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3 things to expect when children start daycare…and tips to cope

Posted on August 28, 2016September 5, 2016 by The Parentline

1. Frustration: Starting daycare is a big transition and it is normal for children to express many emotions as a result. Depending on the age of your child, you may see him or her get frustrated at the thought of separating from you and being in a different environment full of new faces. In this context of change and learning, with the limited emotional resources young children have, crying is expected and normal, although it can be heartbreaking for parents.

When going through transitions, children usually need some time to figure out their new setting and learn from their new experiences. In this case, when leaving their home or other familiar environment to start a new routine (at a new place), it will take some time to learn that caregivers will come back for them, that they can count on other grownups for love and support, and that they can play and share with other children.

Keep in mind that your child’s developmental level at the time of the transition to daycare may have to do with the amount of frustration or crying the child exhibits. For example, when children are between 7 months and 2 years old, they are increasingly understanding — sometimes grudgingly — that they are individuals and that they can be separated from their caregivers. As a result, children between these ages may experience separation anxiety, which tends to peak around 9 months and 18 months. In general, children with a more sensitive temperament may be slower to warm up to their new setting and could exhibit additional frustration, anxiety, or fear as a result – this is normal and it is especially important for caregivers and daycare professionals to support children with empathy and acceptance.

2. Parental stress/anxiety: Leaving one’s child at daycare for the first time can conjure many emotions for parents and caregivers. They may experience grief due to the separation, stress from changing the family’s routines, or negative emotions such as fear and worry that could be triggered by past experiences of separation. As much as parents want their child to transition to daycare successfully, it is important to give time to acknowledge the change and prepare for the possibility that it may take longer for the child and the parent/caregiver to settle into the new routine than anticipated. If possible, parents might consider taking some time off from work and other responsibilities to visit and tour the daycare with the child, meet with the daycare staff, and even volunteer for a morning or afternoon (if permitted) to get a feel for the environment.

3. Emotional safety at the daycare: Because children often express frustration and crying when starting daycare, it is especially important for caregivers to expect the daycare to provide an environment of emotional comfort and protection. In such environment, kids feel loved, accepted for who they are, respected, appreciated, heard, and safe. Beyond socializing children to the moral values of these qualities, having this environment is also crucial to children’s neurological, cognitive, and emotional development. Parents and caregivers are advised to look for daycares and schools where teachers and guardians provide comfort and above all emotional and physical safety. Additionally, parents may also have varying preferences for the way in which daycare professionals interact with their children – some may emphasize emotional expression, helping children name their emotions. At the minimum, it is reasonable for parents to expect daycare staff and teachers to express love and never use negative labels for children due to their behavior.

How can this transition be easier for the family?

The emotions and new stimulation resulting from the transition to daycare may cause some children to experience sleep regressions, throw more tantrums, and/or have changes in their eating habits. Here are some tips on how to make things a little more manageable during this time:

• Expect things to be a bit bumpy for a few days and try to avoid making too many other changes to your family’s routine at the same time.
• Daycare can initially be emotionally and physically tiring for your child. You might try letting your child nap longer, put them to bed early, and/or spend more time cuddling and playing with your child. Providing snacks that are high in protein and low in sugar will help them make it through the day with greater success.
• Physical expressions of love and speaking about the experience help to soothe your child’s nervous system and will allow them to better integrate and understand the change.
• For parents, seeking support from friends and family members who understand what you are going through can be especially useful. It may be also be helpful to establish a way to check-in regularly with the child’s new setting and teacher to receive updates on how the day is going. Building in self-care activities to one’s routine can also calm nerves and promote emotional well-being, which will ultimately strengthen the parent-child relationship.

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To the Parent Who Brought Their Sick Kid to Daycare and Got My Kid Sick

No matter how hard we try, everyone swaps germs with everyone else this time of year. Every time you drop your kiddos off at daycare and hear a cough, a sneeze, or someone clearing their throat (which, if we’re being honest, sounds like someone coughing up a lung), all you can think is, ew. Swiftly followed by, I really hope my little one doesn’t bring this home.

But that’s the nature of daycare. Kids sneeze at each other. They can be lax when it comes to washing their hands and sanitizing before they touch something or put it in their mouth. Now, being exposed to all of this can be beneficial in building up their immune system.

However, despite the benefits of immune building, many of us have problems when a sick child is sent to daycare. And we’re not talking sniffles that could be allergies or a dry cough that their pediatrician said was from post-nasal drip at night. We’re talking about the kid you know is unwell, but you give them Tylenol, hoping to drop their 102-degree fever long enough to drop them off and get to work before anyone notices (or the Tylenol wears off).

Most Parents Can Relate

Desperate times call for desperate measures, we know. But bringing your sick kid to daycare is never the answer. To begin with, when your little one doesn’t feel well, they need rest. They need relaxation. And they will not get either at daycare. You run the risk of them getting sicker or exacerbating their symptoms. On top of all that, you’re practically guaranteeing another parent and child the same fate. Spreading germs and viruses isn’t difficult, especially when you’re a two-foot, boogery, exhausted small person. How do I know? Well, I’m living it.

While I don’t know the source of contagion, I have my thoughts. My daughter has noticed many of her classmates coughing, sneezing, and falling asleep in class occasionally for the past few weeks, then disappearing for a time. To no one’s shock or surprise, it’s made the rounds, and both she and I are miserable and in agony – in the privacy of our own home. But here’s the thing: I don’t blame parents for getting sick. Cold and flu season extends from December to February, so it’s bound to happen. What matters is how you deal with the recovery process that gets my tissues in a bunch.

Kids Bring Those Germs Home

Oh, and you know that sickness isn’t limited to just your child and getting the rest of the class sick. They bring all those glorious, germy coughs and sky-high fevers home. What happens when your child gets little Sonny sick and Sonny’s grandma, who lives with him, has a compromised immune system? As far-fetched as it might sound, it’s a realistic scenario.

Bringing your sick kid to daycare creates a ripple effect beyond them. Unfortunately, kids and their families face a triple threat this school year. Cold and flu season is especially unbearable as Covid-19, the flu, and respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) continue spreading like wildfire. Chances are slim to none that your family will go the entire season without picking up something.

This was the exact conversation we had with our pediatrician during an annual check-up. In November, she said things were particularly worrisome already. And no, it hasn’t gotten any better. She told my daughters that even if they only had a cold, sniffles, or cough, it would be the right thing to do to wear a mask to school. To protect themselves as well as their classmates and teachers. So, we did. After her fever finally ceased and she had enough energy to return, she masked up. Did I get stares and looks that could kill when we both showed up this way? Yeah. But at least I knew I did the right thing by keeping her home when she was genuinely sick and taking precautions to keep her and everyone around her safe.

Sick Kids are a Challenge for All Parents

Having a sick kiddo is one of the most challenging parts of being a parent. You get stuck between the proverbial rock and a hard place. On the one hand, you feel terrible for them. You want to make them as comfortable as possible with cuddles, soup, and cozy PJs. But on the other hand, you still must work, whether outside or inside the home.

So, to the parent who brought their sick kid to daycare and got my kid sick—not to mention me—I get it. But I also implore you, on behalf of other kids, parents, teachers, and even your little one, next time, keep them home. Not only will they get better faster, but who doesn’t love a good movie marathon with warm drinks, comforting food, and lots of snuggles?

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Problems of a child in kindergarten and ways to solve them ✅ Blog IQsha.ru

Kindergarten is a very important period in a child’s life! For the first time, the baby is away from his parents for a long time, the environment and regime change, other guys appear with whom they need to share toys and attention. It is necessary to fulfill the requirements of the educators, because the group has its own rules and they must be followed.

All these innovations fall on the child at once, introducing him into a state of stress. Unfortunately, it will not be possible to avoid problems in kindergarten, because the process of adaptation is inevitable. But you can reduce the number of difficulties and successfully overcome them!

In this article we will analyze the difficulties children face in kindergarten and find ways to solve them.

Lifestyle change

When a child starts kindergarten, his life changes. Now he will spend a lot of time away from home, among other children and without parents. The child will have to adhere to the rules and routine of the day, and this requires effort.

To make the adaptation process easy, prepare your baby in advance: teach him to take care of himself, respect and obey adults, and communicate with other children.

Try a few months or at least weeks before going to preschool to start following the same daily routine. Let meals, walks and sleep be at the same hours as in the garden. So it will be much easier to get used to the rules and requirements of educators.

Problems with appetite

For many parents, the problem of the child’s appetite in kindergarten becomes the leading one. Adults get worried first, then kids start to worry too.

In fact, this difficulty is solved quite easily: if the child does not want to eat, then let him not eat! The main thing is to calmly convey this idea to the educators, as many of them encourage children to leave the plates empty. If a preschooler does not get enough food in the garden, he will always make up for it at home. And over time, looking at the appetizing chewing guys, the baby will slowly begin to eat for the company.

If the teacher is afraid that the child will affect other pupils with his appetite and refusal to eat, ask to move him closer to the adults so that he does not attract the attention of children. If you act in this way, then the problem of an empty plate will disappear over time.

Frequent colds

What else always worries parents? Of course, frequent colds! Toddlers, who practically did not get sick before kindergarten, are starting to visit the pediatrician more and more often. And this, of course, worries adults.

Why is this happening? The fact is that in the group the guys “share” infections, and the stress from a sharp change in the usual regime and environment, as well as the need to somehow contact with peers, weakens the child’s immunity. Then the baby unconsciously understands that when he is sick, he stays at home with mom and dad, they take care of him and pay a lot of attention.

Therefore, an integrated approach is needed! The first is to strengthen the physical health of the baby, the second is to teach how to cope with stress in a different way, not through illness.

And if everything is quite clear with the first point (to temper, spend more time in the fresh air, monitor the child’s good nutrition and quality sleep), then the second is a little more difficult.

To get rid of stress or reduce it, you need to understand the cause of its occurrence. The baby may not develop relationships with caregivers or classmates, have problems with nutrition or sleep, following the regimen or requests of adults. Having identified the cause, try to eliminate it. If it does not come out on its own, be sure to seek help from a child psychologist! Do not pull and do not expect that everything will be decided by itself, as soon as the child grows up.

Remember, you can leave your baby at home for a while if you see that he is not psychologically ready to attend preschool.

Self-service skills

Adaptation in kindergarten will be easier if the child already has self-care skills: eat, use the potty, wash and dry hands, dress. Yes, educators can help at some stage, but there is no time to do everything for the child. Even if there is a nanny in the group, it is not possible to spoon-feed and then wash and change all the children together with the teacher. Hence the constant fatigue and emotional burnout of teachers, which can worsen the emotional situation in the group.

Child’s self-esteem

Children’s problems in kindergarten also include psychological adjustment and difficulties with self-esteem.

At first it is very difficult for a child to be separated from his parents, especially his mother. Hence, self-doubt and fear, because the main protector and support of the baby is not around. Yes, the temperament of children is different, for some, parting with loved ones is not so painful. But no matter what the preschooler is: sociable or reserved, active or quiet, be sure to explain to him that he will not be left alone and his parents will always pick him up at the end of the working day.

It’s best to talk about specific actions, for example: “I’ll pick you up when you go out and sleep and eat.” This makes it easier for the child to navigate in time. Also, in the early days, try to be close to the group in order to be ready to immediately take the baby home.

Not all children know how to interact with each other, they cannot agree and play together. Hence frequent conflicts, possible isolation or aggression, tears and refusals to go to preschool. Therefore, it is so important to try to expand the crumbs’ social circle even before the garden! These can be group classes in developing studios, swimming, game centers. Even a playground can become a place to meet and connect with peers.

Don’t forget your own words! How do you behave when the child refuses to go to the garden, clings to your legs or arms and cries? Do you scold, say that nothing terrible will happen, thus not recognizing his experiences and feelings? Remember that your words affect his self-esteem, and therefore do not call the baby “crybaby”, “roaring cow” or something else, do not instill in him a sense of shame.

Be patient, be careful with your emotions, your son or daughter should feel loved and protected! And only parents can give it!

Contact of parents with teachers of the group

It seems that the child has adapted perfectly in kindergarten, got used to the regime, eats well, dresses himself, uses the potty, but the parents are not happy! Often the point is that adults have not found contact with the educator, do not accept each other because of the personal qualities of character or work methods.

You still have to interact, because moms and dads bring the baby to the garden and inevitably collide with the staff of the institution. Tensions and disagreements accumulate, and then result in a conflict, as a result of which children most often suffer.

We see two solutions – an open conversation (better in the presence of the director) or leaving for another group or kindergarten. Silence and denial of the conflict is not beneficial and always reflects on the child.

Tips for parents

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P try to create a favorable and calm atmosphere in the family
Acceptance, love, attention to the child’s problems, as well as support and hugs will help to quickly go through a difficult period of adaptation and instill confidence in the baby.

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