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Happy Feet Child Care – Care.com Indianapolis, IN Child Care Center

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Happy Feet Child Care in Indianapolis, Indiana is a ministry-based Child Care provider that can accommodate a certain number of children. Their curriculum seeks to provide a high quality, nurturing, fun and safe learning environment that is appropriate for the child’s overall growth and development.

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Ms. Andrea’s Happy Feet Child Care Inc. Home Preschool – Brooklyn, NY 11233

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Ms. Andrea’s Happy Feet Child Care Inc. is a clean and nurturing environment where your child can learn and grow. At our home daycare, we focus on teaching children social, emotional, and behavioral skills to ensure your child’s development. We offer programs for a wide variety of ages from 0 months to 12 years. We look forward to hearing from you! Please contact us to schedule a tour for you and your family.

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I have been caring for children for more than 12 years, and I create an environment where children are happy, confident, and independent.

With my professional experience and certifications in First Aid and CPR, I’m highly accomplished in teaching both educational and intentional play activities designed to develop children’s’ psychological, emotional, behavioral, and social skills.

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Why children can annoy and how to deal with it

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Sometimes irritation occurs even for no apparent reason. We talked with psychologist Lilia Ismagilova about why this happens, whether the child’s bad behavior is always to blame, and how to deal with negativity.

What you will learn

  • Why children can be annoying
  • What to do if you feel irritated towards your child
  • What to do if there is a noisy child nearby and this brings discomfort
  • How to deal with aggressive parents
  • How to deal with

  • if an unfamiliar child is rude
  • What to do if your child causes irritation

Why can children be annoying?

Irritation can be caused by anything and anyone, including a child, and often the root cause of unpleasant sensations is the state of an adult. This is where the problem usually lies.

Physical ailment. If a person is tired after a hard day’s work, he has a headache or he regularly lacks sleep, and a baby is crying nearby in transport, of course, this will cause irritation. Similarly, he can be annoyed by light, a strong smell, or some other noise – simply because the person is not in the resource.

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Lack of energy. Mature people often have less energy than children, so turmoil, mobility may seem out of place.

Unresolved problems of childhood. A child can be annoying when it reflects a person’s inner problems. For example, an adult gets angry watching a naughty boy who cannot walk on a string and does not associate this feeling with his childhood. And the reason may be that in childhood, his parents forced him to behave quietly, not to stick out, not to make noise and not to show himself at all.

Lack of parenting experience. If a mother early sent her child to a nursery or to be raised by grandmothers, with the advent of grandchildren, she simply does not know what to do with them, because she did not receive a full-fledged parental experience. This can cause embarrassment, irritation, and sometimes guilt that a woman does not remember how her own children grew up.

Other values. If our principles of upbringing contradict what we see in others, this can also cause irritation. For example, I was annoyed when a relative’s daughter came up to the table during dinner, took a fat pancake and walked with it around the rooms. I understood that her mother then removed greasy stains on the walls and furniture, but it seemed to me that it was easier to raise a child so that he would eat strictly at the table.

Contradiction to stereotypes. For a long time in society, it was believed that motherhood is hard work, which is associated with restrictions. It was normal for the mother to be on a strict diet, doing laundry by hand, sleeping little, not talking to anyone, and not complaining about anything. Now more and more often you can meet a young happy woman. She knows how to enjoy parenthood, goes in for sports, creativity or something else and does not look exhausted. Often her husband also helps her, and they have a healthy, contented child. Such happy parents can be annoying – simply because another mother did not have the opportunity to live like that.

Dislike for children. Quite rare, but it happens. Children do not touch everyone, and then excessive lisping can be annoying. There are people who are simply indifferent to children. There were many cases in my practice when a woman gave birth to a child to be like everyone else, because she got married and her husband wanted to. But the feeling of warmth for the child did not arise. And the child of such a parent became deeply unhappy, as he felt unwanted and unloved. His mother could give him nothing but irritation.

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What to do if you feel irritated towards your child?

If irritation is caused by malaise or fatigue. The easiest way out is to take care of yourself and not put yourself under stress: choose a taxi or a car instead of public transport.

If you don’t like the fact that a friend’s or relative’s child spoils your things, and you can’t avoid spending time together, then it’s better to meet on neutral territory. For example, on a playground, in a park or a cafe.

If a friend of a child who often comes to visit irritates, it would be appropriate to set boundaries or say the rules of your house: “I’m sorry, but it’s not customary to swear at us.” This does not mean at all that you will re-educate him, but he must understand that such behavior is unacceptable in this house.

If other people’s children do not touch and do not cause special awe – this is normal. The most acceptable option is when a person realizes his attitude towards children and chooses a profession, hobby and, in general, a life not related to children.

It also happens that one’s own grandson irritates, and one has to nurse him. In this case, you should admit this to yourself and his parents. To solve the problem and not injure the child, you can offer parents to use the services of a nanny.

What if there is a noisy child nearby and this brings discomfort?

Children can objectively cause inconvenience: making noise, dangling their legs in the bus, hitting passengers sitting nearby, running around the clinic. There are many different cases, and it is impossible to choose a single recipe for responding – I will describe several behavioral strategies that can work.

Accept that the inconvenience is temporary. For example, recently a girl of about four hit me in a transport with a plastic snow shovel. I didn’t feel pain. I looked at the girl and realized that it happened by accident. She put the spatula away and didn’t hurt me anymore.

Sometimes you may meet a baby in the transport who cries loudly, the mother does everything to calm him down, but it doesn’t work. He may cry because, for example, he wants to sleep, eat or drink, he is stuffy. There are many reasons, and it is inappropriate to get annoyed with a child for this. Until the age of three, it is difficult for a child to explain the norms of behavior. But it is often appropriate to try to distract the child. If you have experience of communicating with children, you can offer your mother your help.

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Contact your parents. I’m not saying that a child’s inappropriate behavior is always worth putting up with. For example, if you have a long trip on the train, and the child of your neighbors in the compartment is constantly fidgeting and throwing your bag off the seat, you should not be silent. It is appropriate to contact the parent to resolve the issue, but it is worth doing this in the most polite and friendly manner. For example: “I don’t like my things falling on the floor, please ask your child not to throw them off.” If you start a conversation in a rude way, you can hear the same rudeness in response.

Show example. This method works if your child is nearby. Let’s say you are walking with a friend, she also has children. See how her child picks up some objects from the ground and plays with them. It annoys you. Then you can tell your son or daughter that you should not do this, because it can be dangerous. At the same time, it is important that the child who does this also hears your speech. But to refer to it directly, of course, is not worth it. So you will not re-educate another child, but at the same time show him how to behave. Most often, this works and does not affect the relationship with a girlfriend.

How to deal with aggressive parents?

Sometimes, in response to your polite request, you can hear a flurry of indignation. It also happens – parents may seem inadequate, but everything is not so simple.

The fact is that the views on education in general have changed. For example, in the Soviet years, any adult could approach a child on the street and make a remark, even scold him for bad behavior – this was considered normal. Now this is not accepted, and such interference can irritate parents. That is, the lack of general norms of education in society is a cause for tension.

It should also be taken into account that parents, more often than mothers, face a discrepancy between expectations and reality. Social advertising broadcasts a message to women: “You give birth, and the world will be happy!” In fact, the mother does not see this joy and understands that not everyone is ready to unconditionally accept her child. Cognitive dissonance occurs when beliefs and attitudes in a person contradict each other. After all, a woman does “good” and for the good of society, but this very society has an ambiguous attitude towards children, which can also cause aggression.

If you find yourself in a conflict situation, and requests do not work, I advise you not to get into a fight, but to turn to someone else for help. For example, if a child runs around the carriage at night and laughs, you can ask the conductor to talk to the mother.

What if a stranger child is rude?

It is not necessary to endure, but your reaction should depend on the age of the child. It is important to understand that your goal is not to re-educate someone else’s child, but to defend your own boundaries. Therefore, there is no need to get personal and evaluate the child. For example, say such phrases: “You are bad”, “You are a bully”, “You are mad”. Instead, evaluate the act: “You call names, it’s unpleasant for me”, “You behaved rudely by taking away the toy.”

If a three-year-old kid said that you are bad because they asked you not to touch your things on the table in a cafe, you can smile and ask: “Why do you think I’m bad?” Sometimes the answers of children at this age are discouraging in their spontaneity, and it is quite easy to translate the dialogue into a joking form.

An older child, for example, six or seven years old, can already be explained how his actions and words affect others: “When you make such a noise, a baby in a stroller can be scared”, “When you shake your leg, you can hurt me and dirty my jeans, and I’m going to visit and I don’t want to be dirty. ” Most often, children understand such explanations.

What if your child causes irritation?

First of all, it is important to recognize that you have a right to negative emotions. This does not make you a bad parent.

It is the mother who most often suffers from this, especially in the first years of the child’s life, when she has to be alone with him in a confined space. Lack of time for yourself, proper sleep and rest can cause irritation.

You can help yourself in the moment by breathing deeply or taking a warm foot bath. When the peak of irritation has passed, you can drink a cup of hot chocolate or tea with something tasty, take a warm bath. Walking helps a lot to get some fresh air.

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In the long run, it is important to build your life so that taking care of yourself becomes part of it, and the new mother is not left alone with the child around the clock. It is necessary to delegate duties and periodically leave the child to the husband, grandparents or other relatives, and if they are not there, to the nanny.

Irritation often occurs in mothers of older children, for example, schoolchildren, since the modern education system implies the inclusion of parents in the educational process. Moms often have to control homework, worry about tutors to prepare for the OGE, the Unified State Examination. If we add cares about everyday life and self-realization in society, it turns out that women are under a huge burden – “triple employment”.

Exaggerated expectations from the child also contribute to irritation. If a mother in her childhood dreamed of becoming a ballerina and selflessly takes her daughter to classes for the second year, this does not mean that her expectations will come true. It is also dangerous to constantly compare a child with other children. At the very least, this is harmful to relationships: the child will begin to rebel against this or become isolated, which will provoke even more irritation in both.

It is important for mothers to understand that the image portrayed on social networks and on television about the canons of successful motherhood is often unrealistic. Behind the picture of a successful mother who raises three children, runs a business and is actively involved in sports, there is usually the work of many assistants, and it is not yet a fact that this picture is true. Sometimes you just need to stop following fashion trends and stereotypes, listen to yourself more and be in emotional contact with your child. Then there will be less irritation.

In addition, often children are exhausted and exhausted no less than mothers. If you enroll a child in six circles, you can not only discourage him from striving for something, but also lose an emotional connection with him. Perhaps it is worth reducing the load on yourself and the child in favor of joint leisure – and this will improve the well-being of all family members.

Fathers can get irritated too. It often happens like this: mom takes care of the child and life, and dad at this time works and does everything to provide for the family. He gets tired at work and comes home, counting on rest. Children may demand attention, but there is no particular mood for global games.

If the father’s basic needs for sleep and food are satisfied, he should think about the importance of communication for children and think about the ability to fool around. It is useful for children to see not only fatigue and severity, but also childishness.

Do not force yourself to play a game that you do not like, as the child will feel it, and you will quickly get bored with it. I suggest fooling around together: blow soap bubbles, make frogs or paper airplanes, float a homemade boat in the bath or make sandwiches in the shape of funny faces, play catch-up or shoot games with soft toys. Such activities are very close.

Mom should not get annoyed at such games. They perform an important function in the creative and physical development of the child, since the father forms the image of a man and is responsible for what this image will be.

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Overprotection of a child: what causes excessive parental care of children

0039 VALERIA MEDVEDKOVA,

Educational content specialist in Russian at Foxford,
transactional psychologist. Knows everything about hyper-custody

A good example can be seen in Irina Grekova’s story “In the Car”, where the main character is the boy Donat, who lives in the “Valley of Terror”. So he calls the constant tedious notations of his father, who does not beat or call names, but speaks in such a way that it becomes clear: the father does not respect his son, does not see a personality in him, puts him in his own framework. As a result of such upbringing, the hero feels disappointed in life as a person. The father’s behavior is hyperprotective. Although at first glance nothing bad seems to be happening, in fact the child does not receive care, care, in tune with his needs. Instead, there is a lot of unnecessary, unimportant, stupidly edifying, which prevents him from being himself: a young, smart, inquisitive boy.

In psychology, there is a concept of an existential position — beliefs based on a life scenario. Psychoanalyst Eric Lennard Bern put forward the idea that at an early stage in the formation of the script, a small child already has certain ideas about himself and the people around him. These ideas remain with him all his life or may change. There are four types in total:

  • I –, you +;
  • I am, you are;
  • I +, you -;
  • I +, you +.

People who act like Donat’s father have formed the position “I +, you -“. Because of this attitude, conditional Donations can either have the position “I -, you +”, or “I -, you -”.

Causes

Most often, mothers and grandmothers who have psychological difficulties suffer from excessive care:

  • lack of love and understanding in one’s own childhood, which becomes in some way a compensation for the mistakes of one’s own parents;
  • perfectionism as a desire to be an ideal parent of an ideal child;
  • a way of self-realization in the format of compensation for failures, for example in a career;
  • feeling of guilt because of rejection of the child as he is;
  • horror of growing up , fear of being alone in old age;
  • desire to get attention , even from your own baby.
  • In a separate category of hyperguardians can be identified mothers who have been waiting too long for the birth of a child or who had difficulties during pregnancy or childbirth . Their excessive care is due to physiological instincts: endure, save, survive.

    Whatever the motives of the parents, they bring up the child by passing on their prescriptions. Children absorb everything from an early age, when there is neither logic nor criticism. These prescriptions become the life principles of the next generation.

    Varieties of hyper-custody

    There are four models of hyper-custody:

    • dominant when all the actions of the child are under the total control of mom or dad;
    • indulgent when parents fulfill any whim;
    • demonstration , when all actions of an adult are aimed at maintaining the image of the family in the eyes of other people;
    • inert , when the limitations of the parent cause a lag in the development and socialization of the child.

    Overprotection can be useful when a child is in a difficult situation and cannot take care of himself, for example, he is sick or under extreme stress. In such cases, total control and over-care are important in order to put a person on his feet in new conditions. But in an ordinary, stable life, all this leads to the suffocation of the ward in the literal sense: the child lives, breathes, functions quite well, but feels that he is cramped, since he has no free will, desires, manifestations at all, or a narrow corridor is left in those framework that pleases the hyperguardian.

    Escape from criticism. Pere Borrell del Caso. 1874

    Consequences of overprotection

    For a child:

    • self-doubt;
    • infantilism;
    • selfishness;
    • asociality;
    • inadequate self-esteem;
    • unformed household skills;
    • inhibition or disinhibition;
    • inability to make decisions;
    • fear of mistakes;
    • shyness;
    • excessive aggression;
    • increased desire for independence;
    • dependence on someone else’s opinion;
    • rebellion.

    Parent:

    • irritability due to expectation-reality mismatch;
    • conflict;
    • feeling “Only I’m doing at least something here”;
    • increased feeling of fear;
    • dependence on the approval of others;
    • inadequate assessment of the child’s actions;
    • selfishness;
    • fear of mistakes.

    Healthy care can be distinguished from exaggerated care – care is dictated by love. I really like the definition given by Erich Fromm: “Love is an active interest in the life and development of the object of love.” It is necessary to think not only about saving the life of a loved one, but also about his constant development.
    And hyper-care, as we have seen from the examples, does not allow development in a direction that is consonant with the needs of the ward. Therefore, the line passes where there is conscious love. I love? Am I interested in child development? Am I ready to help? Or am I ready to strangle with love?

    How to get rid of the consequences of parental overprotection in adulthood

    • Go to a psychotherapist. The process of destruction laid down by the parents, as a rule, is not fast.
    • Read books about overprotection and mental health.
    • Ask yourself questions: how do I feel now? What caused these feelings? What can I do about it? How can I help myself?
    • Try not to wander around the Karpman triangle: not be a Rescuer, or a Persecutor, or a Victim. It doesn’t matter from which peak to start the path, there will still be movement through all until there is a way out of this psychological game.
    • Work on your position. Gradually come to “I +, you +”.
    • When working on yourself, you should definitely try to understand your parents. Why did they live, think and feel like that? What influenced their childhood? This work will help you let go of resentment.
    • Forgive the overprotectors so you don’t have to bear the weight of their injuries.

    How to understand to a parent that he is an overprotective

    Here are a few statements that you can agree with, and then this is a “wake-up call”, or refute:

    • If your child, who has no disabilities, is not self-supporting for his or her age.
    • If the child has no household duties and you do everything for him.
    • If you often reinforce your actions and decisions with the words: “It’s too early for you, you’re still small!” Without trying to explain the reasons.
    • If the baby is wrapped up on the street and he is objectively uncomfortable: sweating, uncomfortable to move.
    • If you feed him more than he wants.
    • If you project your fears onto current situations in your baby’s life.
    • If you communicate with a child not by age, but as if he is younger.

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    with baby.

    But you can try to cope on your own. Here are some rules.

    • Find out if caring is excessive

    There are situations when a grown child may think so, although your requests are based on some legal facts. For example, children who have not reached the age of majority must be at home at 22:00. Of course, such a requirement on the part of parents may seem excessive. But that is the law.

    • Try to understand what makes you behave this way and not otherwise: real threats or old fears

    For example, grandmothers and mothers of older age often overfeed their children, remembering the hungry years of the wars, the lack of food during perestroika. For some, the trauma of hunger is inherited and seems to be encoded in the genes.

    • Stop doing everything yourself

    Entrust something to a child. At first, he will be bad at it, but this is not a reason to scold. On the contrary, it is worth praising competently and not redoing it with him. If required, redo when he does not see.

    • Learn to listen and hear your child, his fears, his experiences

    Be emotionally competent in a conversation with a child. For example, step-by-step instructions can be found in Claude Steiner’s book Emotional Literacy.

    • Find a place for yourself and your hobbies in life

    Over-care, as a rule, takes away all possible free time. It’s worth taking it back.

    • To understand that the process of separation (separation) is filled with anxiety

    One must learn to live with this anxiety and take responsibility.

    • Recall that a child is a separate person

    A mother is not equal to a child, just as a child is not equal to a mother.