that the food would run out. She didn’t want to take the pills.

We took her to a mental health center. Doctors made a diagnosis and prescribed medication. Although the fears have become less vivid, she still refuses to go out, she has lost a lot of weight, and cognitive impairment is progressing.

This is the first time we have found ourselves in such a situation. And at first they did not understand what to do, how to behave. When she refused to eat, we tried to convince, give some arguments, and only got annoyed.

When I went to the “School of Care”, it turned out that fears are classic symptoms of dementia. The specialists explained how to communicate with the grandmother: in an imperative form in short sentences, say, for example, “eat”, “take a spoon in your hand”; told which government services and how they can help. It never occurred to me that you could get diapers on a discount or call an assistant.

Sometimes I think boarding houses make sense if they are good. But my husband is categorically against boarding schools. This is his beloved grandmother. In addition, she is so attached to the house that it would be difficult for her to move to a new place.

Care expenses were not calculated, but the amount is quite burdensome. In addition to medicines, we need diapers, visits from doctors, now it’s mostly a traumatologist. There were no critical situations.

We have a small child, so I stay at home and take care of my grandmother. Her condition is changing. When I get very tired, my hands drop. Sometimes it piles up: how stupid we are that we moved to my grandmother, we had to hire a nurse. But it quickly passes if you talk to someone. If you take care of your health, it becomes easier. In the morning I do exercises, I dance. Sometimes you need to leave home. For several days, my husband takes care of my grandmother, and I take a walk, trying not to think about my grandmother. When, for example, she refuses to eat, and I feel that irritation is coming up, emotions go wild, I lock myself in the kitchen or in the room and yell. Helps.”

“For some reason the grant is not given”

Experts admit that constant care for a relative with dementia is an emotional and financial burden for the family. Many, like Vladimir, have to quit their jobs. People burn out, suffer from depression, undermine their health.

In Western countries boarding houses come to the aid of families. In Russia, according to Tamara Bondarenko, there are few suitable institutions. Neither hospitals nor neuropsychiatric dispensaries can properly take care of the patient. “In every Russian boarding house, both public and private, there are dementia patients, because this is the category of elderly people who, first of all, they want to get rid of at home,” the expert said. “It is believed that any boarding house is suitable. Those those who are more concerned about their beloved relatives are looking for worthy boarding houses, realizing that no one will provide care for two rubles. Those who are in need themselves choose what they need. ”

However, care for dementia patients should be specialized. Trained personnel should work in boarding houses, spaces should be properly organized. “Corridors, for example, should be broken, and rooms should be designed for one patient, or four, if the hospital does not have the funds and cannot place patients in separate rooms. “, explains the expert.

There are many nuances that are known abroad. Russia is lagging behind in terms of training specialists and technologies. “I, as a person who has been spinning in this topic for twenty years, see that state organizations have a big problem in developing technologies. They have a lot of money, but they are conservative. Private, on the contrary, are ready for innovation, but lack funding. We can jump forward if we bring together knowledge, money, technologies, ways to implement them, build accessible models of interaction,” said Tamara Bondarenko.

According to experts, it is necessary to develop a system for evaluating institutions. It will allow publishing objective information about boarding houses. It will be clear in which institution they work poorly and because of what – for example, untrained personnel, poor material support, lack of funding. “Experts will be able to tell you what to do so that the organization can continue to develop and provide quality care to people with dementia. But the assessment requires a lot of money and resources. Since private companies are usually small, poor institutions, they cannot afford to create such a system, even with a share. It is necessary to develop the assessment with third-party money. Our partnership wanted to receive a presidential grant for this project. But for some reason they are not giving it yet,” Tamara Bondarenko laments.

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The child does not let his mother go: what to do?

From the book “Understand me, Mom” ​​

It happens that a child cries when parting with his mother and at one year, and at two, and at three. “Why isn’t he growing up?” Mom is surprised, putting on her coat already on the stairs, so that she doesn’t have to say goodbye to the child and see his tears. What exactly does a child feel when parting with his mother and how to leave home correctly?

“I run away from home until I see it. Otherwise, tears, hysteria.”

“Even at home, he won’t let me go a single step. We go to the toilet together. And I can only go to the shower when dad distracts me with cartoons.”

“He follows me with his tail around the house, I can’t even go into the next room. Nothing can be done without him. ”

“I can’t leave him with anyone – hysteria and whims at once.”

That’s what mothers say. This problem is relevant from the infancy of a child, because sometimes you really want to eat quietly, take a shower, go for a walk. It escalates when the baby is two or three years old and it seems that he is big, independent, he can play, eat, even dress himself and talk like that. But mom doesn’t let go a single step. Why is this happening?

The need to be close to the mother

For an infant from birth to feel close to the mother is a basic need. Mom is food, warmth, security. As a result of evolution, children survived who did not let their mothers go far, called them with a loud cry, and did not want to be left alone.

These powerful programs are also embedded in our children. The baby does not realize that the mother went into the next room for a minute, and he lies in a safe bed, no hyena will come running and eat him; that he will not slide off the cliff into the abyss, and his mother remembers him and will not leave him alone to die from cold and hunger.

For a baby in the first year of life, it is very important to feel the mother: to see, hear, touch, feel her smell, taste of milk. It is at this level that attachment to the mother is formed, which will then develop into a warm and trusting relationship. It is important that the mother be able to organize her life and the life of the family in such a way that the baby can spend a lot of time nearby, on her arms, hear her voice, feel the warmth and smell of her body.

But what happens when a child grows up, becomes more independent, can move freely around the house and, it would seem, begins to understand and reason a lot, but still does not let his mother go a single step?

A child up to three years of age (sometimes longer) has a strong need to be near his mother. Yes, he is already able to stay without her in a familiar safe environment, especially if he is passionate about an interesting activity, he can move away from her at a decent distance.

But it’s important to understand that he needs a “ping” quite often. Surely, many mothers of children of this age noticed that even a very enthusiastic child periodically runs up to show, tell or take something. And if something unpleasant happened, for example, he fell or was offended, the baby runs to his mother to calm down in her arms.

And that’s okay, even good. Tell me honestly, would you like a grown-up child to share his problems with you or not to devote you to them at all?

Please note that a child can remain without a mother precisely in a safe environment, and the feeling of security is given, first of all, by the one with whom the child remains. For a two-three-year-old, this is a person with whom he is well acquainted, whom he trusts and to whom affection has been formed. If the child does not feel safe with the one who looks after him, the next time he will strongly cling to his mother, trying not to allow separation from her.

What to say when leaving a child

Mothers often put a lot of emphasis on explaining why they need to leave and expecting the child to understand. Of course, it is important to tell where you are going and what you will do. This will help the child survive the separation, but relying on the arguments “mom needs to work to earn money” is not very reasonable. After all, this is how we try to use logic, to form in the child an understanding of why he should remain without a mother.

But the baby is not able to fully understand why and where the mother is going, cannot imagine that the mother is somewhere else, that she remembers him and loves him. A child of this age needs confirmations and reminders that help maintain an invisible connection with their mother.

In addition, the baby has a poor idea of ​​the duration of time intervals, cannot realize how long the mother will be absent. It is especially difficult to understand the past and future time. That is, explanations from the category “mom will be back in two hours” do not help the child realize that mom will return or when it will happen.

Based on this knowledge, try to imagine that the closest person you love, on whom your well-being, and maybe life depends, has suddenly gone somewhere – and you cannot imagine where, when he will return; there is no connection with him, and you don’t know who to call, how to find out about his fate. Scary, right? Anxious, uncomfortable, unsafe.

A child in the described situation has a lot of feelings and emotions that he cannot keep in himself due to immaturity. He immediately starts crying, hysteria, screaming. He is not interested in games and entertainment. And when mom returns, he does everything possible not to let her out of his sight and so that this situation does not happen again.

How to experience separation from mother

The only thing a child can rely on is his own experience of separation from mother. It is he who determines the reaction of the child to each mother’s departure and how he will experience the separation. If by the age of two or three such experience is small, that is, the mother did not leave home without a child, did not leave him under the supervision of a reliable adult, abrupt and prolonged separations can be perceived by the child very sharply.

The most unfortunate option is when the mother suddenly disappears for the child, that is, she does not say goodbye before leaving, so as not to see tears and tantrums, because it seems to her that the child will not notice the mother’s departure and will more easily survive the separation.

But we remember that at this age it is important for a child to constantly “check the connection”, and if the mother disappears suddenly, and even for a long time, leaving no opportunity to check this connection (at least call, see the mother in the photo, talk about her), for child, the situation becomes unsafe. This means that he will try hard to prevent this from happening next time. Particularly sensitive children, having a similar experience, then cling to their mother, not letting her even into the next room.

How to learn to part with a child

• Peek-a-boo and hide-and-seek games are good as a preparatory stage, because in them the mother disappears for a few seconds or minutes, and then appears.
• It is important to introduce regular mother absences from home: the child’s psyche is arranged in such a way that constant reinforcement of any habit is required.
• Be sure to say goodbye to your child. It is necessary that he see how his mother leaves, and then comes, so that there is no feeling that she is disappearing into nowhere. It is good if the mother at the same time exudes confidence in her actions, and does not worry about how the child will be without her.
• It is better to increase the absence time gradually, starting from a few minutes.
• Pay attention to the child before leaving.
• In case of a long separation, consider how to keep in touch (have the adult who stays with the child show your photos, tell where you are and what you are doing, etc.).
• Leave a child only with an adult to whom attachment is formed, there is trust. And remember that getting used to a new person takes time!
• It’s good if you can show the child where you are going, or tell where you are going and what you will do there.
• Link time periods to specific actions or regime moments (“you will eat now, take a walk, and then I will return” instead of “I will return in two hours”).
• Do not scold for showing emotions! It is normal to be upset because of separation from a loved one.