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Don’t you love it when your baby gives you a big goofy smile every time he sees you? Or squeals and coos whenever you snuggle together? Or calms himself by hugging his favorite binky when he’s upset? Of course, you do! You’ll be amazed at all of the life and interpersonal skills your baby will build as his social emotional development advances between 3-6 months. Social emotional development refers to your baby’s ability to experience, express, and manage his emotions and behaviors, and his ability to establish and maintain positive relationships with others.

How 3-6-Month-Olds Flirt Their Way to Building Relationships

Learning how to develop meaningful and positive relationships is a fundamental social emotional skill your baby will need to develop to succeed in life. Why? Because building relationships is what allows him to make friends, offer help to those in need, and cooperate with peers at school and at work in the future.

“But how can my baby begin to build relationships when he’s only 3-6 months old?!” you may ask. Simple – by flirting!

At 3-6 months old, don’t be surprised if you see him gazing at everyone around him, trying to attract their attention with his big drooly grin and the twinkle in his eyes.¹ He’ll find ways to reach out and entice you and others to play, even though he may be stuck in his infant seat. He’ll relish in having face time with you, staring sweetly into your eyes as he chats you up with his babbles and squeals. He’ll also become more interested in watching other children play and may respond by waving his hand, making noises, or reaching out to touch their face, hair or hands if approached by another child.¹

How to Support Your Baby’s Social Emotional Development

As your baby matures into an active infant, he is learning how to communicate in different ways so that he can connect with people in meaningful ways.² You can help him develop strong relationship building skills by reciprocating his playful coos and gestures, having positive daily conversations with him,¹ and taking him to playdates or the park so that he can observe and interact with other children.³ And don’t forget that you are one of your baby’s biggest role models! Be sure to show him how to create and maintain positive relationships by being friendly with him and others, and treating everyone with respect and consideration.

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¹ Maryland State Department of Education (2010). Healthy Beginnings: Supporting Development and Learning from Birth through Three Years of Age.

² Florida Partnership for School Readiness (2004). Florida Birth to Three Learning and Developmental Standards.

³ Washington State Department of Early Learning (2012). Washington State Early Learning and Development Guidelines: Birth through 3rd Grade.

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How to understand that they are flirting with us?

“Flirting can be confusing, and we don’t always read the signals our counterpart sends correctly,” said Teresa Didonato, a social psychologist and professor at the University of Maryland. – Often a person is afraid of being rejected and therefore flirts with us not directly, but indirectly: he tries to be very attentive, tells something funny, jokes. And leaves us with the question – what did our interlocutor mean?

A study done at the University of Kansas shows how well we actually recognize when someone is trying to flirt with us. Psychologists observed how strangers communicated with each other for 20 minutes. After that, the subjects shared their first impressions. And what did it turn out? nine0003

1. Physical attraction. The more we are attracted to a person of the opposite sex, the more willingly we begin to flirt already at the first meeting. However, as a rule, we keep a sober view of things. In other words, even if we like someone very much, we do not see in his politeness a hidden hint that he is interested in us.

2. Men and women make mistakes equally. The vast majority of people do not realize that they are being flirted with. So, only 18% of women guessed that men showed them special signs of attention. Representatives of the stronger sex showed a slightly better result – 36% were able to determine that women wanted to please them. In most cases, flirting was simply not recognized. nine0003

3. People are better at not flirting. The fact that they communicate only friendly, without any sexual overtones, was noted by 83% of women. And this is quite consistent with the intentions of the interlocutors. Almost the same – 84% – the result was shown by men. In other words, both sexes very soberly assessed the friendly disposition towards them, without trying to pass it off as a manifestation of special interest. However, they showed complete naivety in a situation where they really tried to flirt with them. nine0003

“It’s good that we share a friendly disposition and romantic interest even when we like the person. However, due to the inability to recognize romantic signals addressed to us, we run the risk of missing a potential loved one and passing by our love, ”says Teresa Didonato.

1. Observe the movements of the body. In a certain context, smiles, long glances, leaning towards your body or head, as if accidentally touching your hand, can indicate a special interest in you. nine0003

2. Pay attention to what the other person says. Still, we trust words more and with their help we better recognize the desire to please. So if you want your signals to be read correctly, compliment them.

3. Choose a meeting point. If you’re in the mood to flirt, go to places where you can casually chat with strangers: clubs, bars, parties. If it is also an interest club, the “ice” will melt even faster. nine0003

“Unconscious attraction acts to any nearest object, even regardless of gender and age,” says Jungian analyst Lev Khegai. “But at the same time, there is also suppression due to socio-cultural prohibitions. So even the thought of flirting may not arise. However, if the situation permits, then the suppression is less and thoughts reach consciousness.

I adopted a child

These girls are happily married, have a child and not even one, are building a career, go to fitness. In short, they lead a very ordinary life. And yet there is one difference – they all raise adopted children.
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These girls are happily married, have a baby and not even one, are building a career, go to fitness, flirt with colleagues via ICQ, are going to learn another foreign language and try a new diet from Monday… In a word, they lead a very ordinary life. And yet there is one difference – they all raise adopted children.

– Nifigase! says a friend I haven’t seen in a couple of years. – You? Why?! I thought only aunts under forty, tired of being treated for infertility, do this… Or lonely horror stories like Katya Pushkareva! Wow!
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Then I take out a photo of my children from my wallet, and he, like everyone else, confuses Sanya with Andryushka, because such an irony of fate: the adopted Andryushka looks more like me than the “home-made” Sanyok born under the heart.

“You’re a heroine,” he says confidently. “That’s so… noble.” I’m proud of you! – Then a stingy male tear dims his eyes, and he repeats: – You are a hero!

But I’m not a hero, that’s for sure. Heroes don’t slap their kids on the butt. And they don’t scare them with a bang for pouring damn plum juice over the entire salon. They don’t force them to sit quietly while their mother writes an article, they don’t dream that on weekends children will be attacked by tetanus at least until nine in the morning. And the heroes would definitely take the children to the park more often than once every two weeks, and not hurriedly walk around the house with them in the evenings, justifying themselves with work and a new movie on DVD. In general, I’m not a hero. Just like Alya, Zhenya, Yulka and our other acquaintances who have “thematic” children. I consider myself the most ordinary mother. It’s just that one child appeared to me differently from the other. So what?
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ALEXANDRA MAROVA, journalist

Some time after the birth of my first child, I went to the maternity hospital to get acquainted with a good neonatologist, who was recommended to me by the head physician. I caught him signing some documents. Seeing me, the doctor shook a stack of sheets in the air: “So many refusals this week…” In films, there is such a trick when you want to convey the shock state of a character: the camera abruptly “runs into” his face, and the viewer feels that in the soul of a person shock happened. This shock for me was the existence of abandoned children.
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Then, after the birth of my second child, I was lucky to meet mothers like me: they sincerely believed that their maternal instinct, multiplied by enthusiasm, could bring real benefits to babies left without parents. On the forum of the site sibmama.ru, we began to meet and plan our volunteer activities: collect things, toys and diapers, come to visit children. Today, we have already turned into a real public organization, which everyone knows as “Sibmama”.
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Of course, at first everyone is afraid to take that first step and end up in an orphanage. I, too, when we were transporting the first batch of sliders bought with the money collected by the “sibmums”, repeated to myself like a spell: if only no one met, if only no one met. I saw typical pictures like this: children stick around you, look with wistful eyes, call you mom, and as one ask to take them home… Nothing like that! Ordinary kids run around, just like in kindergarten, they don’t care about you, they play, have fun, laugh. We began to try to come there more often to play with children, read books to them, take them to the zoo or cafe – and just tell them once again how wonderful they are! And I noticed my Diana for the first time in a photograph. Once, with my mother, we were looking at the pictures taken during the next visit, and my mother suddenly sighed: “What a beautiful girl … Maybe you will find out about her?” I looked and… I realized that I had disappeared, – my daughter was looking at me from the photograph, who for some reason, suddenly, through the stupidity and absurdity of fate, was separated from me. I started to correct this absurdity.
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My husband and I passed the health commission. I must say, it’s okay, it’s not harder than the one that passes when obtaining a driver’s license. They showed the representatives of the guardianship authorities their apartment. We had some doubts about how our “not quite white” salary would be perceived, but everything worked out too: we convinced guardianship that our joint income with my husband would allow us to support one more child.

Contrary to fears, my husband and I did not encounter any red tape or obstacles. On the contrary: as soon as the employees of the institutions that we needed to visit heard why we were collecting documents, they immediately found the opportunity to do everything as quickly as possible. And they even gave a lot of useful advice: how to reduce the time for preparing all the paperwork. We really wanted to take Diana before the New Year – to arrange a holiday for ourselves and her. But, alas, it didn’t work out. It turned out later, and still it was a real holiday.
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I bought new clothes, arrived at the orphanage, and a “support group” was already waiting for me there – girls who worried about us, helped, followed the events. We dressed up Diana, went to say goodbye to her group, drank symbolic glasses of juice with the leaders of the orphanage and went home. I remember when we got into the car and Diana snuggled up to me, I felt like the happiest mother in the world. On that day, it really was like another child was born to me. Absolutely similar sensations to those in the maternity hospital!
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YULIA YAKOVLEVA, bibliographer
On the same New Year’s Eve, when Alya was picking up her Diana, eight-year-old Yulin Anton asked Father Frost for a little sister.

“My dad and I laughed: they say, Santa Claus, of course, will think, but do not hope that this will happen too soon. We have been thinking about the second child for a long time. But after eight years after the first birth, it is difficult to decide to change your life again. For those mothers who take shorter breaks between children, it is probably easier in this sense. In general, I kept procrastinating, kept finding reasons for myself why this should not happen now.
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Once I took part in a matinee for children from an orphanage. For a long time I doubted whether to go. After all, there must be so much grief, such unfortunate children must be… No, I can’t stand it. Someone else, but me, sentimental, sensitive, who even switches the TV when they show stories on similar topics, I definitely can’t help but burst into tears on the threshold. And then what’s the use of me? What performance? All this was almost immediately forgotten, as soon as I got there. How many pretty girls and boys are there, smiling, affectionate, almost homely. The sharp far-fetched pity passes, the desire to do something good for them remains, to come to them, squeeze, take them for walks.
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Naturally, in the evenings, I would tell my husband what interesting things had happened there during the day. To be honest, I never even thought of offering him to adopt a child. Firstly, we have not yet decided on the second one, and we don’t have any special conditions – we move every now and then. And I also knew that my husband would never and never allow me to even hope for it. A rational man, sometimes even tough, he once simply stunned me: “Maybe we’ll take someone? Who do you like?” And immediately memory threw up Mariska – the very first girl I met there: completely bald, in a red dress with polka dots. Why she? I do not know. But I invited my husband to look at her in the photographs, and he immediately liked Marisha. Then I realized that all this is really happening, we are really taking the girl from the orphanage and gaining our daughter… Those were days of incredible happiness. Another pleasant feeling was mixed with the joy of Marisha’s appearance: once again I was convinced how wonderful my husband is and how close we are. The next time we went to the orphanage together, and we also took Anton with us to meet our little sister. Recently, by the way, Anton said: “Mom, we have chosen the most beautiful girl!” She is truly a beauty with us, blooms more and more every day, even curls have appeared.
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The biggest discovery for me was the attitude of those around me. My child evokes so much friendliness, tenderness, warmth in them! Half of the acquaintances immediately admitted that they were also thinking about adoption. Marisha is a real “direct mail” for them: you can see up close what wonderful children are waiting for their mothers and fathers in the orphanage.

A little afraid of idle curiosity and astonished questions “why do you need this?”. There are questions, of course. But basically this property: oh, what, you didn’t succeed on your own? At this, I laugh that we will also give birth to our own, and maybe not one. They also ask about health, because there is such a myth that in orphanages all children are completely sick and mentally retarded. To which I say: Mariska is absolutely no different from children who are born in families. We don’t ask meticulously in the family room: so, what is sick? We just take it in our hands and go through life together.
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EVGENIA SOLOVIEVA, President of the public organization

“When my child was born, I walked around Paris as a carefree tourist and looked into other people’s strollers. When he was alone in the hospital, I splashed in the Mediterranean Sea, promising to bring my third baby to him next year.

I knew that I would have a boy, and yet I was wrong. Thinking about our child, we had in mind the belly-maker who was in me at that time, and did not guess about the already born baby, for whom all these months were excruciatingly difficult.
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We didn’t feel anything. We were happily expecting our third baby… The euphoria ended at the next ultrasound. The doctors whispered for a long time, then pronounced a verdict: “The fetus died, the pregnancy died.” What happened next, I can’t remember, I was like under water – no feelings, no pain, no emotions … ”

This is how my story about Matyusha begins on the website of the Day of the Stork organization of adoptive parents, which I now lead. Those who have experienced this represent the extent of my despair. It was the confidence that our child still exists somewhere that helped me, my husband and our older children to defeat him, we just need to find him!
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Matyusha was found in one of the orphanages. Most of all, I was afraid of the choice: how can you see someone and not take them? Everything was decided by the confidence of the head physician: “There is just one for you.” This is where the search ended. It’s like giving birth: in the maternity hospital, you also take the one they put on your stomach, and you don’t ask to see your neighbor.

Several years have passed since Matvey appeared in our family. This is a terrific baby: gentle, beautiful, interesting. This is such happiness – our third!
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To be honest, we thought about having three children. But the topic of “children without parents” captured me so much that my small travel company was sold and a public organization of adoptive parents was opened in a former business office.

It began as a meeting place for those who have adopted and who can help others to do so. But the effect did not slow down: by the end of the year, it became clear that twice as many Novosibirsk residents had adopted and taken care of children.

It can be said that thanks to this work of mine, one-year-old Tosha appeared in the family. How did we meet? I was at a photo shoot in the orphanage, somehow in a special way my heart skipped a beat at the smiling little blackie. But work is work, I began to actively look for the parents of the “cupcake”. And the parents were found – a young pretty family with a blood baby. However, as often happens, when the adoptive parents came to the orphanage for him, literally on the way to the group they met a girl who became their daughter.

And Tokha… In general, the second time the documents were collected easier, everything went without drama and nerves, and a month later we had four children, and those parents with the girl became our friends.

Of course, we all shrug our shoulders in bewilderment when we talk about the fashion for adopted children. What can be said here? What fashion? How can you put superficial, momentary, ostentatious things and a child side by side? A kid whose fate crossed with yours once and for all. Not to play, not to shine in society, not to feel like a fashionable mother, but to educate, love, heal, console, teach, help to cope with troubles. In general, live. It seems to me that in this sense we can talk about a good trend: society is beginning to take an interest in those who have been hidden behind the walls of social institutions. Society begins to understand: only then can it be considered healthy and normal when every baby grows up in a family. After all, he has a right to it, right?
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USEFUL ADDRESSES

www.7ya.ru – the site hosts a popular conference about foster children.

www.aistday.ru – the site of the Novosibirsk city public organization “The Day of the Stork”.