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My daughter currently goes there and she loves it so much. She is speaking so much more. She is learning so much as well. Everyone knows who she is. They have little classroom parties and the whole daycare is involved so much. At first my daughter use to cry because she had never been so daycare but when she did the teachers comfort her and it made me so happy I found a great place for my daughter. Thank you so much.

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wonderful place

I love this place. I never wanted my kids in daycare but, this place is so wonderful I don’t regret having them in it. If you have financial problems she will work with you as she has done with my family and I couldn’the to ask for a better place to have them, especially since they teach so much stuff and helped with my daughter getting potty trained and soon will be helping with my son. They know my children have epilepsy and keep a watch out for the problems with that. I can’tell wait to be able to see my grandkids go here later in life. This is such a wonderful place that has such great values and respect for god. Thank you to place of the teachers for being such wonderful people inside and out. I love you all.

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Love it

I absolutely love everything about the center. From the staff to the crafts. There is nothing better than picking your child up and they show you all the work they have done for the day. My child has learned many things. they always pray before meals and use manners. All of the teachers are warm and caring towards my child. If you have a bad review towards this center then you should probably take a step back and evaluate yourself. Thanks and have a blessed day.

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Not your average daycare

If you are looking for a childcare center where you put your child just to be “watched” while your at work/school this is not the one. Every teacher at this center is going to treat your child as if they were their own. I know without a doubt when I drop my daughter off every morning that she is loved. She has learned so much in the short time that she has been there. All of the staff are very welcoming and warm. I have never felt any negativity towards the children or other staff. The owner is an awesome person who will go above and beyond to help anyone out. I would recommend this center to anyone!

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This is the owner of Loves Childcare. I am very saddened to see the review listed below. I know who this person is that wrote this review. I was very good to this person and worked with the family to help with a payment plan to help them with their childcare–as I do with many families. This person owed me alot of money and we set up a payment plan and they could not even pay those payments. I am learning a lesson through this journey…but it doesn’t change the fact that we love all our children here and there is nothing we wouldn’t do for these children. Please don’t let the stupidity of this person sway from our center. IT is sad that people would stoop so low as to put something in reviews like this to hurt other people. I had to call the police on this person that wrote this to have them removed from the center because she was cussing and hollering in front of the children and her own child…now that is the sad part. If you would like to know about Loves Childcare….please come and visit us. We are located at 906 E. Main Street Haw River NC 27258…336-524-6161…I am going to copy this ugly review and share with my parents and ask when they have time they can share their reviews with us at Loves Childcare.

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I Love this daycare. It is clean, you can smell the cleanliness when you walk in the door. The staff is fun and friendly. I have been to several daycares and this one really make sure my kids have their homework done, my four year old is preparing for kindergarten their. He actually loves going to school, where in the past he would kick and scream when I left. Last but not least their is a coded entry, wow. In this day and time where we worry about our children safety when left at school or daycare, this really hit a home run. I really feel safe leaving my kid’s at Love’s Childcare. I would recommend to anyone. Thanks Love’s

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Phone: (336) 524-6161

Address: 906 E Main St, Haw River, NC 27258

Website: https://m.facebook.com/pages/Loves-Childcare/1421130111466394

LOVE’S CHILDCARE, Child Care Center

LOVE’S CHILDCARE

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LOVE’S CHILDCARE is a child care center in Haw River, Alamance County, North Carolina that welcomes your child and family. Sensitive, loving interactions with teachers are the active ingredients of high quality early care and learning programs. Children benefit socially, intellectually and physically from participation in quality group care experiences, with proven results that last into their school years. Quality child care/day care programs also involve parents—regularly telling you about your child’s daily activities, and sharing information about child development topics and activity ideas to enjoy at home.

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Is it normal not to love motherhood and a child?

Alpina Publisher published the book Parenthood 2.0, written by sociologists and anthropologists. We are publishing an excerpt about how parental love works and why it is normal not to rejoice in motherhood.

Parental love has recently become the subject of frequent discussions on numerous forums on the Internet, on the pages of magazines, on TV shows and on the radio. Spears are breaking around what can be called true parental love, what kind of love children lack, whether they can be spoiled by love, what dislike looks like and whether there is unconditional love for children.

This is an amazing and at the same time commonplace situation, because in the modern world there are a million possible life scenarios, and each familiar phenomenon has hundreds of images, and no matter what the conversation is about, it will not mean the only correct option. Especially if we are talking about parenthood, children and love. Here it is appropriate to recall the words of Jean-Paul Sartre: “We are doomed to be free.”

Today we are forced to create ourselves on our own, even if we do not want to, to independently form our social roles, emotions and feelings. Fathers may prefer childcare to career growth, mothers may choose to combine parenting and professional development, or even delegate motherhood to third parties. Love can be expressed through purchases and control, leaving out the usual communication. Yes, childhood itself can be very different. This state of affairs raises many important questions, the first of which is: “Does a person have instinctive parental love?”

From the point of view of evolution, the biological species that survives is the one that provides itself with offspring and properly raised them. Man is no exception.

But today among women – especially in developed countries – we observe an ambiguous attitude towards the idea of ​​\u200b\u200bbearing children and dedicating life to them.

This does not come from hardheartedness or from the fact that modern women do not have developed instincts. This attitude towards the parental role is facilitated by modern methods of contraception, which allow you to postpone the “happiness of motherhood” for a long time and implement other life scenarios.

However, arguments are often heard about the unnaturalness of not wanting to become a mother, and women’s confessions that they could not love their children look completely marginal. So is there a maternal instinct at all?

The Russian ornithologist and blogger Wolf Kitses notes: “People are looking for instincts for about the same reason they used to look for an immortal soul: in order to, by appealing to them, make us sit still, work for those who have money, and listen to the fabrications of their representatives about that “this is how nature wanted it, and why is none of our business…”. A variety of hypotheses have been put forward about the biologically determined love of mothers for their children. Some believe that such love exists from the very beginning, and it “starts” during childbirth and nursing a newborn, others refute this idea.

Modern mothers themselves sometimes confidently separate love for a child from dislike for caring for him and for the process of childbirth. Here are quotes from women from one discussion on Facebook:

“You can love a child, but at the same time not want all this negativity associated with motherhood, and regret that you went through it.”

“The child I gave birth to is still a separate person. And what happens to my hormones, body, etc. during pregnancy and motherhood, he is not to blame, although in some way he is the cause of this. The person I gave birth to is not equal to me. Therefore, if I don’t like being a mother and performing some functions, this does not mean that I don’t like the child I gave birth to.

Israeli journalist Orna Donat, in her book Regretting Motherhood, analyzed the stories of women related to the last taboo in our society, where it is easier to talk about your non-traditional sexual orientation than about the fact that you never managed to love your own child.

Most mothers interviewed by Orna say they love their children but hate motherhood. That is, we are not talking about negative feelings towards children, but about repentance in the life choice to become a mother. Most often for mothers, this is due to the feeling that children are stealing their life and independence, destroying their personality.

One thirty-eight-year-old heroine of the book brings up an important topic that has become a trigger for discussions on Facebook:

“I would choose a life without children. It’s terribly hard to admit because I love them. Very. But without them, my life would please me more.”

Is it possible to love your children, but not love motherhood, doesn’t one contradict the other? Another woman says:

“I regret becoming a mother, but I love my children. If I didn’t love them, I wouldn’t want them to exist. And I want them to live, I just don’t want to be their mother.”

As you know, animals have a parental instinct – this is a tool that allows you to keep a couple together for many years, rallying them with care for offspring. And the cubs are conceived by nature as tender and weak in order to support in their parents the desire to take care of them.

Evgenia Timonova, a video blogger and popularizer of biological science, claims that similar mechanisms work in people. This statement sounds reasonable, but many researchers refute it, believing that analogies with animals in relation to people are inappropriate. After all, man is a spiritual being, and many complex institutions, such as culture and social structure, determine our life. An instinct is a mechanism that, under similar conditions, causes living beings to behave in exactly the same way.

At the same time, maternal behavior in representatives of the same species of higher orders of mammals can differ significantly. Even among the same individuals, the attitude towards their different children is not the same. There are persistent individual differences between females, each has its own characteristics of maternal behavior, justified by biochemical and psychophysiological grounds. Some of them are based on biology, some are based on learning.

Anthropologists and sociobiologists (first of all, the American Sarah Blaffer Hrdy) studied motherhood as a compromise between the needs of a woman and the needs of her child on the material of human populations. They also studied the behavior of animals, including higher primates, – after all, from the point of view of sociobiologists, there is much in common between them and man.0003

A lot of interesting facts came to light. For example, the fact that animals do not abandon their children is a myth. More like throwing!

Animals get rid of their young under unfavorable conditions, which include not only starvation, overpopulation or hostile environment, but also, for example, malformations in offspring.

And the younger the mother, the sooner she decides to save not the life of the cub, but her own. Such patterns, albeit in an indirect form, are also manifested in people.

Of course, things are still more complicated in people’s lives, individual differences are even more pronounced. They are associated both with specific bio- and psychological properties, and with the social conditions in which women raise a new generation.

Motherhood is a complex behavioral construct that includes both biological drives and social norms of behavior learned during life. And since the quantity and quality of the accumulated experience of each woman is different, as a result, for some, maternal feelings “turn on” immediately after birth, and motherhood is easy, while for others everything happens later, and for some, motherhood is a burden, and love for a child so it doesn’t come.

It is hardly possible to argue here in terms of the norm and going beyond its boundaries: each mother has her own resources and limits of what is possible, different motivations and social skills . These skills, resources, and motivations must be seen in the context not only of maternal behavior, but of all aspects of a woman’s life, which are also only partly socially conditioned.

It is hard for mothers who have decided to build a career and not go on parental leave, but after the birth of the baby, they felt that strong maternal feelings woke up in them. They have a colossal load, tension due to the contradictory nature of their aspirations – it is huge and can lead to depressive states.

It is also not easy for women who planned to go on parental leave, but their love for the newborn baby never woke up. However, in this case, the lack of feelings for a woman can be compensated by her socially approved behavior towards the child. Over time, from everyday life filled with endless worries, love and affection for the baby can grow.

Sacred maternal love. Many women are supported by the attitude towards parental love that they see in world religions. After all, our emotions, feelings, ideas about normal and abnormal are in many respects a construction that relates not so much to real events, but to their interpretation, to which we have been accustomed by society since childhood.

World religions say this: it’s not scary if the feeling doesn’t wake up in time. The family is the school of love, so little by little everything can be learned. The attitude towards the variability of love is very important: after all, love for an unborn creature is one thing, and for a teenager it is another. You need to learn to love in new conditions and in a new environment, and in fact, every time a new person at a new age.

Each child born in a couple renews the family, relationships, reveals the human qualities of the parents in a new way. Over time, the “competencies” of love grow and help to find peace of mind, harmony. We learn to love a person not only in health, but also in illness, in old age, and even on the verge of death.

Losing the ability to love from the point of view of the Orthodox religion means falling ill, falling, losing paradise. The Old Testament commandment says, “Be fruitful and multiply.” “God gave the joy of marital fellowship so that people would continue the race. Therefore, it is natural that when a husband loves his wife, he wants children from her,” say Orthodox priests. They believe: if a woman lives with the belief that sooner or later love for a child will awaken in her, this will happen. Such a view of the world is not alien to sociologists either. It is reflected in the theorem of Isaac Thomas, which states: “Any phenomenon perceived as real is always real in its consequences.”

And yet, for some women, the attitude promised by religion to motherly love (as an inevitable feeling) causes tension, because everything is completely different for them. As a result, they feel like outcasts. You have to be very brave to write on the women’s forum: “I don’t love my child” or “I don’t want to have children.”

Romantic love , as you know, is irrational and can arise where it is not necessary, and where it is very necessary – not to arise.

Previously, a woman did not choose a husband for herself – others did it for her, after which life developed according to the scenario “be patient-fall in love. ” When a woman had a feeling not for her husband, but for another person, society severely punished her for “lawless love.”

But social principles could not make a woman fall in love with the unloved. And if we talk about love and dislike for children from the same positions from which women have long been talking about love and dislike for men, then love itself should decide who and when to come.

“What exactly is the problem with dislike? How can you blame her at all? Isn’t love, by definition, “falling on by accident”? Or it won’t. With children, everything is the same: love may simply not happen. It is a great exaggeration to believe that a mother always has it automatically for her child. No, everything here is the same as with love for a man or woman.

And yes, many then simply follow the path of “be patient and fall in love”, because a divorce with their own child is not provided.

While in the case of an unloved adult, many consider divorce to be the most correct way out of the situation. And I have long noticed that people are ready to understand a lot – even such monstrous things as killing their own child in a state of passion from fatigue. And for a simple dislike for him (even when performing all parental duties), the mother is considered a monster. But they don’t tell how to create this love by order. No, you are a monster, they will beat you with whips, and then you will love your child like a pretty one. (From a Facebook discussion.)

It might seem that allowing women to speak out publicly about their dislike of their children would help reduce their stress. But what happens if such statements receive significant support and spread? There are many theories explaining how value systems change in society. They help to understand how things that were unacceptable yesterday are gradually becoming the norm.

For example, according to the theory of modernization, humanity is becoming more tolerant of human behavior. Along with it, there is the theory of post-materialism by Ronald Inglehart: from his point of view, the values ​​of individualism and self-affirmation in developed societies are gradually becoming more important than the values ​​of collectivism and material survival. There are concepts of individualization of the life path, the hypothesis of the second demographic transition, during which for men and women the values ​​of personal development become more important than the values ​​of creating communities, such as the family.

In any case, the value system of any society is not set once and for all. What was the norm for Europeans in the 1950s, they themselves changed in the course of the left-wing “consciousness revolutions” of the 1960s and 1970s. As a result, ideas that seemed unbelievable entered life. Take, for example, homosexuality, which in the middle of the twentieth century was considered a shameful deviation. People hid their homosexuality, which sometimes drove them to suicide.

Homosexuals were transformed into “normal people” by barbaric methods. One of the most striking examples is associated with the outstanding scientist Alan Turing. At 19In 52, he was accused of committing “gross obscenity”. Turing was offered a choice between hormonal therapy, which suppressed libido, and imprisonment. The scientist preferred the first, and in 1954 he died of cyanide poisoning. Many years after Turing’s death, in 2013, Queen Elizabeth II apologized to him. This could happen because in the second half of the 20th century the values ​​of society changed radically.

Scientists began to study homosexuality in a comprehensive way and found that it occurs even in animals. The opinion prevailed that this is not a disease, but a variant of the norm that cannot be condemned (we do not condemn people for eye color, for example). Many famous people began to come out, publicly confessing their homosexual orientation.

If similar changes take place in the value system of motherhood, a lack of love for one’s children may become a variant of the norm. Before, fifty years ago, people were afraid to say out loud that they did not like children. Having said such a thing, they would have received a flurry of condemnation and the stigma of “bad people” from those around them. But today everything is changing drastically.

Will society get better or worse from these changes? It will become easier for specific women who find themselves in a severe depressive situation due to the fact that their love for a child has not awakened.

There may be effective mechanisms to help them and their children. But such an approach can deprive someone of the chance to grow a feeling of love in their soul. After all, if there is no love and this is a variant of the norm, then you can not try and not hope.

However, as Heinrich Mann said, the habit of love is like a rope. We twist it day after day, one strand at a time, and in the end it becomes so strong that it cannot be broken.

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Alpina Publisher

Why being childfree is okay

February 24, 2021

Life

Living without children is the norm, but because of your choice, you have to endure a lot.

Some hundred years ago, the quality of contraception was at such a level that the rule “if you have sex, you have children” worked. A sexually mature person without children was either sick or completely unattractive as a sexual partner or spouse.

Of course, you should feel sorry for such a person, advise him of some remedy and secretly rejoice that this cup has passed you.

Relatively recently, we have learned to control our reproductive system without harm to health. And then childfree appeared, which broke the centuries-old pattern.

It turns out that this is possible! Living without children is no worse, if not better, than with them.

Who are childfree

Childfree means free from children. In Russian, there is not even a complete analogue of this word. The childless are all people without children. For example, those who could not become parents for various reasons, but would like to.

And childfree are those who do not want and do not suffer from it.

Childfree are not similar to each other, although they are trying to somehow classify them. The most famous (because the first) researcher Jean Veevers divided childfree into two groups:

• rejectors are those who do not like children;
• affecionados are those who are simply fine without children.

Now they are more divided into childfree and childhait (hating children).

No one knows how many of them. In general, there are from 5 to 30% of the childless, depending on the country. But it is unrealistic to count the ideological childfree separately, because it is necessary to separate them from those who were prevented by circumstances from having a child. Yes, and the position of a person can change: in one of the studies, people were interviewed with a break of 6 years. And a quarter of the respondents have radically changed their views.

Why do they do it

The main reason is that they don’t want to. Why exactly, everyone decides for himself. There are many options.

Freedom. Parental responsibilities must be carried out until the child is 18. This is in theory, in practice – all his life. You can’t brush aside a child, run away for a couple of days. Even if you leave the child to your parents and drive off to a desert island without communication, you will have a child.

Responsibility. Not everyone wants to take care of themselves and their child. Someone is not confident in their abilities, someone simply does not like responsibility in any form. And this is the right approach: if a person does not want to take obligations, does not know how and is not going to fulfill them, then there is no need to carry an unbearable burden. Not sure – don’t overtake.

Money. Children are expensive, sometimes very expensive. The stories of families in which children were born in spite of meager finances are the best contraceptive and visual propaganda for childfree. Someone cannot afford the maintenance of a child, and someone loves their standard of living more than children.

Career. Especially for women. Childcare is still a woman’s business: 13 to 47% of mothers do not work because they need to look after children. A woman is generally taken seriously only if she has given birth.

More and more women are career-oriented. But even when applying for a job, HR is interested in when the girl is going to give birth. It’s okay. Personally, I was not asked only at one interview – in Lifehacker. All other interviews were held with the obligatory “when on maternity leave?” or “when for the second?”. Those who plan to build a career are increasingly deciding that they will never. Undoubtedly, there are wonderful women who can do everything in the world. And there are those who cannot and choose a job.

No career. Children mean a steady growing income because as they get older, so do expenses. A person without children can afford freelancing, odd or small jobs, work for food in a volunteer camp.

Qualities incompatible with children. A child’s cry makes my head hurt. Due to the difficult nature, it is impossible to negotiate. Because of the aggression, it pulls to start a fight. Unresolved psychological problems do not allow you to sleep peacefully. The list of reasons “why not to become parents” has dozens of items. As one of my acquaintances said, either children or alcohol, and each one made his choice.

Fear. There are many fears: childbirth, pregnancy, status changes, changes in relationships, financial difficulties and hundreds of myths surrounding childbearing. Try asking the women’s team a question about how it is to visit a maternity hospital. The stories will be such that Stephen King will seem like a good bedtime story.

Why childfree people unite

People without children have formed diverse communities since the 1970s because they have to defend themselves. Public attitudes do not have time to change; for many, “without a child” is still sick and unfit.

If family planning remained a private matter, there would be no need to find like-minded people and share sore spots. But children’s affairs are not considered personal.

Absolutely all my friends are asked about children (girls are many times more often). The question “when will you give birth?” many generally perceive it in the same way as “what time is it?”. Tactless, but it’s reality.

Actively minded childfree people are sure that they are oppressed because they live in a “child-centric” society, where children and their parents are allowed everything and at the expense of the childless, of course. For example, the tax deduction for a child is considered analogous to the unfair tax on childlessness. For such childfrees, association is a way to advance their views and achieve changes in laws.

Why they don’t like childfree

People with children fight people without children, these battles are verbal and mostly take place on the Internet. In terms of content, they are more like clashes between fans of iPhone and Android smartphones. It is useless to convince a person who does not want children how great it is to have a “masik”. But the war cannot be stopped.

Let’s be honest, there is a lot to dislike about childfree.

• For the demonization of children and parents. In communities, the disgusting behavior of children, fathers and mothers is discussed. Moreover, it is children who are considered the cause of rudeness. As if a child is a magic wand that turns a normal person into a pig, for which the world revolves around the baby. This is absolutely not true. But many people believe that children are peddlers of stupidity.
• For slang: all these “larvae” and “ovulators”, among which “adequate children” are allowed to exist, really offend the feelings of anyone.
• For labels: it seems like all children are unfortunate people who can barely make ends meet, regret their decision and suffer from lack of freedom.

Childfree wouldn’t take rubbish out of the hut, there would be less negative. But it’s boring, and wars rage on different resources. That is, they don’t like childfree people for exactly what they reproach others for: for trying to get into one’s own business and teach everyone to live right.

How not to talk to childfree

If your friend, relative, colleague or neighbor is not going to have children and you suddenly find out about it, do not try to drag him to another camp. Most of the arguments in the argument are meaningless. Below is a list of forbidden phrases that childfree hear every day.

• Children are happiness. Happy parents will never understand how you can not want children. Happy childfree will not understand why children are needed at all. Happiness is not achieved by the number of children, there are other ways for this.
• You’ll regret it later. Actually, what difference does it make to you who will regret what later? The absence of children is the choice of every person, and wishing him the pangs of repentance is at least impolite.
• What about procreation? Childfree doesn’t care about procreation, that’s obvious. And you should not give a damn about someone else’s race.
• When you give birth, you fall in love . And if not? To endure all life or to clean back?
• We will die out like mammoths. Taking into account the overpopulation of the planet – no.
• Children are natural. Naturally, but not necessarily. To agitate for the birth of unloved and unwanted children is a particularly perverted form of fascism and detonation. There are more than 70,000 orphans in Russia, and 180,000 dysfunctional families. There is no need to increase these numbers.
• All childfrees are crazy. Well, that’s nice, isn’t it? Abnormal genes will not be passed on to subsequent generations.
• And who will bring a glass of water in old age? Social services, carers, friends. Yes, and not the fact that you want to drink.
• God gave a bunny – he will give a lawn; God will punish; God commanded. In a secular state where the constitution guarantees freedom of religion, this is not an argument.
• All childfree people are selfish. As if there is something bad in healthy egoism.

Is being childfree a good thing?

Being a childfree is normal.